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Mentally drained ...

Monday, May 11, 2009

I'm tired.

Why is it the people closest to us ... who know us the best can hurt us the most? I hate conflict of any kind and I don't like to have arguments and I can usually put up with alot before I speak my mind.

I recently said something to someone that has been bothering me for awhile ... not the best course of action to take. I have suffered greatly for speaking my mind, No matter how old I get ... I don't think I will ever learn ... to keep my mouth shut. The only person who was upset was me ... the problem was all mine apparently. I have suffered for 4 days for nothing.

I need to learn to keep some thoughts and concerns to myself. Put a smile on my face and learn to keep quite.

Rant over.

Off to bed spark buddies...enjoy the evening!!
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  • no profile photo CD2112467
    Sorry about all that! Time will clear it up!

    I used to live really close to Seattle! I cant wait to go back and see the sights and how things have changed. Have you been to the Puyallup Fair? That is what we are going back for! I can't wait!!

    I will be here when / if you decide to do something on the side...I can be a side dish...lol

    It's getting closer to the big day....!!!
    4211 days ago
  • no profile photo CD3248497
    sorry to hear what happened to you once you spoke ur mind. i will never tell you to not say anything when there is something on ur mind. that is the risk we take when we do say things that bother us. i know it doesn't alway work out the way we hoped.
    4213 days ago
  • ANGELA6981
    If you are anything like me you will replay it in your mind a million times.... what you said ....what you should have said... what you want to say now..... The list goes on and on. Don't beat yourself up over it!
    4213 days ago
  • KARBIE18
    It's a tough call, because, as some of the previous posters mentioned, holding it in can hurt pretty bad too. I rarely speak my mind, and I often wish I was more assertive. But when I have said what I've felt recently, the results haven't been all that great. Maybe the key is simply not to let other people get to us in the first place - easier said than done, I know!


    4213 days ago
  • SHAWNS3
    Hey you stuck up for yourself. Good for you! Anger is like gas.....it has to get out some how. emoticon

    If you feel it could have or should have been handled diferently i guess it is a learning experience for you!

    Good luck and stay true to you.
    4213 days ago
  • RENA1965
    Don't just walk away if people near you treat you like a doormate, sometimes they do it because they know it gets to us.. As long as you use solid facts to back up your arguement, don't loss sleep.. Peer pressure is worst when it comes from family... My family efter 4 years on this journey just don't go there if they don't want a reply that stings and hard..

    4213 days ago
  • TOOTIEMAMARN
    EEK! Sorry your sharing your mind turned into a negative situation! :( It's not ALL bad sharing your thoughts/feelings.......but sometimes it's WORSE if you bottle it up for awhile first. I don't know ANYONE who LIKES conflict (drama, YES, conflict, NO! ha ha ha!)....but unfortunately it seems to be one of those "givens" as long as you have relationships w/ other human beings. ;)

    Hope the differences get resolved & you feel more freedom to speak openly w/ this person. :)
    4213 days ago
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