Dealing With Anger
Saturday, May 16, 2009
Week 8: Day 5
"My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent, and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you." James 1:19-20 (NIV)
"Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret - it only leads to evil." Psalm 37:8 (NIV)
Anger is a dangerous emotion. Feeling anger is not wrong, however the way in which you react to anger can be very destructive. It is vital to learn to control your feelings and re-direct them into positive attitudes.
Anger can present itself in many ways including bitterness, envy, resentment towards others, jealousy and gossip. Feeling angry when someone or something has "wronged you" can be justified and the way you respond says a great deal about your level of self-control.
Anger, especially when it is uncontrolled, and its related emotions can greatly influence your eating behaviors. As you search for ways to "vent" your determination to remain committed to your journey begins to diminish. As your self-control disappears, the temptation to "give-in" grows. Do not let a moment of anger destroy your weeks and weeks of hard work!
You have chosen the journey toward the new you, this includes self-control in all aspects, even over anger. Allow your emotions of anger to be transformed as you become the person you were created to be.
Anger is a trap. No matter how many times you have allowed anger to defeat you before, today is a new day - clean - with no mistakes in it. God stands ready to supply all of the self-control you need. Ask for it - receive it - practice it.
1. Describe a time when you allowed anger to lead to overeating.
Two weeks ago I was fired from my job. I have not overate, per se, but I have not participated in my program at all during the investigation and since the firing.
2. How can you "release" your anger in healthy ways?
I find that when I am really upset I like to go to the gym and do a cardio workout. The emotional change in my body gives me extra energy and I usually am able to work harder and longer and afterwards things just don't feel as bad. Having done just the opposite for six weeks I have noticed that I am gravitating towards more sugar and less exercise and I can see the difference in the way my body and mind are reacting to everyday stresses.
3. How has your program helped you to respond rather than react to your anger?
I have learned to just absorb the negative information and process it on my time, allowing myself to quickly let go of what is not important and to determine what I can and can't change rather than making a big deal of a whole lot of little things that I can't do anything about. I have really held fast to the Serenity Prayer: "God, help me to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things and can; and the wisdom to know the difference."