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11/20/19 7:23 P

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....just another nice nice day!
to be followed by another nice day since it shall snow tonight and we'll be hunkering down around the fireplace!
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BBBbeeeegg Hugs!

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11/20/19 3:36 A

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Hi Koshie.

I am also sore today as Moskito upped the weights and the number of repetitions. And our resting interval between sets has also been reduced, so abs hurt, shoulders are on fire and I have lost all feelings in my upper arms (slight exaggeration, but very slight only!)

The classes are going well, Thanksgiving is taking place the way you like it, a relaxing break with mum and sisters will be happening and you are handling Christmas way ahead of time.

Don't be suspicious. Just give thanks to God. Each and every day. And enjoy yourself.

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/19/19 10:16 P

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It must be painful to know how your sister is feeling. Your mum? Well, she IS clueless about all humans, so her not knowing what's going on with her daughter is par for the course.

I am sore today! We worked our core on Monday, and OH-my-aching-ribs!
There were 10 people at class! I haven't had that many show up in a long time! Felt good! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
I lead again tomorrow and I don't know how top what I did!

I completed the wrapping of gifts necessary to take along when I leave for my sister's home to celebrate big-family style Thanksgiving. YAY! emoticon This will save me a lot of expense and hassle avoiding shipping these gifts, and it just feels good to be ahead of the game this time of year!
And my sister Ritie invited my Mom, my other sister, and me to come with her to Aspen for 5 days. Apparently there's no plan other than to relax and enjoy each other's company -- and I'm definitely ready for that! Unfortunately I'll have to drive there, but it is just 4-hours away, so that should be just fine!

I don't know what's going on -- everything is going swell and smooth sailing and peaceful and easy.... should I be suspicious? emoticon

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11/19/19 5:38 A

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Doing well, my kawan.

My DD is doing much better than before - she's more calm about her injury and only has her down periods occasionally. She was down quite a bit just before and just after the surgery, but now, I can see her trying hard to dig deep for herself.
It has been almost 11 months since her painful journey started and I must commend her for trying to be cheerful about it. Throughout this period, her boyfriend has been the most supportive person I have ever seen in my life. Kudos to both of them!

The one who is a worry is my sister. Her blood pressure is up and it's clear she is unable to manage both her adopted children. The younger of the two children, a girl of 15, is verbally and physically abusive to her mum - and my sister refuses to do anything about it, apart from wanting to return the child to her biological mum! Which is kinda crazy since the mum has not seen her biological daughter from the start. My sister is also not quite lucid in her thinking process when she speaks and is therefore quite confusing, according to my cousins.
My mum has no clue about what's going on!

Everything else is going okay, my kawan. Thank you for asking.

You take care and have a good one, today. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/18/19 10:36 P

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How are things going with YOU?

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11/18/19 5:27 A

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How wonderful that you are not feeling stressed up. One huge step in the right direction towards your health maintenance. Well done, Koshie. You should be very,very proud of yourself.

I have Vishal's girlfriend and his old schoolmate coming over for dinner. So I am planning to scoot off home and finish the cooking with my Rosa.

You take care of you and a big HI to your very special manicurist!

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/17/19 11:11 P

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busy yes, but not stressed (YET!)! This is the first time ever that I've had time or been organized enough in advance to have the presents to wrap AND the time to wrap them!
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11/17/19 2:59 A

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You are going to be one very busy gal, my kawan.
Buying and wrapping gifts, getting the house ready and cooking.....WOW!! Make sure you take care yourself, get the others to do their part, and just HAVE FUN prepping!

Have a great Sunday. Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/16/19 1:34 P

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Yes!
And I'm getting a head start on my gift wrapping because I can hand deliver them on Thanksgiving.

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11/16/19 6:49 A

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Koshie, you are going to have a Thanksgiving and a Christmas exactly the way you wanted! Now, isn't that amazing...isn't God amazing...you get 2 wishes in the span of 2 months!

My dear kawan, it says a lot about you when others choose to WANT to come and spend Christmas with you, including the ex-wife. There are people out there who enjoy your company and appreciate all your efforts...and I hope this year, everyone demonstrates the appreciation by pitching in and making everything even better.
What a wonderful ending in 2019 for you!
And of course, come January.....I hope the glad tidings continue for you.

This is a wonderful posting today. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/15/19 9:11 P

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The fires ARE scary. It is amazing how far smoke from big fires can travel!

I DID shop on 11/11 (one store) and I am pleased that I found some nice things there that I can give as gifts. I've never gone out on Black Friday, nor shopped Cyber Saturday either. I've always preferred the family time.
THIS Thanksgiving will be more family --- we are traveling to my sister's home and will be gone for a week. She invited everyone and most of us are coming -- so she wrangled a "family discount" at a nearby hotel. I'm looking forward to seeing my siblings!

Also, it turns out we will be hosting a large family (MM's) Christmas also. I love large family holidays! It's just the 3 of us who live here, but we will be having 14 family members over. We've got the most space for gatherings. This will even include Ken's ex-wife! A bit of an odd situation, but I like her. And she actually hangs out with me while here!

Anyway, while the last few steps of this event were shaping up (first, one step-son asks if he can bring his family for Xmas, then the ex asked if she could come since all her children will be here, then Ken's sister and BIL are coming up to see their daughters who live nearby... and well, we might as well have them over too(!) AND their childrens' families...), I was told that my great-niece's response upon finding out about where she'd be spending Xmas was "Yippee! We're gonna have a NORMAL Christmas!" Thank goodness, she said the "yippee!" part, because I wouldn't necessarily know how to take her comment otherwise! I do like to decorate the house as lavishly as I can for Christmases -- and abruptly, I finally feel my efforts are appreciated! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
It's the nicest compliment I've had in quite while!

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11/14/19 5:53 A

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Hi Koshie.

Dhivia lives in Melbourne and the fires happened in Sydney. Too far away for her to feel any effect. Thanks for asking.
My girlfriend who lives in Sydney sent me some pictures and it's really scary. I suppose it's pretty much like the fires that broke out in California.

Did you get your gift during the 11/11 sale? Or do you plan to do the Black Friday one and the Cyber Monday sale? I keep reading about just how crazy this period can be....
Exercising like a emoticon will help you stay absolutely emoticon to complete all the purchases you need.

Have a good one, my kawan. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/13/19 8:56 P

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11/12/19 7:08 P

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yeah, we got a lot of cold going on! emoticon

I read the fires in Austalia are fierce -- how's Dhivia?

I'm trying to prepare for Thanksgiving and Christmas. Monday, DD and I did a little shopping and I'm pleased to be able to say that I found what I believe will be a gift happily received by one of my DILs -- and she is a particularly tough one!

Otherwise with the cold, we are just hunkering down at home. Nothing of interest going on.

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11/12/19 5:29 A

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Good evening Koshie. Feels like you had a good night's sleep and a good day, too.

Beeeeeeeeeg emoticon ,
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11/11/19 12:56 A

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Good morning!
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11/11/19 12:42 A

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Hi Koshie.

I must have forgotten to tell you about Dhivia's surgery. Apparently, on 31st December last year, a 300 pound gorilla ( in her words!) landed on Dhivia's foot and caused her to have a massive Lisfranc injury of her mid-foot. She went for surgery to have a metal plate and screws inserted and after 9 months, she went for another surgery to have the plate and screws removed. (Lisfranc injuries take a long, long time to heal).
She then discovered that the previous surgeon may have put in too many screws and injured her tendon and she has just come though a 3rd surgery to fix the tendon.
I have been supporting her procedure (nothing from her dad) and therapy, etc etc. And by the end of the year, she should be fine.
During this period, she was also head-hunted to join another firm.....and that was the best news ever for her! Her boyfriend has been her caregiver.....and we need to give that boy a Purple Heart!!!!

Many people are allergic to gold-plated stuff, Koshie, and eventually the rashes that arise could become eczema and cause more problems than they should......so, you may have to stop wearing it for the sake of your skin. I buy my own jewelry. And when I left the house, I left all the pathetic 5 pieces of jewelry DeMon bought for me in 34 years of marriage and only took those that I bought myself.

Your DD will benefit from some professional help - both my children sought professional help - my son for his OCD which is totally gone now and my daughter for anxiety, which is also not quite there any more.

BFF, by the way, was my biggest support and cheerleader to my divorce.

Have a great start to the week. And stay warm.

Beeeeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema


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11/10/19 7:48 P

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I didn't realize that Dhivia was having surgery...

DD was the most amazing confident sparkling little girl -- who turned into an insecure depressed adult.... She is always quick to give the apologies MM demands... and I sometimes wonder if she is so affectionate with me as a way of trying to "earn" my love and forestall anger. No, she isn't going to rock the boat with MM.

My Dad didn't have the income MM had, but Mom got diamonds. MM gives me jewelry too (it is easier I suppose than investing time and energy into figuring out what I want and getting it) but (if truth be known) SOMEtimes it is so cheap looking that I am embarrassed to wear it. I mean...I get real turquoise, but it is plastic-impregnated, and it looks it! Or those gold (plated) chains that the plating is SO thin the gold wears off after the 3rd wear and the copper is now greening your neck..... It is supposed to be "nice", but it is too cheap to be nice and and too "formal" to be able to wear for everyday "costume jewelry". Or, he gets me something that is actually nice -- but SO not my taste...like that turquoise jewelery -- I LIKE turquoise, but he gets me American Indian style stuff and I absolutely HATE American Indian style.

How does BFF respond to your divorce?

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11/9/19 2:40 A

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Something tells me that the many hours spent with his daughter on a gold course gave her enough time to tell her dad (and only daughters can do this....not wives!) about all that you have been doing and the fact that he may have been doing his part at all.
And hence, the food that was dropped in your lap.

He should be dropping diamonds onto your lap, my kawan.

It's a good week so far. Dhivia's surgery went off well, Moskito has given me a tough programme for 3 months and I can feel my body getting stronger (ain't telling him this, though!), my problematic employee is now showing results and my BFF is with me over the weekend....and he's seeing Prof Fred, too...to ensure that his cancer never returns and Prof Fred says lymphatic cancer is "soft" and with annual infusions, there should be no problems.
Good, good week.

You continue luxuriating, my kawan. Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/8/19 8:31 P

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Loevely day today.... after exercise I came home to an empty house. I luxuriated in it for 4 hours -- twice as long as I expected to have! I figured MM and DD were out golfing together (correct) but was surprised at how late they came home.
But I was totally flabbergasted when MM dropped a bag of food in my lap -- he had picked up dinner for me on their way back home. For the first time in 20 years.

20 years.
First time.
Go figure.

Well, I'm not going to waste my time figuring. I'm just going to continue luxuriating in my evening! emoticon

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11/8/19 5:20 A

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emoticon ... breathe.....my friend.... emoticon

Let's focus on the fact that you are definitely making progress....well done! Very well done.
And I will be crossing my fingers...my toes...and everything that can be crossed has been crossed and will be crossed....until we hear from you again.

Beeeeeg, beeeeeg emoticon , Prema

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11/7/19 9:28 A

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I've been struggling to get everything done -- and I'm making progress, but emergencies keep popping up and I've gto deadlines (and weather) approaching!

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11/7/19 3:13 A

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Dear Koshie,
When I had to undergo a check up at Singapore General Hospital (which has been ranked as the the 3rd best hospital in the world), the doctor was checking the database and discovered that, out of all the lady patients - including patients from all over the world - I was the oldest to have not reached menopause.
It's good in some ways and not good in other ways....my mum's older sister died of breast cancer and I have an increasing risk of suffering from it one day.

And here's one more item I share with you....DeMon was also totally indifferent to my satisfaction in bed. I had an old fashioned gynae who decided that this was not at all important as sex was only for procreation and nothing else!! What a hoot!!

I have my heart set on Idris Elba....I may need to check if he can keep up with me!! emoticon

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

PS I just adore your last sentence. Dang! You're good, my kawan!!!

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11/6/19 8:27 P

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well, My Hump Day was fine or so-so, take your pick. Sometimes, unspectacular is just what you need!
YOU'RE FERTILE? emoticon
Being on the other side, I don't know whether to congratulate you or feel sorry for you! I still bear resentment in my heart regarding MM's indifference to my satisfaction in bed... and I am SO grateful to be free of physical desire and the monthly physical mess of fertility! You are not there yet. On the other hand, being fertile is a sign of a young healthy strong body -- and that has to be comforting!

So yeah, I'm with your friends -- if you are gonna get involved, make sure he can keep up with you on all fronts! Love is a form of insanity -- but dang, depriving yourself of love is a form of insanity also.

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11/6/19 6:07 A

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In every group of pals, there will always be at least one person who will be the last to catch a joke, the last to piece together a story that's being told and and the only one who doesn't pay complete attention and ends up being totally horrified. emoticon emoticon emoticon
In your group, that's Carol!!!

And I think you should feel complimented! Shows how young she thinks you are!!!
In my case, my girlfriends who know that I have yet to reach menopause, will just keep hoping that it's some good-looking dude with loads of brains to match!!

By the way, I can visualise the message and assess the extent of your son's short fuse about the remodeling or the lack of reminder, etc etc.....and I agree with you.....SOOOOOOOO!!!!!

Have a great Hump Day and please, please just enjoy your sleep, my kawan!!!

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/5/19 4:33 P

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I don't know whether to feel complimented or insulted!

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I was literally casting HUGE yawns for HOURS..... and decided to go to bed at 8:30, head hit pillow minutes before 9, and I'm fairly certain I fell asleep soon thereafter. I awakened TEN hours later! emoticon Now I'm worried: am I sick? emoticon I feel fine though!

So the funny story: Yesterday at coffee after exercise, I mentioned a strange phone message (very brief: "Mom, if you can't call me back right away, call Tiffany" in a gruff tone of voice) from my son the night before, which had me VERY WORRIED as to what tragedy had befallen. Well, long story short, I called in order Travis, Tiffany, and Tiffany's mom. Then I e-mailed Travis and he called me back. Travis had a cold (soooo....?) but everyone was fine (SOoooo....?)... and I didn't have to be worried (SSSSOOOOOOoooo...!!!?) Oh. Oh, he was just reminded that maybe I hadn't understood that there'd be no place for us to stay with them when we passed through Dallas on our way to my sister's house for Thanksgiving in a few weeks -- because they'd start remodeling in a few days.
NO, I remembered about the remodeling and we hadn't planned on staying with them... Oh, okay, that's all. He just didn't want us to be unpleasantly surprised... Sigh. And a huge relief. But you'd have to have heard the message to understand.

ANYWAY... as I said, I talked about this phone call to the group. Bette, remembering that Tiffany is newly pregnant, asked me "How's the pregnancy going?" and I replied "Well, of course, it is still early. No new developments. So far so good!" And Carol's eyes got HUGE emoticon and she turned to Bette and gasped, "She's PREGNANT?!??!??!!!!!?"
AND CAROL MEANT ME!
Of course, everyone exploded with laughter and just about fell on the floor! And once we regained some control of ourselves, someone would snicker and the whole table would be set off again!
Once I was able to talk, I told Carol "NO, not ME-eee! TIFFany!"
"WHO'S TIFFany?"
"My son's wife! Whom I had just been talking about, when his message was 'If you can't call me back right away, call Tiffany'?"


Poor Carol! I know that I hadn't spelled out that Tiffany was Travis' wife, but you undertstood that, right? Boy, Carol just did NOT follow that whole conversation! But c'mon, ME pregnant?!? emoticon emoticon

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11/5/19 4:57 A

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Sleep tight.... emoticon emoticon
And don't let the bed bugs bite... emoticon ...(it's a spider, not bed bug....but that's the closest).

Waiting for the funny story tomorrow......Goodnight my kawan....

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11/4/19 9:02 P

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You are so WICKED! emoticon

And I'll tell you tomorrow about funny thing... but right now, I've GOT to sleep... emoticon

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11/4/19 5:00 A

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My grandson was in the pool for almost 3 hours and we had to forcibly take him, fighting and kicking back to the apartment. He absolutely loves the water. My god-daughter told me that her water baby slept for 11 hours that night and she had the best sleep she ever had in a long time!
The boy loves my helper, Rosa and sees her as an ally....when Rosa and I both went to the pool, he saw her and said "1,2,3 Jump". When she did not budge and only laughed, he clambered over the furthest corner of the pool, away from his mum and demonstrated to Rosa on the proper way to undertake this huge task!!! emoticon

And yes...I am so so so glad that I am not the mum in this scenario......

By the way, I totally understand the time warp you are talking about....over the years though and having dealt with many international business associates, we have finally gotten used to it. Once, I made the mistake of calling my American lawyers on Christmas Eve.....and they were completely gone.....it was the funniest conversation ever. After Boxing Day, we all had a good laugh when we connected again.....
....I scared the hell out of them when I told the youngest member (and the best looking guy) that he had proposed marriage to me. I made it even better by telling him that I accept and while he was breaking out in a sweat, the senior partner called my bluff and reminded me that I would be breaking the law by having 2 husbands. Darn! Old minds are very sharp! emoticon

Have a great start to the week, my kawan. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/3/19 11:07 A

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Don't you just LOVE the enthusiasm of youth? emoticon
Don't you just LOVE that you are not the mum in this scenario?!? emoticon emoticon emoticon

When I post here to you, I almost always feel as if I am talking into tomorrow. Do I say, "Tomorrow I did this?" or should I say "Yesterday I will do this?" I keep telling myself that we are on the same planet with time flowing past us equally, we just call it different days. Sometimes I can tell you are up late making a last-minute post before sleep, when I am up and just beginning my day. 'Wednesday' is fully behind you and fully ahead of me! All at the same time! It fascinates me! I mean, I fully intellectually understand, but emotionally, it is harder to accept; and the internal and external dichotomy feels almost like a time-warp to me.

Last night, or more accurately, this morning but at 2 a.m., we Americans did our annual weird ritual of "falling back" into the correct time (on the clock). Of course, I couldn't care less that it happens at 2 a.m. because I generally am asleep at that time. For me, it happens first thing in the morning, and for ONE day, for ONE hour, I get to enjoy a sense of timelessness, of suspension, of the world stopping and letting me just BREATHE. It IS a GREAT beginning to my Sunday!
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11/3/19 4:57 A

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Ladies and gentlemen...the devils have finally vacated the premises....and the angels have descended in their place. emoticon emoticon

Thank you Angels!!!! emoticon

I will not ask about the speeding to the exercise session nor will I enquire about the speed to the church. I will fold my hands in prayers and thank all the angels who worked over time to make sure you were safe and that you slept well for 4 nights in a row!

Have a great Sunday, my kawan. Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

PS my grandson is here and he has decided that he and his mum will spend the whole day and night at the pool....will let you how that panned out!!

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11/2/19 10:29 A

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Those are beautiful pictures! They hired an excellent wedding emoticon photographer! What on Earth do you feed your boy?! Vishal is tall ( just right) and so handsome!

The angels emoticon were really looking out for me yesterday. Not only did I make it to exercise on time, but also they reminded me in the nick of time that it was a holy day of obligation. Then they cleared the path for me to SPEED safely (I won't even tell you how fast I
was going!) back 20 miles to my church so that I could make it there ON TIME!

Lastly, this has been an amazing week for sleep -- I've slept 8 or more hours a night FOUR times! emoticon emoticon

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11/2/19 7:23 A

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My kawan....the real Speedy Gonzales....way to go, girl!!

Here are a couple of pictures from yesterday's wedding - solemnization of the vows



Vishal and his best friend (the taller of the 2 guys) were among the best men at the wedding and that was their attire. We were all in green, the theme colour.



The groom, his parents, the bride, my son and yours truly.

Have a great Saturday, my kawan. My Speedy Gonzales!

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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11/1/19 7:14 P

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I know; I was exhausted also yesterday. I went to bed late -- but slept a full 7 hours-- meaning i woke up about 10 minutes AFTER I should have been on the road. emoticon
I was in my car in 7 minutes! Shoes untied, hair unbrushed, haven't seen myself in the mirror YET (5 p.m.).... but somehow managed to get to exercise fully dressed and on time!
Sleep well!

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11/1/19 9:23 A

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Hi Koshie.

This one is a little different. It's an Indian girl who's Hindu marrying a Malay guy who's Muslim. The family festivities will be spread over 2 days - today and tomorrow. And on 24th November, they will host a corporate function at a large hotel and at this, people in the corporate sector and their spouses will be invited to join the family for the wedding celebrations.

Weddings in India are far more elaborate, depending on the status and wealth of the families concerned. It was definitely a sincere invitation....one of the expected things to do is to invite all those who have worked with you for any number of years, for a wedding or any other important function. Nothing really to do with bragging rights...
India these days, is really more international than most other countries....

Going to bed soon. It has been such a long day...I hope you stay safe and warm, my kawan...

Beeeeeg Hugs, Prema emoticon

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Happy Happy Joy Joy! May they have a felicitous and fruitful union! And congratulations to you for having so many warm links to another family!

Is this the beginning of a 1, 3, or 10- day affair? Once upon a long time ago, Ken had a friend who invited us to a Hindu wedding in India. The invitation described many days of events.... I was dying to go, but Ken adamantly refused, saying we were expected to not accept the invitation. It was a courtesy invite? We aren't family and would not have given it a second thought to not be invited to a wedding in a foreign country halfway around the world. Which to my mind, leaves it to be bragging rights or a genuine invitation! And how could the invitor (father of groom) get bragging rights if we didn't come? I think that the father, who was living and working in America for years, genuinely wanted to show that someone here cared enough about him that they would come. Ken and he were friends. And he knew we had the money to come.
Now, I'm American and easily confess I don't know about Indian culture to know if my reasoning is accurate. I'm curious what you think.

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You definitely have a sense of humour, my kawan.

No key but dressed okay is way, way better than no key and in underwear. And every story sounds funny when it happens to others or when it happened 10 years ago!! And thank God, the smartest member of the family was around to ensure nobody smashed a double-paned window...for crying out loud!!

Going to bed early today because I have an early morning wedding to attend - the groom is a good friend of my son and the groom's mum is a very good friend of mine. My son is one of the best men and I am the aunt of the groom who accompanies the bride to his side.

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Oh, yes -- it is easy to forgive you because while I wasn't at all happy about the situation, the ludicrousness of it all was not lost on me. The years of training ourselves to KEEP ALL THE DOORS LOCKED AT ALL TIMES. The years of training ourselves -- especially here in the Rockies in the WINTER -- to CLOSE the garage door ASAP. The fact that we ALL went outside with no keys in our pockets, knowing that we keep the house locked up securely. Digging through snow on hands and knees after using a snow shovel on the driveway. Being VERY grateful that somehow I hadn't dressed lightly knowing that snow-shoveling would quickly get me over-heated... Me standing at the back door rattling it for 15 minutes hoping that the deadbolt would somehow accidentally slide/fall down out of its hole and let me open the door. Stopping MM from breaking a DOUBLE-PANED window in favor of my choice to break a single pane in our garage door. Watching Lauren slither through the gap ass-up and sprawling on the trunk of my car and then somehow managing to pull one of her long legs through the gap and plant a single foot on the floor allowing her to stand up and rescue us... Just.... we're grown-ups, for crying out loud!

And this was a comedy of errors. We're allowed to laugh at errors. I laughed after an hour of warming up inside and getting over my pique. And frankly, because I was so relieved that nobody started hurling blame at another. It was relatively minor mass insanity in winter and we lived and laughing was an appropriate response.

I mentioned this elsewhere on SP and someone responded with her own tale of misfortune: Both she and her DH woke up from something going bump in the night. Both went outside to check that everything was okay -- and discovered they too had locked themselves out -- and they were in their underwear. She said they absolutely weren't going to go knocking at a neighbor's door emoticon in the middle of the night emoticon -- in their underwear. emoticon There IS definitely a time when breaking glass is the right thing to do!



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I am truly sympathetic. Truly I am. You are my kawan and I was truly very very sympathetic to the fact that you were shivering in the cold, about to freeze your tush off whilst looking for a key that had been buried under the snow that you were getting rid of in order to ensure the driveway was not blocked!

Until the devil in me appeared from nowhere and took over my entire body and replaced the tragic scene with a comedic one! And then, I.....very unforgivably.....very, very unforgivably.....laughed my head off! Will you ever forgive me!

There is no emoticon that I can send you of myself bowing over and over again to you!!

Beeeeeeg HUGS.....Beeeeeeg emoticon .....Prema, your kawan!

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We each went out the garage door individually to begin snow-shoveling the driveway. We each conscientiously closed the garage door behind us. When finished and ready to go in, THE GARAGE DOOR WOULD NOT GO UP!
We searched for the hidden key --too well hidden under the snow. We wracked our brains for someone (anyone?) we might have lent a key to. Nope. We checked all the doors and windows. nope. We shivered and looked again. And after an hour, we broke a window.

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Sounds like you are already starting your lousy weather situation. And the only good news is that you slept well, two days in a row. That's incredible and I am really happy about that... emoticon

BUT (and there's always a but!) :
- not going anywhere cos of the ice, including the exercise classes
- clearing the ice on a daily basis
- and not wearing a totally scary outfit

Scratch the last one. Twirling your marijuana joint like Groucho Marx with a cooking pot on your head is scary enough!!

I will be getting a couple of people to see Prof Fred when he arrives in 10 days' time. These are people in my age group who, like me, don't want to live long but just want to experience a good quality of life for as long as we live. Dying of very old age is depressing - you lose many of your friends by then and your own children are too old to be together with you....So, my wish is to be as independent as I possibly can until I kick the proverbial bucket!

Take care of yourself, my kawan. Stay very safe. Stay very warm. Change your manicurist! emoticon

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Where are some more WHITE emoticons when you need them?

Overcast and cloudy. We've got about 6 inches of snow piled up atop a thin layer of ice and the silence (why don't we have an emoticon for silence?) and stillness is incredible. I actually slept 8.5 hours last night after sleeping 9 hours the night before (quite amazing!) because it was silent and dark outside! It looks SO cold outside; it IS so cold outside; and it makes me FEEL so cold inside!

I know; I need the emoticon emoticon I can't go anywhere (including exercise this morning, which I was AN.TI.CI.PA.TING!) because I have to shovel snow and the driveway is I.C.Y. icy! and it is below freezing and I'll be falling down and ARGGGHHHH!!!! I don't wanna do it! But the ice ABSOLUTELY won't melt if we don't get the snow off the driveway and expose the ice to the sun. And we are expecting MORE snow for the next 3 days so we really have to stay on top of it or we won't be going anywhere until next WEEK!

Yup, I think I sent you my "Devil Wears Prada" costume pic and my GhostBuster pix. They are on my SparkPage too (I think) along with my Zombie pic. This year, I am simplifying: Monarch Butterfly. Very out-of-character for me as I generally try hard to stick to characters related to scary (traditional) Halloween themes.

Come to think of it, actually, last year too, I wimped out. You know, the USA is in the throes of gradually legalizing marijuana use, state by state. (Colorado was one of the first states to do this.) This has created controversy. So, I just dressed as a Pot Head. Easy! I donned torn jeans, a real TIE-DYE T-shirt and love beads, and put a literal cooking pot on my head. emoticon And.... since I had recently found a whole, unlit, unsmoked medical marijuana joint in the parking lot (it was in its own little hard plastic case!), I put that joint in my shirt pocket with the tip peeking out..... pulling it out occasionally and fingering it like Groucho Marx would do to his cigars. emoticon
Forgive me, I don't smoke and I was unable to bring myself to actually light the thing and perform the last bit of fantasy...). But I was easily identified anyway! (After I was done playing around, I gave the joint to MM who at the time was lighting up occasionally to relieve pain.) I only recently found out how expensive marijuana is! Eye-opening for sure (for me)!

I've seen so many lack-luster teams inspired by random luck that they manage to finally get their act together to actually WIN in the clutch.... sorry it happened at the wrong time to YOUR team!

Ginger is happy. And I am desperately wracking my brains trying to figure out something I can offer Ginger to chew on in order to protect my fingers! She is so PICKY! And I mean that figuratively AND literally! She picks at the tiniest imperfection; she apparently wants my fingers' skin to be baby soft and smooth -- and THIN -- and I just need more skin on my fingertips! She does a nice job tho'.... But really, if I could find a suitable substitute, that would make us both happier!



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Hi Koshie.

My favourite team from New Zealand, the All-Blacks, favoured to win the Cup, lost in the semifinals to England. England was by far, the better team yesterday. They took control of the game from the start and never let go - it was almost as if England had completely overhauled themselves to ensure that they reached the finals. England will play Australia (Springboks) in the finals on 2nd November.

That was the only letdown this weekend! How are you and your manicurist doing?

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Hi kawan.
Ginger means well and of course, she must love you to bits if she wants you to have smooth thumbs again...she gives a new name to exfoliation!!! emoticon

Plantar fascitis can be very painful and yes, it can take a long time to heal. But there are some light exercises that one can do to alleviate the pain....like flexing the foot, scrunching and splaying the toes, etc. You should be able to find some of these in SparkPeople.
Is there any way of moving the bed to make enough room where there is non-stubbable space at all?

A cold Halloween will not be much fun for "trick-ing and treat-ing", right? And I remember you posting a picture of yourself to me....was it with you in a costume for Halloween? And I recall telling you what a huge sport you are...and so young at heart!
It seems that you hardly went through autumn so how is it that snow has made its appearance! And I hope that this winter is not going to be a repeat of the winter you had last year!

Going off to bed soon, my kawan. Have yourself a great Saturday. Beeeeeeeg Hugs.


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Yes, actually! My thumbs have healed of cuts. Ginger however, has noticed the calluses that formed. She has taken it upon herself to groom my finger and thumb calluses and cuticles -- she is continually trying to nibble away any roughness and thickenings, and that includes my fingernails too! I KNOW she is trying to do me a favor, but.... oww! A little goes a L-o-n-g way and she just doesn't know when to stop! emoticon

My toe too has improved. It still hurts to clench my toes on my left foot, but it hurts less. And I can wear low heels now without pain.

Sadly, the toe pain has been replaced by plantar fascitis. I've had it once before and if memory serves, it really does take a full year to stop hurting. It seems God is really trying to keep my off my feet! Well, both the toe pain and the plantar pain are caused by irritated nerves, and there's nothing to be done but ignore it and wear comfy-soled shoes all the time. What I REALLY want are comfy steel-toed slip-ons that I can wear while walking in the dark between my bed and bathroom -- 'cuz that is the path on which I stub my toes! Normal bedroom slippers just don't offer protection!

Snow arrived Wednesday night. Most of it melted away Thursday and it seems to be all gone by Friday morning. It is definitely colder, but still, if you are not lingering, you don't need to "dress for the weather". Tomorrow is suppposed to be GLORIOUS, and ditto for Sunday until late afternoon when we will start getting a predicted 4 days of snow. Sadly, that means miserable driving, and a cold Halloween. Just when the little ones want to show off their costumes! That includes ME! emoticon

Re MM: Good! I feared that you might be afraid of "social pressure" to still conform to being a gentle, kind, and nonconfrontational "woman" who SHouldn't stand up for herself against a man no matter what. But you MUST be strong for yourself -- and in some cases, like this with the DeMon (!), being proactive and scaring him into backing off and STAYING off is the smarter thing to do, lest he continues to think of you as his whipping dog to beat up as long as he lives. Good luck!

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Thank you for all your kind wishes, Koshie, for the coming Diwali. Yup....good over evil; light over darkness, merry making over sorrow.

And yes, I was planning on all the actions you suggested in your posting and of undertaking these Quid Pro Quo.....you must have communicated all these to me through mental telepathy - loud enough for me to hear and no one else.

And I really like that last message of yours : Don't be afraid of your strength. It is the only thing that impresses bullies. High 5, my kawan.

Have a great TGIF and let's see if you can go dancing....I am, of course, assuming that all fingers, toes and 2 thumbs are doing very well!!

Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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ahhhh! That's right; I was thinking about that at the beginning of the week, and then I forgot... May you be filled with ALL the colors of light and experience the joy of Diwali! Drink it all in; nourish your soul and restore the glow of basic happiness in living that we are all given as our birthright! Ignore temporarily the darkness of the DeMon which seeks to blemish your life force!

I think you are handling this the correct way -- through your lawyer and giving him all the tools he needs to fight off the ill will of your personal DeMon. You know what they say -- sometimes the best defense is a STRONG offence! You've hinted to me that DeMon is less than scrupulous; perhaps communicating to him through hints (never explicitly!) that you are AWARE of his dirt and know exactly where to dig (or that you don't even have to dig because you lived for years with him and gathered the dirt before you left him, again: HINTS!) and that you, in light of his attacks, are now considering that quid pro quo is in order and that shining the light on HIM will be "informative" to certain well-placed people.....

Oh, dear, another way-too-long sentence! ...I think that you are subtle enough to use what you know about DeMon personally to make him feel uneasy about what you MIGHT know about his business -- and I'll bet stoking the fires of his fear will get him to back off. He wants to drain you of vitality through fighting baseless accusations; you threaten to drain him of money and/or liberty through insinuations of knowing his dirt and exposing him! (But never in writing!) Quid Pro Quo! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Don't be afraid of your strength. It is the only thing that impresses bullies.

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You actually have a cousin called JACK.....how do coincidences like this happen to me? I wanted to make fun of you and I get far more in return!!

I want to release every spider, bat and warthog on DeMon after Diwali, or Festival of Lights, is over.

The man has,through another unscrupulous lawyer, filed a complaint with the Advocates and Solicitors Disciplinary Board asserting that my lawyer had been conniving with me to cheat him of his money. All assertions and no evidence to support these assertions! My lawyers plan to give him a rope long enough to hang himself multiple times and I told them to please proceed with my blessings. I also gave them additional ammunition to crucify the man.
My lawyer is a very decent bloke and I have decided to put aside all my concerns about the father embarrassing his kids further and just stick my neck out and help my lawyer as much as I can.

I am absolutely fine and I plan to continue to enjoy myself this Halloween and put him completely out of my mind....he will only resurface once a court matter is set for hearing. From now until mid-2020, this may be the only way to ensure that I have a peace of mind and that I get to enjoy life as much as possible.

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Beeeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema


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Actually, just modify that image to make an old Lucy Ball without the lips.....
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Our exercise music is already in my car awaiting return.
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I actually HAVE a cousin Jack. He's short (well, compared to most of his 25 known cousins!)(I don't know his mom's side.....).Next time I see him, I'll have to ask for an update on his golden lute, golden coins, and his giant phobia.....
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Witching you a twitchy (watch out for spiders!) witchy Wednesday! Oh, and watch out for the Orionid meteor shower! It is at it's peak!

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Fee.Fi.Pho-Bia. - how's your cousin, Jack, doing? Heard that he has a Fee Fi Pho-bia about GIANTS, too emoticon
Ghoul Morning
BOOtiful.
MOONday

Yup, it's been confirmed that my wonderful kawan has an incredible sense of humour. And since God adores her, he made sure that she only had available the CD with the fastest tempo ever to ensure the best workout ever before enjoying the best Halloween ever!

I was imagining your conversation with Bette and your face....somehow or other, the image of a young Lucille O'Ball came into my view each and every time.

Glad you have no phobia about GIANT BEEEEEEEG HUGS being given to you. Here are the big-sized hugs coming your way, my kawan.



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emoticon Ghoul Morning My SPARK Friend ~Welcome to a BOOtiful New Day ~👻~

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~~~ Only 9 days until Halloween ~~~~~~~~~~ BLESSings and other Incantations!~~

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We are expecting another cold front with snow on Thursday. So these are the last 3 days of being able to walk around in sunshine, in T-shirts, and in leggings. Sigh, I wish this weather cold last longer.... Just until November 1 -- for the kids' sakes! It's been quite lovely! As it is, I can't help but mourn the quick passing of a beautiful Autumn!

Lauren tied down the outdoor furniture yesterday so that it will stay put during winter winds. I've done the essential pruning and sweeping. I don't know why I sweep; winds will deliver more in a flash! Despite the coming freeze, I will still be looking to hire painters just in case we have a warm spell!

Probably because I got 2 nights in a row of little sleep, I slept for 9 hours last night! I cracked open my eyes and honestly could not BELIEVE the number showing on the clock. I barely had enough time to dress, feed Ginger, and take my vitamins before racing out the door for exercise. This was terribly unfortunate -- because I had taken ALL our music home Friday so that I could make copies -- and I forgot to bring it with me in my rush to leave. I got there and Bette asked me if I had the music, and I was caught by surprise, and answered honestly: "no... YES! I mean no! But yes! I have it! No I don't!" Of course, they were all looking a me while I was stuck on "Yes! NO! Yes! No! I mean yes! But no, not really!" until we were all helplessly laughing and I was red with embarrassment emoticon .....

Here I will interject that I realized Bette was worried that the music had been stolen and I was anxious to correct myself and reassure her... but all that would come out of my mouth was Yes! No! Laughing at myself enabled my brain to unfreeze and get out that "I HAVE it; I just don't have it WITH me! It's 45 minutes away sitting at my computer!" And Carol asks "Well, what are you going to do? Go get it or SING?" emoticon I replied that I was going to go to my car and check for any escapees...just in case any had fallen out. Bette laughed and said that I probably wasn't coming back..... And I said "well, if it is that or SING for 40 minutes... Don't wait too long!!"

Of course, there were no escapees since I'm always careful to zip up the carriers, but I did have one CD (the worst possible one! The beat is hideously FAST) in my car CD player. And that's the one we used. I can honestly say that everybody was out of breath today!

Here's a "small" Halloween joke for you: I'm feeling anxious about Halloween -- everybody will be in costume! There might be GIANTS! I am afraid of giants. I have fee fi pho-bia!
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Have a great day, my kawan! Thans for the words of reassurance!
BBBBeeeeeegggG GIANT HhhuuuuugggS!




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Koshie, you are one of the bravest girls I know.

To me, you have been very supportive of both your children and from one mum to another, BEEEEEEG emoticon to you.

You have also given your all to the marriage and coped better than most people I know....and you have more courage in your little finger than many people have in their entire being.

Your DD wants to solve the problem - that is true or else she would not be seeing a therapist for her issue. She also values and loves you or else, she would not be helping you out in the kitchen, in the garden, travelling with you, etc etc.

As i said, my prayers will continue for you. You will, with God's help, see a resolution to all that has been bothering you up to now. And it will happen soon...

God Bless and big hugs....Prema

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I am really happy that you got 2 nights of 8-hour sleep. That's really good.

I realise at this age, and watching many young people at work, go through all sorts of anxieties at work, that getting a job is not going to give them the confidence they need to face up to their personal issues. I wonder if part of her anxiety is related to the fact that if she does not stay back at home, then both of you may walk out of the marriage.
I have no doubt that she may lack confidence about herself.....and you have correctly identified the need to address this before she botches up any interview in the future. And how? The therapist may or may not be able to solve the issue....and she obviously wants to solve the problem minus the involvement of either one of her parents in her therapy.

I don't have the answers right now...and perhaps the only people who do are Lauren and you. I will say a prayer for you every day to get to the bottom of this.

Take care, my kawan. Beeeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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I got 2 nights of 8-hour sleep this week.

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I really REALLY want Lauren to find a "real" job. Just that alone would boost her confidence level. And I want her to do it NOW so that she doesn't feel helpless next spring when push comes to shove -- so that she can choose to live alone rather than feel forced to have to choose between mom and dad.
But until MM gets forceful, she's not going to budge -- that's clear! And I can't TELL her why she needs to act NOW.

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It will happen today. of all days,it has to happen today.

I wrote out a long response to you and the cyber ghost invaded my hotel room, and wiped out everything! Your response is deep and very insightful about a lot of things and I am going to try writing back again tomorrow.

Take care my kawan.... emoticon .....Take care and Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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Oh, I've been recording my sleep hours for some time now. I usually sleep 6-7 hours a night. That is an improvement over what it used to be: 5.5-6 hours. And I am now getting at least 1 night a week that is an 8-hours sleep. Since I RARELY sleep late (I wake up just before dawn as a rule, it just happens whether I like it or not!) or nap, I've been working on going to bed earlier. I have to force myself to retire about 10:30 (since I'm not sleepy), but once I am IN bed, I am generally falling asleep faster than ever. I'm aiming for 10 p.m. which is really pushing my buttons--only OLD people go to bed before 10!
What seems to be helping me is 2 things: I am trying to decrease my consumption of tea at dinner -- and none after 8, and I am praying at bedtime. The prayers really seem to be MOST helpful in shutting off my monkey brain, which used to jibber-jabber at me for 1-2 hours once I was in bed! I'm also trying to make sure to reduce my computer use in the evenings.
As my sleep routines improve and I become more consistent, I believe I will continue to get more sleep. The next trick up my sleeve is to pull out and USE my eye mask at night -- which hopefully will allow me to start sleeping later than I do presently. I have nothing to do at dawn and nowhere to go -- I could actually sleep another 1.5 -2 hours without missing a thing!

I know you are thinking that I could knock out my computer useage in the wee hours of the morning, but I can't. My computer is set up right next to Ginger's cage, which is adjacent to the kitchen, and she needs her sleep too! YES! I WAKE BEFORE THE BIRDS! It's not right! emoticon

So I watch TV or read a book to be quiet while MM and DD sleep 'til NINE!...drives me NUTS! I'm so jealous!

Lauren is taking anti-depression meds and sees a therapist... I have no idea what they talk about. I have no way to influence the discusssion. Like you, I don't think it is entitlement so much as it is fear. Lauren was afraid to leave home for college and came back many weekends. She took long breaks from college to work low-wage jobs. Why? IDK! And she finally graduated and I helped her buy a professional wardrobe; and I helped her get an informational interview at an oil & gas firm (which she could've parlayed into an introduction to the HR department) while MM (who had PROMISED her that he'd ask his highly-ranked corporate types buddies who owed him a favor for an entry-level job for her) did NOTHING. And Lauren, who deep down holds herself to be worthless, blew the interview I arranged because she doesn't believe in herself so why would anyone else. And she doesn't even TRY to get a "real" job (one that isn't a low-wage "burger-flipper" job) because she doesn't believe that she offers value as a college graduate who can learn to be a professional and she doesn't get even a burger-flipper job because she knows that we would be disappointed in her.
I don't know anybody who could offer her a foot in the door. But she has turned down (not even tried for) even the few REAL jobs I've found that were entry-level, turned them down as
not-what-she's interested-in-doing (and she admits that she doesn't know what she's interested in doing) or as "beneath" her. DS offered her the chance to live in his home and be the receptionist in his dental office so that she could earn money while being in a different larger city where she could look for other jobs -- but she doesn't "want to move to Dallas."

To me, this boils down to being terrified of leaving home, terrified of failure. But honestly, it doesn't MATTER if she doesn't find something she WANTS to do, she MUST do something to support herself! And home is going to leave HER -- we ARE selling this house and I do genuinely believe MM and I will be splitting at that time.

Deep breath... ....Sigh......



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Koshie, you may want to record, from now until year end, the number of times sleep eludes you in a week.....they tell us that, as we grow older, falling asleep gets harder. I have had my share of sleepless nights...but that's because of DeMon.
I am hoping my sleep patterns improve very soon.

Happy 30th Birthday to Lauren. It's good that MM is also telling her to get a job....have you considered asking her to get some professional help in assessing her hesitation towards securing employment. Some of my girlfriends have complained that their children display a strong sense of entitlement and refuse to do anything for themselves unless forced to do so. I don't think Lauren shows this.....I think she is too scared to seek employment away from the comfort of home. Maybe.....

Have a good time and Beeeeeeeg Hugs, my kawan.

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10/16/19 8:10 P

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Nope, the next night I went to bed early -- but only slept 6 hours! I wish I knew what wakes me late in the year..... I've been waking even BEFORE false dawn -- or at 7. Go figure! I should have better luck tonight!
We are celebrating Lauren's birthday today (the 16th). She turns 30. And MM has begun to tell her she must find a job. Finally! Finally I am not the only one pushing!

Big hugs, my kawan!

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10/16/19 4:48 A

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Hi Koshie. Okay, at least you got 7 hours. Maybe tonight it will be better. Fingers and toes crossed.

At a tender age, I would not dream of asking anyone to run 20 minutes in place and do laps....that's downright cruel! Of course, it would have turned you off!

If you read up about the winners in any marathon are usually between 25 and 35 years of age. They have no patience to pace themselves at younger ages and are usually unable to give their best after 35 - a question of the mind is willing but the body is just too tired. Truth be told, the first 20 minutes are the hardest at first...the body usually tries to force you to give up. Once you get into the rhythm, it's the last few kilometers in any that then become the hardest. Eliud Kipchoge's mental strength to go beyond pain and stay focused is, totally incomparable! And the mileage he clocked every week is totally indescribable.

Take care, my dear kawan. Here's wishing a better night's sleep tonight! emoticon

Beeeeeeeeg Hugs

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7 hours sleep was all I could manage. On the plus side, I was finished and cleaned up by 10 a.m. And that is THAT! emoticon
Now I get to devote myself to the more mundane everyday chores of life (including organizing my desk emoticon ) and finding pros to do the house painting and construction of the retaining walls.... From my persepective right now, this should be restful! (except for the desk organization!) emoticon

I used to have a high school basketball coach who made us run 20 minutes in place -- after which we were "rewarded" with running laps. At that tender young age, I did not have enough life experience to dwell on to keep myself mentally entertained for the duration. For that reason, it was excruciating!

Run a marathon? Run an ultra-marathon? Run even a 5K?
HA! H.A.! ha hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahhahahahahahaha
hahahh HAAAAAA! I STILL don't have enough life experiences to fill up the boredom of JUST running! Or may be I have EXACTLY the life experience that tells me this is not the way I wish to experience boredom! I am however, absolutely impressed that anyone can run those things and keep themselves motivated to keep putting one foot in front of the other. For me it isn't that they won or broke records (although that is amazing), it is the sheer willpower, the FORCE of WILL that runners must have to do this -- and keep doing this -- THAT impresses the heck out of me! emoticon

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You have actually had a full day of doing an ultra marathon.

An ultra marathon, by definition, is anything more than a typical marathon of 42 km. For most parts, an ultra marathon is usually 100 km and takes about 17 hours to finish, if the person is able to finish. Moskito has done 50 km and also 100 km, the latter just once and swore that he would never do it again!

With your full day repeated a few times, it feels like you may have done more than one ultra marathon. Duly impressed....and if you can see the GIF in my mind, it's bowing over and over to you and saluting your work in the garden and at home. Impressive!!!

Please do take care of yourself....you are already heading into winter and you do not want to tire yourself out completely during this period.

Hope you get a good night's sleep and wake up totally refreshed the next day...

Beeeeeeg Hugs, Prema

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I'm so glad you are indulging a passion and having a grand time!

IT is UNBELIEVABLE that Japan can even FIELD a rugby team much less go to finals for the World Cup! well, they do say that good things come in small packages!

Once again, I sacrificed a morning of exercise so that I could have a full day to take care of my plants. I did indeed spend most of the day dragging plants around and rearranging them and hanging them and figuring out how to get saucers under some of the hanging baskets without having to repot them.... and potting up some cuttings. And sweeping and vacuuming and mopping up watering spills. DD's help made the day tolerable. I am ALMOST finished! Jsst 4 more pots of cuttings to make (I'll be giving as gifts later), and cleanup, and then I'll be finished tomorrow morning. I PROMISE! emoticon

Right now, it is late and we are SO tired..... emoticon

if you can get over the excitement of the weekend, sleep well my kawan! emoticon

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