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The Fear of Success

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

I've been sparking now for over two months. A couple of weeks ago I realized that I was "plateauing." But honestly I wasn't, I just wasn't following the plan as diligently as I should have been. As I analyzed what was happening, I realized that I was afraid. I was not afraid of failure, because so far the plan was working. I was afraid of really being successful. If I was successful then I would not have an excuse for running the half marathon with my cousin next summer. I wouldn't have an excuse for hiding my spectacular personality at the next singles activity. I wouldn't have an excuse for getting on with my life! I realized that I have sabotaged myself my whole life--not because of the fear of failure or rejection--but because of the fear of success.

As I came to this realization, I remembered one of my favorite quotes. Most people attribute it to Nelson Mandela because he used it in his inauguration address, but it's actually by Marianne Williamson:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

So as I recommit myself, I hope that this journey will carry me out of the darkness to a place where I can more fully embrace my own light!
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    Love this quote! You can do it!
    4213 days ago
    This is definitely giving me something to think about and an area I need to work on.

    Thanks for the timely reminder.
    4326 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/30/2009 8:05:16 PM
    This is an awesome topic. I appreciate this reminder that "We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us."
    Ladies we all want to succeed in our minds but this is heart stuff. I won't get too deep but some of us know what it is to have our light snuffed out by loved ones. Whether it was a betrayal or just plain ignorance it doesn't change who God created us to be. I believe the apprehension and lack of confidence comes from knowing that when we welcome and embrace the manifestation we will recognize that our clothes aren’t the only things that no longer fit.

    I’m preaching to myself too, LOVE YA!!!
    1 Peter 2:9
    But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.
    4327 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/30/2009 11:25:02 AM
    Very inspiring - and it's soo true for me - fear of success! Thanks for helping me reflect on this and make those changes in my own life. Congrats on how far you've come - and are truly headed towards genuine greatness. I appreciate your thoughts!
    4328 days ago
    Great Blog!

    Very well stated.

    Keep foced and together we will reach our goals.

    4328 days ago
    Well written. I have that quote on my Spark page. I think I need to read it more often. I think fear of success may be greater for some of us than the fear of failure.

    Keep on moving and you will get there.
    4328 days ago
    Wow! I'm glad I stopped by. Beautifully said!
    4328 days ago
    Wow! What an impressive blog! I love the quote.
    4328 days ago
    Times going by pretty fast isnt it! Its good to take stock of your program like that! Right on girl!
    U take care!
    BLessings in Christ sis!
    Mrs. K
    4328 days ago
    This is awesome!! Thank you for sharing. It really does open my eyes because recently I had the same fear.Keep up the great work!!
    4328 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/29/2009 1:54:41 AM
    thank you for posting this quote. i think it's great... i especially liked this line, "There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure about you."

    also, you bring up an interesting topic in your post that i've thought about myself. i think it's something to definitely keep exploring. keep working out and you'll get there.
    4328 days ago
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