My parents have seen me "diet" and now they see I have changed my life
Friday, August 28, 2009
I am very serious about this. (I did not mean for this to get long)
My parents arrived on Wednesday. The last time they saw me was in June at my highest weight. The same weight I was the day that I delivered my son. Weight I had lost and regained in the 3.5 years he has been alive....diet after diet.
I was anxious for their arrival. I did not want them to sabotage my efforts unknowingly. I wanted to be in control. To do this took some time in preparation for their arrival.
Last weekend, I seperated the cabinets into different sections so that I, and they, could easily access foods. I have a "snack" bucket for my son. He can have one snack a day. A packet of raisins, a granola bar, a pack of oatmeal. I also have some poptarts that I will no longer be buying, but they are in his bucket for now if he wants one.
Over the weekend I prepared family meals for the next week and a half. I made 8 "Fix,Freeze,Feast" meals, had 2 fresh meals ready to prep, and since we have been invited to 4 parties in the next weeks, I did not prep meals for those days, but have plenty of "light" meals in mind and in stock. I have one starch in mind for each of our sit down meals and plenty of frozen vegetables so we have lots of options. I went to the Farmer's market this AM and will be having fresh local corn with our grilled chicken tonight. My parents can use tortilla wraps along with their meal if they wish.
I will not be deterred from eating the way that makes me feel the best. But, I wanted to make sure my parents were also comfortable in our home and did get some items I know that they enjoy---(just a few)! Bagels for my dad, Mom's favorite cereal and Ice Cream that they can share with our son.
Last night, I made the mango curry porkchops (sparkpeople recipe) with a side of rice and a freshly made broccoli slaw with apple and pecans. THEY DEVOURED IT and LOVED the meal. I was so proud! No one left "stuffed", but my mom assured me that they were satisfied. I was worried that eating "light" would bore them, but I got the opposite reaction.
I know they notice changes in our home and in my life. My mom said "are you losing weight"? I think under old circumstances, this would have hurt my feelings that she did not notice the kind of dramatic difference I notice in myself! (I've already given away 2 bags of clothes!)....But, I did not take it personally. Maybe it was good that she really didn't realize how obese I had gotten, right? I think my height hides a lot. I wore my "baggy" work pants today. Maybe she will notice when I see her after work!!!! I thought the people who saw you everyday notice weight loss less than those who see you every several months? In her defense, my weight has been a roller coaster the last couple years. The poor thing is probably in a time warp!
I want them to see that this way of eating is the way my little family WILL be eating. This is our life now and since I enjoy it so much, there is no reason to stray from my plan. Hopefully, they will see the kinds of fresh foods we will want to eat when we come to visit them. I think this has been a good experience. I don't know why I was so paranoid about my own family. I guess because they have witnessed me "fail" so many times before....I did not want to hear ANY negativity from them whatsoever.
My parents are retired "food scientists". I have not made a big deal out of the fact that I actually am not eating foods requiring a food scientist degree, LOL!
I am writing this blog to remind myself that I need to give the people around me a little more credit. Everyone wants to see me succeed. Everyone wants me to feel wonderful. I worry too much about the comfort of others even when it comes to food. I created a gourmet meal, it looked as if I spent hours in the kitchen, and my parents loved the food! I am also writing this to remind myself that I don't need to eat a lot of food to comfort those around me or make them feel welcome in my home. I don't need second servings to show that I enjoyed the food given to me anymore!