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Is Weight Loss Hurting Your Relationship?

The Real Issues and How to Address Them


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With my ex, whether I lost or gained weight, I was in the wrong. So I left him and the weight started to fall off... Now with my lovely very husband of 6 years, he wants us both to be happy and healthy, so we’re both losing weight! Report
Definitely interesting. It really does change relationships (If you let it.) Report
I thought this was a very, very good article, full of helpful information and insight. I didn't appreciate the negative viewpoints about it, since it covered many scenarios, and covered them well. Thank you! Report
Some good info. If you think it’s not going to change your relationship, think again. It could be for the best. My hubby wasn’t on board at first but he’s supportive now. He fluctuates. Report
This article is like all the others as far as "take what you need, discard the rest". Not all situations fit each of us and the dynamics of our relationships. Doesn't negate the writer's intent, doesn't mean she is wrong. SparkPeople delivers info to a huge audience of members. Try to appreciate what they do for us instead of nitpicking. Overall, great article. Thank you. Report
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It would have been better if this had been written by a psychologist, not a trainer. Most of these "why's" are just plain wrong. The first one where her family is worried about her is all about their fear for her. If they have never seen her at that weight, or she has lost weight rapidly, then a lot of people will jump to "eating disorder" fears in their mind. To them, she already looks healthy. So they worry (needlessly).

So many of these are wrong. The spouse usually isn't eating in front of you to deliberately sabotage you most of the time. They are just doing what they always have done. You are the one who has changed, not him.

Some spouses do deliberately sabotage, but to start from the assumption that it is deliberate is a good way to have a terrible relationship. Report
wow, yes, need family and friends willing to work with your plans Report
My husband was in the habit of ordering deep fried appetizers to share. I would take 1 and refuse more. Eventually, he would look at me and ask if I'd share an order. I'd say no but he could order and box leftovers. He doesn't order as often anymore. For Christmas he even got me a fitbit. How supportive is that. Report
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Ugh, I'm so glad I've never experienced this with a fellow. What an insecure fellow that would be! Report
If someone deliberately schedules a workout during a time previously used to spend time with their SO, I think the relationship is not so good in the start.

I also believe that when one diets, they should not expect everyone around them to eat diet food with them. If someone is eating chips and a dieter cannot eat chips, the dieter should find an alternative snack and leave the chip-eater alone.

As much as some folks like to believe that everything is all about them, it is not. Dieting is something one does for themselves, not something done to someone else. Report

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