I'm not a "big girl". I'm not "BIG BONED". I'm fat and out of shape!
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Why do we do this to each other?
Why do we tell fat people they are "big boned"?
There's no such thing as BIG BONED in the sense that most people use it. YES, there are different sizes of skeleton frames, small, medium, and large. I read that you can tell if you are LARGE boned if you can place your thumb and middle finger around your wrist and your fingertips don't touch. They don't. I have a LARGE boned skeleton. Sure thing.
But it is no excuse to have carried 100+ extra pounds of fat. Not for me, not for anyone.
My physical form is the result of the battle between my Commanche Indian and Scandinavian heritage. I'm tall. I'm strong. I have amazing cheekbones on a round face. Scandinavian heritage seems to often equal a big fat Viking woman in pigtails singing opera and the Commanche has come to symolize a red skinned, rotund Diabetic culture. Just as they are neither stereotype, I am neither. I will not fit into any genetic predispositions or social stereotypes. Just as I know that I am strong and more fit than ever, I know that the vikings were incredibly strong people, albeit savages at times, and the Commanche were fit warriors in their prime. After all, if both groups are big fat people, how did they successfully fight other people for so long?
I'm trying to get over the lists and lists of excuses I have used for myself and the lists of excuses people have used for me. I am not just "big boned" and only becoming another statistic for my background. As "they" would like me to believe about myself, I am a "big girl" destined to be diabetic, fat, and out of shape.
I've got news for "them"... I come from a long line of fighters. Strong, tall, stubborn, fit, large skeleton-ed fighters.