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Wednesday, March 25, 2009

emoticon I am at the end of my rope. I think about my weight 24/7 yet I just keep eating. Yesterday my first grader told me a little boy in her class said " I saw your mom and she is chubby". Chubby is an understatement but cant I at least stop eating to not embarrass my six year old. I am worried my children are embarrassed by me, I worry my husband wont want to have sex with me and I worry that I will die (every watched Whats eating Gilbert Grape)?I tell my self I will just eat what I want and start tomorrow but tomorrow never comes. I love to garden and think this spring my weight is going to affect my gardening abilities. I have started walking monday and walked 2 miles monday and tuesday. Found this site in Womans World magazine and will try anything at this point. I am scared of surgery and money is tight so free has it's appeal. As Dr. Phil says "its time to get real" and I want to gain some control. Help!!
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    It sounds like you have hit an emotional wall regarding your weight and it sure sounds scary. but this first step, joining sparkpeople and CHOOSING to use the resources here, that is a mighty step in the right direction. Just making the decision to be healthier, to make healthier choices (for both food and exercise) is wonderful! Just remember that it takes amny small steps to move towards your goal...but you will keep moving forward! Start small , walking once a day whether it be for 5 minutes or 30 minutes...just get moving. write down your food in online journal. don't stress about the limits yet. first educate yourself on what you have been eating and then you can start to look at what changes can be made...can you substitute baked chips for regular or better yet eat some air popped popcorn, can you eat just two cookies to satisfy your craving instead of a handfull, choosing lowfat/skim milk instead of whole milk? And start drinking more water! This is a small change that is a big part of getting healthier. The next time you start to feel hungry, try having a glass of water first. often we interpret our bodies signals for thirst and water as signs of hunger. It becomes harder to decifer this message the more we turn to foods.

    You can do this. it will take time, and changes in your liefstyle. But it sounds like that is exactly why you have come here - to make a lifestyle change because what you are doing now is not helping you. the great thing about sparkpeople is that you go from thinking negatively about your weight and food to thinking positively about the good meals and snacks you have planned and how good you feel after every walk. : ) Changes will be difficult to make at first but eventually it will become automatic. You will get there. and we are here to listen and help.
    4406 days ago
    wow! Take a breath! With all that anxiety, you are bound to gain weight hand over fist! This is doable! We have a nice support group on VASparkers if you'd like to join our chat room post.
    Almost every study has determined that your first step should be to write everything down thaty you put in your mouth. EVERY MORSEL!! Start with doing that for a week. You'll be amazed at the content you'll find. SP has the nutrition chart, so use that. (it's free!) and watch your calories at first. BABY STEPS! It took you a while to gain it, it's gonna take a while to lose it. I was a size 22 when I started last January. With Weight watchers, and now Spark, I have lost a lot of weight and just bought a size 10 jeans! I NEVER had control of my weight. Make the choice....is it gonna be YOU/your life or food? Every bite, ask yourself, am I hungry or am I satisfied? When you are not eating for emotional reasons but simply to fuel your body, your focus gets somewhere else.
    Email me anytime! You can do this. You can.
    4407 days ago
    My brother calls his oldest (she's 5) "chubby". He doesn't mean it in a bad way, but I worry what effects it will have on her. She prefers to eat junk food rather than nutritious food, and I worry that she will wind up in the same boat as me one day.

    And Marie625 is right - we have to think of this as our new lifestyle, not a diet. And to quote Dr. Phil "we can't change what we don't acknowledge". I know that I will always have to be mindful of what I put into my body. But I also know that I can only worry about one day at a time. It won't be an easy road, but nothing worth accomplishing is ever easy. Stick with it and you can do it.
    4407 days ago
  • MARIE625
    You are right - tomorrow rarely comes. You've got to decide to do it today. Just make up your mind and do it. Sorry I sound like a Nike commercial. :) One thing that really helps me is calling it a lifestyle, not a diet. If I'm on a diet, I'm not allowed certain foods... but if it's a lifestyle, I can eat what I want - I just have to decide if what I want fits into my new lifestyle. For example, I'll eat cake on special occasions, but choose not to eat it on a daily basis because that's not the lifestyle I want to lead. Same for all the chips, ice cream and cream of something soups I used to eat. Another thing that really helped me was going "cold turkey" for 3 or 4 days to get a jump start on the new healthy eating plan. Since kicking the junk food habit, I've discovered that it when I do eat junk food now, it doesn't really taste that great and it just makes me want more. I had to go cold turkey with it and get it all out of my system so that I could begin to eat healthy. Within a week or 2 of kicking the junk food habit, I started noticing that carrots are as sweet as a candy bar. Peanut butter has enough salt in it to satisfy my salt cravings... Once you've kicked the junk food habit, you'll be amazed at how good healthy foods can taste. I sure was! I was also amazed at how much better I felt getting all the processed foods and chemicals out of my body. Even if I didn't need to loose weight, I think I'd continue this new lifestyle just for the energy eating well has given me.

    Best of luck to you. You CAN do it! Just make up your mind and do it - today.
    4407 days ago
  • BEFIT021
    First off, emoticon being so hard on yourself! You're here & that's a very good thing! This is a wonderful site with some emoticon tools & info. And the people are FANTASTIC!!!!

    My best advice is 'one day at a time'.
    ~ start by drinking your emoticon
    ~~gradually add in emoticon & emoticon
    ~~do cardio-walking is GREAT!
    ~~don't forget emoticon

    If you try to do it all at once, you're liable to get overwhelmed.
    And if you have ANY questions, feel free to ask!

    Good luck to you!
    4407 days ago

    You can do this! Believe in yourself!
    4407 days ago
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