Hello dear sparklers!
Another long lapse between blogs. It's really all I can do to keep up with the communications from all of the menfolk in my newfound 'meetup' hobby.
Well...not really. I do still converse with several interesting men who I have met through these online dating sites.
BUT...I have a favorite of course. He is a lovely, lovely, REAL DEAL of a man who lost his wife after taking care of her for some 30 years with Parkinson's and Dementia.
We have been seeing each other off and on since probably early November. It all started with a smile he sent...how cliche is THAT?
I adore everything about this man. He is romantic, and honest, and caring and kind. He is a class act gentleman most of all. He is...wait for it...wonderfully wealthy but not in a pretentious way whatsoever. He is a retired lawyer which normally I would run for the hills from but he actually gives the profession a good name.
BUT...as in all situations things are a little complicated. When you are new to the online scene having been married for so so long it's a weird dynamic.
You really want to kick some tires so to speak. I know this gent has TONS of options due to his refined taste, his style..and let's face it his mega bucks.
I'm sure all of the little Naples lady lapdogs have him on their radar in a VERY big way.
And..quite honestly it's kind of hard to see what his attraction is to me...a little hippie gal with a big warm heart, but certainly not a wealthy woman whatsoever.
I guess it's true...opposites DO attract and I am being careful about crowding him on any commitment beyond what he is comfortable with.
BUT...I WAS the one he selected to spend his Valentine's Dinner with at his swanky golf club...so THERE ladies of the 'elite, meet to eat' richie rich Naples crowd!
We shall see what we shall see but he is very attentive and extremely kind to me and I'm over the moon happy with his attention.
Truly...if he made an indication that he wanted to be exclusive I'd have to say...okay let me think about that for a minute....OKAY!
It DOES take effort to meet these other menfolk and you remember I'm a working gal at my little consignment gallery so WORK on top of WORK is not exactly what I always need.
I've met some doozies...let me tell you.
Like the civil engineer from Lakeland that insisted on driving 3 hours down to visit me for two days. He stayed at the Hyatt Regency which is nearby my home and we had a lovely time.
I LOVE to play tour guide to my little city and he loves history so I took him to Koreshan Park and a few other FL landmarks. We had a great time and I was happy to agree to FaceTime with him pretty extensively for about 3 weeks. I'm telling you these were MARATHON FaceTime chats. Eventually it just became too much and I told him I just couldn't manage that kind of time commitment every SINGLE night.
I do a lot of my computer work at night with my social media for my consignment gallery and I also need some down time after my busy days of being around so many customers.
BUT...I'm SO grateful I did do the FaceTime calls. You LEARN a heck of a lot about a person in their own surroundings.
I realized that this man...as bright as he was...as amazing as he was at writing (which of course grabbed me right from the get go)...I LOVE a wordsmith...he had a VERY severe drinking problem. He guzzled wine during every telephone call and chased it...wait for it...with shots of whiskey!
He also was a slob, crunching away on Dorito chips during much of the call...so LOUD...really SO obnoxious. On top of the that he must have a death wish as he has only one kidney having one removed when he was a child.
So when he started planning for a return trip over the Valentine's Day weekend..this time for FOUR days...I just had to tell him not to come. I FaceTimed him with the news..how do you cancel a visit that had been planned for two months prior via text? I guess it IS done in this day and age but I felt that would really be harsh. OMG...I thought he was going to start crying...it was the WORST situation possible. I felt like such a creep but I told him it would be so much kinder than letting him come here again, wasting all of that money on the hotel when I could see NO future forward whatsoever.
He did NOT take the news well and angry texted me for days. I finally had to block him.
So...had I only communicated with him through his messages I NEVER would have caught these red flags. His writings were treasures...he is a gorgeous looking man, seemingly so sweet and kind...but underneath it all I uncovered he has an agenda. A big deep angry agenda towards women and who knows how many he has suckered in under this innocent and seemingly submissive behavior? Probably a lot...it's sad and scary knowing how many more men like him are probably out there.
Sooooo I'm going SLOW...slow...VERY slow and really taking my time getting to know some of these men before even giving out my phone number.
Can't be too careful in these times and I've always been privacy and security conscious..all of those years in banking kind of drilled that in my head. Good thing..people can learn EVERYTHING about you just from a phone number.
But...if I hadn't ventured out there I never would have met Mr. Michael so there's that!