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Tuesday, February 23, 2021

I'm feeling a little funny about it, but I'm not sure there is anything wrong. Gwen (10 year old granddaughter I transport to/from school) goes to an afterschool program two days a week called The Homework Club. She really likes it. She has fun. She gets her homework, or alternatively, if she has little homework, she reads. There are adults there and older students who can help her if she needs help. She likes the way they help her more than the way I help, her granddad helps, than her parents help. I've blogged before that she struggles academically sometimes, but I think The Homework Club, which is a free program offered by her church in a building beside her elementary school, has really helped her. She made the A-B Honor Roll this last grade period.

So what is my concern? This program is mostly for low-income students. I know about not making low-income students feel bad by making them feel different, but this is a situation where the child who has enough (not affluent, but plenty) doesn't want to be different from the other kids. Today they gave her a beautiful bookbag and matching lunch box with white fluffy pompoms and reversible sequins pink/blue and it says "Stay Magical". It has a big sequin "G" on it and she is the only student in the Club whose name starts with G. She loves the set. The price tags were still on it. About $55. My heavens, we don't need charity. But I don't want to deprive her of the help or the treasures or make her feel different. Perhaps what I can do is give a big donation to her church. What do you think?

More on topic: I'm feeling motivated today to live healthy. I had a couple rough days, but I'm doing better. Will weigh tomorrow and go forward whatever the feedback.
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    Don’t fret about the expense of the book bag and lunch box. Think of it differently. Gwen has worked very hard at her Homework Club. Think of the book bag and lunch box as rewards for a job well done. In my opinion, she has earned them. The church is trying to reward the kids for their hard work as well as make sure that they have the necessary supplies for school. School supplies are a perfect reward for Homework Club! If you can’t get beyond the fact that her background isn’t poor, make a donation but be careful that they don’t see it as a slap in the face. I’m glad that they didn’t single her out and give everyone else a gift except her.
    42 days ago
    I would make a donation. The bookbag and lunch bag were probably donated so this is a way of paying it forward. You are lovely to consider this.
    43 days ago
  • NANCY-
    You have gotten a lot of lovely suggestions. It is good that Gwen enjoys and is benefiting from the program. She would have felt different if she hadn't received a backpack and the others did. Perhaps there is some way to give to something that she cares about. Or she can help tutor a younger child, volunteer at bible camp? The options are endless.
    48 days ago
    If you do decide to donate, I suggest that you specify that
    your donation is a direct contribution to this afternoon program
    and the children it supports. It sounds wonderful.
    48 days ago
    I would think let it alone. What do her folks think?
    48 days ago
    Vote for donation (anonymously). You don't want to rock the boat for a program that seems to be helping her thrive! Congratulations to her that she's doing well!

    Glad the mojo is returning!

    48 days ago
    Donate. Gwen is learning more than her homework lessons.
    48 days ago
    Further thought -- maybe Gwen would like to do a little fundraising for her church? Bake sale, car wash etc.??
    48 days ago
    Yup, another vote from me to donate. I've done just that in the past when one of my kids benefited from a program we didn't really "need" financially but which was helping that kid in other important ways. The backpack sounds lovely and chosen just for her . . .
    48 days ago
    DONATE ... keep Gwen on track ... DONATE. I'd make is anonymously.
    48 days ago
    I am with the majority opinion, an anonymous donation to the church would be nice, appreciative of their efforts in helping the kids. Gwen need not know. It was mighty generous of them to give her something like that! Someone wasn't on the ball leaving the price tag on..
    48 days ago
    I don't understand the motivation to make a donation to her church. Not wanting to be mean but that sounds like interference. If this dynamic is working for her - she is doing well in school, she has friends she likes who are a good influence on her, maybe it is better to leave it alone and encourage her initiative for making good choices and finding solutions, school success and social happiness.
    48 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/23/2021 11:20:09 PM
    Yes, of course, giving back is always the answer.
    48 days ago
    Enjoy the gift; donation is a nice idea.
    48 days ago
    I would donate to the program.
    48 days ago
  • BA_COY
    I think making a donation to the sponsoring church is a great idea! You could let the church know that you appreciate the program that is helping your granddaughter excel and want to help keep it going. emoticon
    48 days ago
    A donation would be lovely.
    48 days ago
    As I was reading it, I thought a donation would be good. And be generous.
    48 days ago
    I would go along with the giving a donation to the church. Seems like you would be supporting the work that in turn is helping Gwen, quietly, so that SHE doesn't feel different from the other kids in the program.
    48 days ago
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