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Wednesday, May 01, 2019

So I have a lot to catch you up on Sparkfriends.

A year ago I had a mammogram that ended up having some drama. Luckily for me it was just a cyst and my followup mammogram last month showed it being gone (I contribute this to a good diet).

Last week it turns out that my MIL had a mammogram done. The first one she's had since 1957 (yes you've read that correctly). Unfortunately, the news wasn't good.

If my SIL (who was present but is inaccurate with information) is to be believed, my MIL has a 5 cm mass in one breast and another small mass in another. She goes in for a biopsy this next week and will have the results on the 10th.

This has shocked both my husband and myself. My MIL seems like an institution and I can't imagine that she could have cancer and may not be with us in a few very short years. Miles lost his father to Parkinson's disease about 4 years back.

Things around here are shifting so we can prepare for what needs to be done.

Miles has a job where he can telecommute. He leaves today to OKC (we live in Tulsa - 2 hour drive). My oldest son goes to OU in Norman (south of OKC) so they'll be meeting together for dead week when Miles helps him with his computer programming classes. Both will be staying with my MIL.

This weekend I go down to OKC for a writer's conference. I'll be staying at my MIL's on Saturday and Sunday and returning Monday.

Miles will be staying the week when she goes in for tests and results. I'll come back down on the 10th and return the next day with Miles for our youngest's college graduation here in Tulsa (for an Associate, two year degree).

Our schedules after that will be determined by what the plans for her care become. She does have her daughter who lives in OKC nearby but due to the seriousness of this, Miles and I will definitely be going back down on a regular basis.

From what we've researched and been told by a friend, due to her age and good health, I'm guessing they will do medication to shrink the tumor (but this all depends on the type she has which is unknown until the biopsy results are back) and a mastectomy which she is 100% on board with.

Doing chemo is dependent upon the type of tumor she has, might not be a good idea due to her age, but if done might be just a chest wall treatment.

All of this is just guesswork at this point until test results come back.

This all seemed to come out of the blue but I've been noticing these last 2 years that she had increasingly looked more frail. Which could be put down to age but it seemed too rapid a decline to me and now I'm suspicious of the true cause considering this news.

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    Oh Becky, this is so scary and stressful for everyone. emoticon
    568 days ago
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    Holding your family up with positive thoughts, prayers for healing, and just general good vibes, friend. emoticon
    574 days ago
    emoticon prayers for your MIL and I hope your business settles down for you and some stress can be relieved.
    574 days ago
    This just reinforces the need to have regular screening, I hope your words are a wake up call for others who have "put it off". Keep yourselves well as you travel back and forth to be with your MIL and family.
    574 days ago

    Aw Becky, I'm sorry that your family has this on their plate. I remember when my mom got her news, how can this happen to someone you always assumed was invincible? Hopefully the cysts will come back benign, but it's good that you are thinking ahead.
    574 days ago
    It's going to be a tough time for sure Becky, you have my prayers and best wishes for a good outcome.
    Your son has done well .Congratulations to him
    574 days ago
    574 days ago

    A very difficult time for your MIL and all of you. My Mom passed from cancer. I am praying and supporting you with positive thoughts for a good outcome. It is difficult for all when you are not close by and knowing what may be ahead. Hugs.

    On another note, congrats to your son for his accomplishment.

    574 days ago
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