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1/11/09 3:53 A

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I miscarried when I was only 18 years old. I was only about 6-8 weeks along, I didn't even know I was pregnant at the time. Although it was very emotionally upsetting to me at the time I know now that it was a blessing in disguise.
My older brother and his wife lost their first son when she was almost 6 months along, even though they lived in a different state it was still heartbreaking for everyone in our family.
It is such a hard thing to go through, I'm sorry for all those who have had to go through this as well.

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I lost on at 15 weeks back in 1983. My exhusband at the time wasn't very supportive of me as he didn't want a second child and all he could do was talk about having a vascetomy at the time. We then moved overseas three months after that. So I didn't have a very good year that year. We did eventually have another child. but we are now divorced. Miscarriages are never easy you have my full support!

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1/10/09 1:30 P

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Soo how are you doing now with the misscarriages?
Are you doing ok now?

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the comments were one of the hardest things for me to deal with too --- people didn't understand why I was mournng when I was "still" pregnant --- but just because I still had one of my children didn't mean I wasn't gonna grieve the loss of the other

I am sure they didn't mean to be insensitive --- but they were & it really hurt



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Thank you all for sharing!!! Please feel free to post here if you need to vent or just have a need to share. That is one of the reasons why I created this topic.

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1/9/09 2:24 P

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thanks, After my second misscarriage I prayed for twins and a month later I was pregnant, by my fourth month I already gained 18 lbs and dr checked for twins. We had ultrasound and sure enough twins!!
Next day I was scheduled to go to seminar "what happens when women pray". Got to share good news with them. It was after their birth I had third one and it was so painful. With my last child I also spotted and mourned the first 4 months thinking she wouldn't survive either, but she did. It may be why she is so emotional now though cuz I was so emotionally worried for her life. The pain does take time to heal. It was difficult to see all the pregnant ladies when I couldn't have any. Now I am
able to support and help others in thier grieving process.

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I'm so sorry someone said such an awful thing to you TweetyAnn....that is horrible!

Thankfully most people were supportive with me...but I think often what happens is in their effort to be a comfort, they can hurt us more.

(((TweetyAnn)))

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1/9/09 12:24 P

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I have been thru 3 misscarriages and each one was further along than the last one. It is very difficult since most people don't know how to respond to your loss and pain. No words are better than hearing "you are young and have years to have children why are you crying."

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1/8/09 10:04 P

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Every time I look at my 3 precious angels I realize how blessed I am. My heart always breaks when I hear of mommys and daddys whose little ones are in Jesus' loving arms. I've had 2 cousins both loose babies, the one was going to have twins and had that condition where her cervix just spontaneously opened at 22/23 weeks, nothing they could do. The other found out during an ultra sound that the baby never developed a brain. She did not carry it to term and chose to never try again, even though drs told her it would probably never happen again!

My prayers are with all of you!

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I feel for all of you who described losing a child. I have never been pregnant myself, but many family members have lost children, including one who chose to carry a baby to term even when they were told it would certainly die after birth--that was such a heartbreaking time.

I hope you can all take comfort in the support of others who understand what you are going through/have gone through, and even those who can't but still care.

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1/8/09 9:42 A

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I had a miscarriage February 14, 1990. She is my heavenly angel. I had a wonderful little boy the following March and then a girl in 93 and another boy in 95.

It was wretched experience. What I feel was even worse was the reaction from our friends and family. No one we knew had experienced it and so they're response was to 'leave us alone.' It was weird. I mean the whole thing was so long ago, but it had a bearing on how I handle this sort of thing.

I've always been really open about it and in the last 10 years I've come to find many women who have experienced miscarriages. Sure we go on, but we never forget. It IS nice to have people to talk to about it who can feel you without pitying you.

Debbye

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1/8/09 9:26 A

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I am truly sorry for all of your losses. I lost my little one in December 2006 and think of my angel daily. I am also one of the team leaders for the Mommy of Angel Babies Team on Sparkpeople. I find it very comforting to be able to talk to others who have gone through this as well...especially when you need to vent! If you are not a member of Angel Babies, I do encourage you to join.
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10 In his hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind.


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1/8/09 8:02 A

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I had a miscarriage December 23, 1998.....I still think about my little girl.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of us who know this heartbreak.... emoticon to us all!

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1/7/09 11:04 P

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My deepest sympathies to each and every one of you for your losses. Both of my sisters have each had a miscarriage. One of them learned exactly what happened to the baby, a boy, and her and her husband went through genetic testing and were cleared to try again as the the drs felt the Trisomy 18 was a sad fluke and nothing caused by them. I am proud to announce she is in her second trimester (crossing everything and saying lots and lots of prayers). We are all very cautious due to having had a loss before.

My second sister learned she has a mutant gene and will need to take a certain medication to compensate for the gene, but should be able to conceive again.

You all are in my thoughts.

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I have had three miscarriages after the birth of our daughter (now 10 years old). Sad that we could have had 4 kids by now but everything happens for a reason. We have one awesome kid!! We had never planned on having an only child but life is good and the way it is supposed to be for us. I wouldn't change my life for anything but I still hurts with the 3 losses.

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I had a stillborn daughter in March 1981...she would be almost 28 years old now and is our fourth daughter.

I had a beautiful son 15 months later...he is such a joy and I truly feel the Lord knows what He is doing, even if we don't.

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses...no matter how many weeks/months pregnant we were, we've all lost a precious baby and the possiblities of who they would become.

My Michelle Kathryn (named after hubby and I) has a star named for her and the company of many grandparents with her in heaven...I'll see her someday. :)

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my youngest child is 5 1/2 --- we tried for 7 long years before I FINALLY got pregnant --- she is such a blessing & I thank God for her everyday

about 12 weeks into that pregnacy I had a miscarriage --- it was so devestating & confusing!!!

We were so thrilled to have her but at the same time we were mourning the terrible loss of her sibling...

I had no idea there were 2 babies until I lost one --- & we never knew exactly why it happened

everytime she says she is bored --- or that she has no one to play with --- it just breaks my heart

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We will be keeping you in our prayers.

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I lost my baby at 11 weeks on July 22, 2008. The baby died a couple weeks earlier but I didn't know until I started bleeding a couple weeks later. We found out in Oct that we are expecting again. We are 15 weeks and pretty confident that this one is going to stick around for the long haul. Please keep us in your prayers that this one sticks and we have a healthy baby in June.

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I thank you all for sharing on this topic because it helps to know that you are not alone...when it comes to finding support, hospitals do have support groups for those who have gone through a loss from miscarriage however for myself I have found it helpful to share on sparkpeople...there is a team called Mommies of Angel Babies...and then to know that there are people in Wisconsin who have gone through this helps.

Please feel free to come in here and vent or talk whenever you need to to help you...we are here to listen!

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I have never lost a child but had "unexplained infertility" for almost 10 years. I cried every month that my cycle came because we had been trying. I would write in my diary that I was mourning the child that was not to be. It was devastating.

I am so sorry for your loss and your pain. There are never any words that someone can give you to ease those feelings. Keep working through it with your husband. Stay strong and take care of you!

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Lost a baby March 19, 2006....



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After reading all your messages it's clear to me all over again how "miscarriage" is a misnomer -you all lost children, you didn't just have a medical event that can be called a miscarriage. I too am sorry for your losses. I may have had one 20+ years ago, but at the time they told me they really couldn't tell.
Do any of you know if sources of support for people who've recently lost a child before birth? A friend of mine at work just went through this, and when I see the pain in his eyes I really wish there was something I could do to help him. He knows his friends at work are there to listen, but maybe he and his wife could use some peer support too.

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Sorry to hear about everyone's losses. I myself had one in '07. We are going to wait til after we get married in June to try again. But it's slim that i might conceive due to medical probs. Good luck to those of you that are trying.

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You have my sympathy, Boy my heart is going out to you right now! I have a big-o lump in my throat!
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I've never lost a child. I've never been able to get pregnant and I am glad I have that issue rather than having lost a child. I lost 2 foster children due to some very ugly circumstances and it nearly killed me. I can not begin to imagine what you are going through.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Thank you for sharing Cas...I am sure it was hard...i really want a child and really wanted the one we lost even though he was unexpected but not not wanted...we wanted him...we lost him the week after we found out it was a boy...we are going to be really trying again very soon...i miss him very much...he was supposed to be 1 last month right before Christmas...

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I had a miscarriage when I was 18 and again when I was 21. I didn't know about the second one until it happened. I feel that God makes these decisions for us, I guess I just wasn't ready to be a mom yet. I still haven't had any children and I am ok with that. I am still not ready for that journey. My first one would be 5 next month. I think about her and her daddy a lot. It was hard on both of us. They are never easy. Not to many people know about either one of my miscarriages. But I guess a lot more do now. Be strong it is hard, but we are here for each other!

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Thank you for sharing...it is still heartbreaking but I cannot wait to see him someday. I am sorry for your loss as well.

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I was 5 months pregnant when I lost my little boy, Eric. I know how heartbreaking this is for you. Just know that you will see your little darling some day.

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Hi Merilee,

Thank you for sharing...I just like to know that I am not the only one who have been through this in my area.

I cannot wait to see our little angel...

Also please feel free to email me if you would like to get-together with other sparkpeople.

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I lost a child at 8 weeks. It was supposed to have been born Feb. 2000.

Are you looking for encouragement? All I can say is that God has a plan for every little one and sometimes he takes them home to spare them, or us, alot of pain further down the road. When we see God we can ask Him.

Me, I'm looking forward to meeting my precious one when I get there.

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I am sorry for your loss...a loss is still a loss so thank you for sharing.

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I have been but that was like 15 years ago between my middle son and my youngest I was almost 4 months along and lost the child.

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Hello team...

I was wondering if any of you have been through a miscarriage and in the Wisconsin area. I have been...lost our angel at 4 1/2 months in july of 2007.

I am on the group on the original sparkpeople but would like to have a team closer to home.

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