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8/26/19 9:47 A

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For the brides to be need to keep more positive things about our self's and your mind need to be clear and open and ask a family member to step up to help so you don't have to be overwhelmed with other things that is what am doing for my self.

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11/6/17 10:44 P

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If my family would not attend because one sick person who can't control her illness alone was there then i would say screw them and have only a small ceremony with my husbands family and the sick family member!!! that would show them. Don't let peers (family or not) pressure you to be someone bad...stand up and show your backbone. end point.

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11/6/17 10:40 P

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Did you go through with not inviting your sister?
This saddens me to such a large degree. I have the same illness and if my sisters had of not invited to share the joy of the most important day of their life with them then I would have never forgiven them.
I know its 'difficult to handle' someone with schizophrenia, but so what. seriously! Its also difficult to handle a sibling who is a paralysed from the neck down and needs constant assistance to attend family functions but should we excommunicate them too just because we need to put in more effort.
I mean there is already enough ill treatment by non family to schizophrenics. If this poor girl can't rely on 'anyone from her family' to attend and watch out for her then I really hope and pray for an angel to intercede and watch over her.
Schizophrenia is a the most confusing mental illness of all and hardness on the sufferer. We need to stop blaming and start showing a little compassion for those people.
I am sorry this is so negative but it really makes me sick to think of a schizophrenic woman been abandoned by her own family and ostracized and forced to avoid family functions because they all don't have the decency to stand up and look past bizarre behaviour of the ILLNESS. The illness is NOT the person, and there is a really caring loving soul under that that outward demeanor of sickness.
Why are there still people in the world who have such backward and disgusting stigmas in their mind??? glory to god. God help them.

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9/16/14 10:06 A

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Thank you guys for your words of advice and support. We decided that it would be best that the person not be invited. No one would have looked after her and my family would not come to my wedding had she been invited. It is a tough situation, but that is life. I only have a couple of weeks before the big day and I know that I have made the best decision. I just hope that I won't miss her too awful much that day. I know that she will be very close to my heart. emoticon

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I'm sorry to hear about your difficult situation! Talk it over with your Finace, as you begin your lives together, it should be a decision made by both people. Let your heart and love be your guide. It has led you to this point in your life-so don't give up on it or yourself! Whatever decision you make, know that you make these decisions from a loving place and do not feel guilty. You can never please everybody all the time.

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5/6/14 2:10 P

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I have had members that were Paranoid Schizophrenic and I have been the "sitter" to someone that is Bi-polar, on a manic upswing... Not knowing the severity of the delusions it is hard to say what they will be able to handle on your wedding day, but if you really want them to be part of your day, and if you have someone that they trust that will be there, just put that person in charge of them. If it is part of your family there should definitely be enough people that have an eye out anyway. That is really hard, good luck!! Not sure if this was any help...

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5/6/14 1:46 P

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It is not my intention to bring the mood down, but I imagine that of the thousands of brides here, there is someone else going through this.
I am recently engaged and I have a family member who is mentally ill (paranoid schizophrenic). Although I would LOVE for that family member to attend my wedding, I do not believe it would be a wise decision. She is not on medication and does not think she needs medication. It is unlikely that I or anyone else could convince her otherwise or be willing to "babysit" her the day of the wedding. This has been on my mind for years and the fear of this situation had pushed back even getting engaged for some time. I would like to be able to be happy the day of my wedding without being overwhelmed with guilt. Constructive thoughts?

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