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Saturday, January 04, 2020

good Morning- I am trying to stay out of my DS's marriage problems. He calls me this morning. He had a terrible PTSD night mare and kicked his wife in her sleep. She went ballistic. She shames him and calls him names. He is so shamed himself already. she gets up - packs a bag and leaves him with no transportation. She take his daughter age 2 1/2. He is in a rage. emoticon I am having a good day inspite of the fact that my heart is torn over these two.
Dh went off to WW in a ok mood. He did not lose weight this week. No surprise there over the amount of popcorn bowls he ate. I need to stay out of their troubles, but I also know my son does not do well when he is left alone after a bad nightmare without his wife and daughter.
Do I do up there 75 miles one way - get screamed at when he is angry at himself mostly and his wife secondly. Do I tell my DH who is iffy today to go up there to support my son? I am sitting here typing in this blog and not deciding. It is not a win-win situation. emoticon I have not eaten over this - I will not. I just have to stay on my program!!! Think of me first.
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    PTSD......how I hate to hear those letters together. It is so painful for victim and family. The words said so painful. The nightmares way too scary and real, and sometimes the physical outburst are so painful and destructive. If he starts getting to self destructive call the help line. Otherwise take a watch and see stance. He knows you are there but at the same time he has to make some decisions on his own. I am sending hugs and prayers

    50 days ago
    PTSD is a terrible mental problem that your so desperately needs help for. If he is a veteran he should be able to get help from veteran’s affairs or whatever it’s called down there. We had a friend who came home from a tour in Afghanistan with this same problem. I will not go into what happened with him but it was not good
    50 days ago
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    DH comes home from WW - did not lose weight - he is in a bad mood over that but also DS situation. He is so sick of that situation. DS has asked us to go and pick him up in Killeen. DH is not happy. I have not answered DS's text.
    50 days ago
    So sorry. IT IS JUST TOUGH when your heart says go, but reality and reasonableness say don't, because they have to work out their problems. These are things that you cannot fix. UNFORTUNATELY. You lent a listening ear. And you can pray. Those are 2 things you can do for sure.

    And adding my prayers!
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    I have decided that I am not going to rescue my DS. It is a terrible situation. DIL is a shopaholic and DS has his PTSD issues. Not a win win situation. I just know DS is not always good for me. He is stubborn and so is his wife. These are his problems and not mine.
    50 days ago
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