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Working through depression over Divorce and trying to stay motivated!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Why does Divorce have to be so hard. I am trying to stay strong and get through this but it is so tough. I feel so alone sometimes that it is unbearable. I have found that walking during lunch each day with my weight loss buddy and then going to the Y at night has helped a lot to keep my mind off of it, but sometimes the depression just sneaks up on me. Today, is one of those days. I just feel so empty and hurt by this whole process. He just seems to be able to put me out of his life and not look back and I just can't seem to stop thinking about him. I know that I will get through this, I just wish it would get easier. Our divorce is scheduled to be final on December 2nd.

Thanks for allowing me to ramble on and vent.

I appreciate so much the friends I have made on sparks and the support is awesome here. It is so encouraging to read others stories of success. I too hope to one day be a success story in life and weight loss. LOL!

My daughter left for college on the 17th and she is having a great time and getting adjusted. She is coming home today and I can't wait to see her, unfortunately or fortunately (however you look at it) I have to go to a football game before I can see because my youngest daughter cheers for varsity. I am looking forward to spending some quality time with my family this weekend and getting some exercise in as well. Thank you all for helping to push me forward in this lifestyle change! emoticon
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    I know that "alone" feeling. My stbx moved out 5/31 (upon my request), but I still feel it. It comes and goes. The depression does, too. I've learned that I simply have to get through those low moments any way I can (crying, working out, making a phone call, writing). They get shorter and fewer and far between as time passes. I can't really say that they hurt any less yet, but they are less frequent. I'm not having bad days or weeks anymore, but bad moments. I'm not sure exactly why divorce is so hard, but I do know that it's reassuring to have spark friends like you to connect with. You can make it though this with faith and perseverance. You'll be in my prayers.
    4664 days ago
    Hey Sweet Friend.. I just now read your blog. I hope you had a great weekend!

    I'm so sorry you are going through so much. I know what you are going through. I was so alone and it seemed even my closest friends and family didn't want to be bothered by the sadness and difficulties in my life. I vowed to not assume someone closer is reaching out because they sure were not reaching out for me when I went through a divorce.

    Please consider checking out this website and finding a group near you... www.divorcecare.org It may really help with some understanding and not feeling like you are the only one going through this or feeling as you do.

    Hang in there and yes, keep working on you and what God wants for your life.

    here is a devotion I read this morning in a book called JESUS CALLING... it is written as though Jesus himself is writing me...

    Trust me one day at a time. Trust keeps you close to Me, responsive to My will. Trust is not a natural response, especially for those who have been deeply wounded. My Spirit within you is your resident Tutor, helping you in this supernatural endeavor. Yield to His gentle touch; be sensitive to His prompting.

    Exert your will to trust Me in all circumstances. Don't let your need to understand distract you from My Presence. I will equip you to get through this day victoriously, as you live in deep dependence on Me. Tomorrow is busy worrying about itself, so don't' get tangled up in it's worry-webs. Trust me one day at a time.
    psalm 84:12 and Matt 6:34

    od Bless you sweet Friend!

    4666 days ago
    I too went through a divorce. You just have to go through that pain. I cried, I even went out side and screamed at times, there are just so many feelings most of them not good at all. The one thing I can say honestly is that life gets better. There was a reason it didn't work and a reason things happen. Learn from the experience and one day you will look back and realize what a strong capable woman you are and that lifes hard knocks do really make you stronger.
    Good luck to you. I'm sorry for your pain emoticon
    4669 days ago
    Honey I feel your pain, that is so hard to deal with...I wish i could warp my arms around you and give you a big hug right now.

    Earlier this year I almost got divorced...it was a living hell, the emotions just take over and you dont know which end is up...for me I used all of it to fuel the fire inside of me...it was a roller coaster, each and every day.

    The DONE team really helped me get through it all, I have met so many amazing ladies on here and some true life long friends....they picked me up when I was down and taught me to put ME first...that I am worth it, at first it didnt sink in, but once I got what they were trying to tell me WOW!

    I know that is feels like the end of the world...beleive me I know...try taking all the negative to turn it to positive....focus on only YOU right now...YOU are so worth it...YOU are a DONE girl and we are in it to win it.

    I am always around to chat, listen and cheer you on....best of luck to you honey....have a great weekend

    4669 days ago
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