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The thing about balance...

Sunday, September 20, 2020

... is that it is HARD to negotiate.

I also despise when people add "life" into the balance equation. "life" isn't part of the equation, it IS the result/sum/product.

Trying to balance work + personal creativity + domestic responsibilities + relationship + healthy eating & exercise = LIFE.

And boy am I terrible at it. But we all are, really. There's more of us out there struggling with this equation than not. And we need to be open with one another about that. Very few people have things perfectly balanced, and the balance can be tipped so quickly. But, that IS the beauty of life.

I'm working on establishing balance in all areas of my life. The ones that I've been neglecting:
1. Domestic Responsibilities
2. Personal Creativity
3. My Relationship with my Boyfriend
4. Healthy Eating & Exercise

Work has taken over my life -- and not in the sense that it does for a lot of people. I don't really have to take my work home at all like many people do. There's just been so many things going on at work personnel wise, and pandemic wise, that it's taken over and I am mentally exhausted, and some days physically exhausted due to the nature of the beast.

In the fall, things usually slow down, so I'm hoping to establish some good habits with every other aspect of the equation. Getting back into routines of cleaning, laundry, making art for me rather than a client, going for walks after work, meal "prep" in the sense of planning a menu and not just eating random things that kind of go together.

And most importantly, spending more quality time with my boyfriend. We'll be celebrating our NINE year anniversary in October, and while our relationship is strong, it definitely suffered some due to the lockdown / stay-at-home order, which we followed, despite it being terrible to be apart. He's worked hard all summer as well, and so the time we've had together has been limited this year and here it is, almost the end of September really.

My sister is also looking to get some weight off and work on getting herself healthy. I think we're going to have to set some kind of goal with a tangible reality, and I think it'll be the races on Mackinac Island as nothing is happening until May 2021, and that gives us time now, to get our crap together! She's here visiting for the weekend and we went on a trail walk yesterday and it was great, once she wakes up I think we'll have breakfast and then we'll do another. I think she's a little bit more "Lost" about all of this than I am, since I still remember -- and long for -- the days of sweaty workouts and how good it felt when I was done.

Plus it's beautiful out and I think she needs to spend more time in nature and away from the screens. We all do, honestly. I also had her taking some photos yesterday, so hopefully she'll do some of that kind of stuff on her own and we can share our adventures digitally until we can go on another together. Luckily, she only lives about 80 miles away, so it's not hard to arrange an adventure. I'm so grateful I have such a wonderful relationship with my sister.

Happy Sunday, everyone. Enjoy the day. If you're struggling, know you aren't alone, and please reach out for help. That's what we're all here for. No judging, no trying to sell products to each other, just honest-to-goodness help, even if it's just to be a sounding board.
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    emoticon - Belated wishes to you!! I spend every Saturday with my mom and sister! We do a lot of walking together - Mainly in stores shopping! Hope you enjoy your sister's visit and both do well!
    33 days ago
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    Its great to have that quality time with your sister! My sister and I spent some time together and it was such a nice mini reset if you will.. Just grabbing something to eat, or shopping just helped take our minds away from the crazy at home/work.. Finding the Balance is hard during a pandemic, it has been difficult for me most days! lol

    I agree with you on the getting outside in nature emoticon I always feel more grounded when Im on the Trails!!! emoticon emoticon
    37 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/20/2020 5:18:41 PM
    37 days ago
    It is great you are going to be able to exercise with your sister. I have started up my exercise too. I am back on my zen spot eating yesterday so it is going to be recovery weight loss and then hopefully back to losing reg planned weight. I want to start cooking more too so fingers crossed with that plan. I used to do meal preps and blah blah but I decided i had to baby step this and if i waited until everything was perfect and me all ready Then i would never get started in weight loss. So far i am down 23 pounds including the + 5 pound moon cake gain.

    We go back on site for work (working from home Now) early Jan 2021. So at 1 pound per week without exercise that is 14 more pounds At least I hope. My moon cake fiasco has holidayed me out i think so hopefully the rest of year will be easier.

    Let me know how you are doing - wishing you success!
    37 days ago
    I can understand trying to find balance. I wish you good energy and success!

    I struggle with balance constantly. I have found my zen for weight loss finally but it can still get kicked off track. I love celebrating the moon festival - particularly the food. I ended up regaining 5 pounds during my celebration of the festival this year. I know officially this year it is October 1st but you have To order the food early and since this year We are all stuck celebrating home alone - mine did not stay in the box. So I am back on track and on Oct 1st it will just be a lantern and a reasonable portion of healthy food. For me the moon festival is harder to do well with food than Thanksgiving or Christmas. I think because i can order my fav 1000 calorie each box of 4 moon cake and have them delivered right to my door. This year i had to order two boxes since i could not find fav until after i had ordered the 2nd fav so yes 8000 calories of cake with me home alone. For the other holidays my weaknesses are turkey, potatoes, gravy, and dressing Which require me to cook. Cont....
    37 days ago
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