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I lost 195lbs... yesterday

Thursday, December 19, 2019

It was a near thing, but, I finally got divorced yesterday.
Still awaiting final judgement, to see how much he gets to keep scr3wing me over financially, but, at least this chapter is closed. There will be further wars with him, but, the judge was as kind to me and the kids as she could legally be with his manipulations and the advantages his refusal to work gave him.

I have my SparkFriends to thank for saving me. You guys repeatedly read what I wrote about my day (and how I felt about it, trying to avoid eating my feelings and facing them head on instead) told me to get out of my abusive relationship and I did.

Denial can be a comforting retreat, but, it's what caused me to put on that 118lbs in the first place.
I have regained about half of what I took 2 1/2 years to lose, with a ton of medication changes, being unemployed for most of the past year (food stamp benefits were barely enough to keep the kids fed, so I was just eating cheap junk and whatever my friends and family were kind enough to send over), so no food plans and meal prep like I'd been able to afford before.

So, I don't just have the Myasthenia Gravis relapse, I've also got Reynaud's, Rheumatoid Arthritis and possibly Pleurisy.
At least I have a really good neurologist and a good rheumatologist now, and my GP knows me long enough and well enough he didn't make me jump through any hoops to get the referrals in I needed.
And one of my new friends in my local support group gave me some drugs when he switched his, which will save me a couple of bucks.

I tried working at Lowe's for awhile, because I really liked stocking and it's work I could zone out, too... but, my disability has progressed far enough, I just couldn't keep it up, even on a part-time basis. I'd work six hours and half to sleep for 12 and muscles too weak to clean the house.

Anyway, things are settling in with my new job, so I didn't have to face a second eviction this year with the kids.

My credit score is inching back up, so I hope to be able to refinance my car in the new year (had to buy it from a shady lot with high interest rates because no one else would sell to me after my bankruptcy in January).

But, I'm trying to drum up side work through my colleagues, of course, to try to catch up on all of my medical and legal bills, and in case they make me pay my ex child support and a lot of it.

y'all have been awesome, and thanks to everyone who reached out to me to check up on me while I was dealing with life.
I plan to be back here regularly in the new year, logging food and resparking my weight loss.
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    Congratulations on your divorce! I hope you can now focus on a healthy, happy you.
    433 days ago
  • FANMAN1968
    Congrats!!! Praying for ya!!
    472 days ago
    Congratulations on your divorce. Onwards and upwards. emoticon
    472 days ago
    I'm so glad that you are finally able to close that door behind you and move forward. Sorry you are experiencing your health issues, but now you can focus on yourself and your children. Best wishes to you for a blessed and happy new year. emoticon
    473 days ago
  • SPICY23
    This is one of those times you truly hope karma is real ... ... ... and that it smites his a$$.

    You deserve better and I hope you find it in the new year.

    Peace and Care
    478 days ago
    Moving on... You are one tough cookie!
    Wishing you all the best!
    483 days ago
  • EISSA7
    You and your kids have been thru so much....I truly hope that with the divorce behind you, you can live a peaceful and happy life. Good luck getting your health issues addressed!! emoticon
    484 days ago
    emoticon emoticon I am glad the nightmare is over. I hope you don't have to pay child support. Did he get custody? If you have split custody, you shouldn't need to pay any. If he's claiming that he was a stay at home dad, then you may have to pay spousal rehabilitation alimony, because they say they're supposed to be able to live like they were, until they can plant their own feet. It's ridiculous. But anyway, I'm glad you got through it.
    emoticon Just stay focused, and strong. But most of all, enjoy life along the way. Do a favorite hobby you haven't done in a while.....just for you.
    485 days ago
  • BJAEGER307
    Hooray for you! I'm glad that this has finally come to an end for you. Now to take back your life in full force and go forward one step at a time, and one day at a time. Small changes will begin to heal you. You're a fighter and a survivor and I know that you will prevail.

    I look forward to reading your blogs in the upcoming year. Wishing you all the best, that your health improves now that this major stress is legally done with. Your health is your main concern. Time to research what can be done to help you.

    Merry Christmas to you and your family. Take care! emoticon emoticon
    486 days ago
    I'm so glad you don't have to drag this out into the New Year. You've basically had to chew your own leg off to get away from this guy... I hope the financial stuff works out the best it can.

    486 days ago
    YAY!! Finally!!! Onward and upward! You have this! With your abilities and the weight lifted, you will be back on track. You are ending the year on a positive note
    486 days ago
    I pray that the legal system sees right through you ex. You have had a tough road to travel!

    486 days ago
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