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8/13/19 6:41 P

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Thank you all! You’re so right, I can’t let this get me down. I have such a hard time sticking up for myself and that’s something I should be working on. I’m not timid, I regularly stick up for other people. I need to treat myself as good as I would someone else.



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8/13/19 9:48 A

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That is NOT what the Y is supposed to be about, PUNKITYPINK! I've belonged to several YMCA's all over the country, and they've been some of the most welcoming places for people of all sizes and abilities. These guys don't deserve to spoil the whole bunch.

Report those turds, put on a nice bright tank or t-shirt that makes you smile while you admire your lifting form in the mirror, and go back!

On a practical note, in other gyms I've noticed the judgmental jerks tend to be conspicuously absent in the early morning. It's almost like the folks there in the early AM are there to work out, not socialize, so if you're more comfortable attempting to avoid previously-mentioned turds, I'd try first thing in the morning.


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8/1/19 1:18 P



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PUNKITYPINK,

You pay good money to attend that gym. Don't let some knucklehead (who was probably paying more attention to his cell phone than his workout) to put you down.

Here's a true conversation a drunk Winston Churchill had with a member of Parliament.

Bessie Braddock MP - Winston, you are drunk, and what’s more you are disgustingly drunk.

Winston - Bessie, my dear, you are ugly, and what’s more, you are disgustingly ugly. But tomorrow I shall be sober and you will still be disgustingly ugly.

This is how I would change your situation from a negative to a positive.

I may be fat, but you are ugly. In a few months I will be slim and you sir will still
be ugly.


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7/29/19 9:29 A

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" I’ve been back to the gym only twice since then to swim and I’ve been so self conscious to the point of wanting to cry each time."

You are giving a insensitive jerk and bully too much power over you!
Why are you letting him control how often you go the the gym?
Report him, then ignore him.

"We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand."
~ Randy Pausch

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7/29/19 6:46 A

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What a jerk! Words can hurt but you are working had to improve yourself through better nutrition and exercise. If you let his thoughtless words keep you from going to the gym, he wins and you lose. You deserve to win. The first few times back will be hard but it will get easier.

And I think Miss Ruth's idea to report him to the Y is a good one.

Meghan in Minneapolis, Minnesota, USA


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7/29/19 5:36 A

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This is from the Y's webpage: "Our core values are caring, honesty, respect and responsibility—they guide everything we do." Personally, I'd immediately speak to management about anyone making disparaging comments. Stand up for yourself.

Beyond that, this is the way I look at it-- gyms are for folks who are wanting to live a healthier lifestyle. You have every right to be there and that donkey's rear watching tv is just exactly that.

Ruth in Cookeville, TN Central Time Zone


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7/29/19 12:40 A

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I’ve been going to the Y for a year but recently gained back 30 lbs of the over 80 lost in the past year. When I was there a couple of weeks ago, some guy watching tv in the lobby looked at me and s aid “goddamn look at that” and pointed me out to his friend. When I finished my workout and passed him as I left it was more of the same. I’ve been back to the gym only twice since then to swim and I’ve been so self conscious to the point of wanting to cry each time. I like to exercise because it’s such a good stress reliever but I’m having such a hard time going back. I’m not going to quit my gym! Any suggestions for how to get over this and enjoy my workout again?



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