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6/10/12 1:17 P

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it is hard when you spend so much time at your work. but the only thing you can do is put yourself into a frame of mind. your outlook is key - i know this is not easy - but since there is not an alternative right now to change jobs - you have to be present - and do your job - but that i where it ends -
don't keep absorbing the negativity being thrown your way - the person realizes this is WORKING and will keep it up. but if you can hold your own - and be productive - you will make yourself proud - and when you accomplish something good and pride comes in - you will not want to binge.
i have had to do this in many years of personal trauma - you cannot change any one else - just how you deal with it. all the best to you - BB




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6/4/12 12:02 A

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I am stressed with my job for the moment and I am overeating - and of course I can connect them but not really, because when I am overeating I am overeating what ever happens and I have gone through many stressful times without eating. To me, it is when I start, it is really hard to stop. So - the trick is not to start... And of course, all these failures to stick to my decisions in the past makes it easier to fall ,


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5/31/12 9:51 P

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Great replies.
I have to try some of these.
I have had a whole lot of stress at work and at home and I have to agree that eating does nothing for it.
It makes it worst because I feel physically awful.
I had to take a heartburn pill today and I hate doing that because I know its not healthy.
I feel trapped in a vicious cycle that I eat because I want to feel better but I still feel awful so i eat more. emoticon
Thanks for sharing everyone!
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5/31/12 3:18 P

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There is some great advice here! I appreciate all that was said.

Part of our dysfunction with food is that we make it the enemy- an evil sin. We try to fight all of our natural instincts that we will find comfort in food. Think about a little baby when it's born- a baby finds tremendous comfort in nursing. It's natural to find comfort in food- though this should not be your only comfort, and it should never be toxic or out of control. Eating an entire cake and 11 cookies should never be an option- even for someone who is not a binge-eater. But you should not feel shame or guilt by giving in to an instinct that you will find comfort in food. That cycle of shame will only advance your struggle.
A good analogy for this is sex- sex is supposed to feel good and it is our natural instinct to enjoy and find pleasure in sex. However, some people take one extreme and say that sex is only for procreation and we should not find pleasure in it. These people are usually the ones who end up with prostitutes or porn addiction. Compare that with someone who believes food should only be used for nourishment and that we should not find comfort or pleasure in it. Very similar. A person could also take the other extreme and let their natural instincts to find pleasure in sex get out of control. These are usually the ones who end up sex addicts or compulsive about sex. Food addiction and sex addiction are very similar.

One thing that helps for me (when I'm stressed and want to turn to food) is to buy myself a treat (but not a binge) that I plan in to my day. I can't help it that I love food- it makes me feel good and I appreciate it and it brings me comfort. Part of my healing has been to accept that. And another part of my healing has been to understand the difference between a healthy indulgence vs a toxic indulgence or a binge.
Some ideas of a healthy indulgence that I would allow myself to have are as follows- a trip to Whole Foods (or similar luxury grocer) to sample their various treats. They are almost always healthy, pure, and clean- and cut into ideal bites. This also gets me out of the house and lets me escape stress for a time. Or a trip to the Farmer's Market to buy something fresh that is in season (such as cherries when I want something sweet, or summer squash when I want something savory). Or I treat myself to my favorite sushi restaurant and allow myself to buy a roll of healthy sushi. Or I go to the health food store and get one square of dark chocolate.
If I don't feel like going anywhere and I'm at home, I treat myself to something I already have in the house... such as a spoon full of peanut butter or a pear with a wedge of cheese.

If you're looking for non-food ways to deal with stress or discomfort, then I also practice yoga. That helps. I do run- but not when I'm stressed. I go for walks or hikes rather than run when I am stressed. Anything that brings me peace works for me.
I like to read also. Or lay by our neighborhood pool.

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5/31/12 1:02 P

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Kaytee, that is very savvy advice. I don't know much about these situations, but I wouldn't say it is because I'm stellar at job.

One of my most stressful school years was also the year that I implemented my new plan of eating. It actually helped! I was overwhelmed by my whole school day, but I knew I was going to eat my meals and feel better.

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5/31/12 12:48 P

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Maybe put it in this perspective... your binging because of this other person (insert person: boss, husband, boyfriend/girlfriend, family member) is in a way, letting them win. Letting their awful behavior dictate your life. When I try and think of it in those terms... I'll be darned if I'm going to binge, just despite them. Give it a try... it might just work. emoticon

It works for me if I can twist it in my head like that!

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5/31/12 8:46 A

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I can relate. My previous job a few years ago was in a highly dysfunctional office with a totally inadequate manager and several people suffering from stress/depression as a result. For me it manifested in severe bingeing to the extent that I ended up going to the doctor in desperation. My solution to the problem was to get another job and get out of there.

If you don't have that option, and your boss is seriously trying to get you fired, then is there a union, or an independent person, who could intervene or mediate with your manager? If you can't leave then you really need to find a way that you can work together.

If you think this is going to end badly, you need to document what is happening i.e. keep a diary of any specific behaviour, comments etc made by your manager. You can use this to back up your point of view if there are likely to be disciplinary proceedings or if you want to take it to a tribunal. If your manager asks for any meetings with you then take someone with you for support/as a witness.

I agree exercise is probably the best stress-reliever. Remember if you binge because of this then you are letting your boss win.

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Okay, I just need to point out that many people have stressful jobs but don't eat a whole cake or even half a one. I gently say you have to stop thinking that you have to eat because you have stress. It doesn't even really make sense, when you really think about it. As Dee said, it won't help you get your boss off your back or improve your performance or whatever. Overeating creates stress, too.

When do you buy the cake and cookies or whatever food you eat under these circumstances? That's when you need to do your alternate thinking or activities. Don't buy them for a binge! Recognize that the thoughts that tell you to get or eat such things just randomly are not accurate and it is okay to ignore them Then find something else either pleasureable or productive to think about or do. Repeat as needed!

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If your boss is trying to get you fire, he might succeed. Looking for a new job will then have to be an option. Do something that makes you feel good. Walking, jogging or running can help. Do what ever it is that makes you feel good. Then you might be able to think clearer and in a positive way and make a decision on a new job or a way to deal with the stress. Food is not an option. Food will not fix this. Exercise can release stress. Never let anyone such as a boss make you feel like they are better than you. You are worth more than that.

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It is really hard not to binge when my job is soooo stressful :( my boss is trying to get me fired so what do i do? a whole cake and like 10 cookies and......yeaaaa, figures. anyone have any thoughts on stress relievers for a high stress life? cause, as much as it pains me to say this, changing jobs isnt an option :(

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