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My Journey May Not Motivate Yours, but Are You Motivated?

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Friday, February 22, 2019


Wow! I have some Spark friends that are extremely motivating. I see 50+ year-olds that have added significantly to their muscle mass, despite sarcopenia (gradual muscle loss due to aging) starting at age 40. I follow people who have lost two-thirds their body weight and have maintained that loss!

Of course, these people do not even know I exist, but they motivate me. I only want to be able to stand up and sit down without pain. I want to be able to carry groceries. I don't need to squat hundreds of pounds. I only need to lose thirty more pounds. I have already lost thirteen. I certainly would not be healthy, if I lost two-thirds my body weight! I am not motivating these people who motivate me.

I am just an average guy. I have arthritis as a result of crepitus caused by a serious car accident. I used to be a distance runner and bicyclist before the accident and have had to learn to do less, whether I like it, or not. I like to eat. I am a good cook and baker. I have had to learn to do less of that, as well. What do I have to motivate people?

We all have our stories. We all want someone to hear our story and affirm us. Actually, we are not looking to motivate others. We are looking for ourselves to either be affirmed, or motivated! So the question is not whether I motivate you, but are you motivated?

My sister motivates me. She has lost 130 pounds and has maintained it. She exercises six hours a week. She has had a rough life. She has all the excuses to weigh what she used to weigh, but she found a reason to weigh what she weighs now. I report to her daily. In so doing, I find she is inspired by my journey! For that, I am grateful.

It seems I motivate others when that is my goal. I motivate others by just being me, being genuine, taking my journey. In the end, I have not motivated anyone. If anyone has been motivated by my journey, it is because they are motivated and they have chosen my journey as a reminder of their own motivation. After all, who wants to be like me? Do we not all want to be a better "us?" I would not enjoy being you and you would not enjoy being me. I cannot motivate you. I can only show you what it is like to be motivated. I can only remind you of your own motivation.

Therefore, let me leave you with some motivating memes I have made up. Some of them have already been alluded to above. Hopefully, they remind you of your own motivation and you can use them to finish what you started.

There are thousands of excuses why you can't. Find one reason why you can. If there is one reason why you can, you can! Choose it.

You will never get everyone to like you. Accept that! You will always have people that hate you and that love you, no matter what. Jesus had a crowd that crucified Him. Charles Mason had a woman that wanted to marry him. Instead of choosing the people and trying to make your life pleasing to them, make your life what you (or God) want(s) it to be and let the people sort themselves out.

You do not really want to be like that other person. You want to be a better you. Let their journey remind you of yours, but their journey is not your journey.

You need to be a Health Star. Your body, soul and spirit are not separate. You a an integrated person. Your physical, mental/emotional, spiritual, social and financial health are interrelated and interdependent. If you want to lose weight, get healthy in all five points of the star. You can read my first blog "Becoming a 'Health Star'" www.sparkpeople.
com/mypage_public_journal_
individual.asp?blog_id=5757171
and subsequent blogs regarding being a Health Star.

We are not saved by works, but we are judged by them. Do not work to save yourself. Work out of your salvation. Do not work out of obligation, but as an expression of praise and gratitude for what you now are. (This is to be taken in a Christian perspective and I hope you will take it in that light, but if not, this truth still holds true.)

You still need other people, but do not live to please them. Live to be what you are supposed to be and then you will be able to serve others. Believe me, if you meet people's needs, they will want you around!

Shine on, Health Star, shine on! emoticon
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  • TOMATOCAFEGAL
    Inspiration
    451 days ago
  • LINDAW1207
    emoticon post ! I'm new to your blogs the 2 I have just read are very inspiring just to be my best healthy self I can be, I can't be anyone else but me. I'm working on not focusing on my slip ups and just move forward.

    Thanks for sharing your inspiring thoughts
    451 days ago
  • RAINBOWMF
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  • CLAYMACT
    @GREYTDOLPHIN, you mentioned the physical at the end of your comment, but you're also talking about the emotional, spiritual and social parts, whether you know it, or not. And that's the key! Total health. (Most people don't talk about the financial health, but it does take financial consideration, one way or the other.)

    @PAMBROWN62, you got it!

    @IMLOCOLINDA, true! Those days you're plodding along, you may as well make them fun, anyway. AT least that's the way my brain works. Then, before you know it, you're motivated, anyway. Keeping going!

    Shine on, Health Starts, shine on! emoticon
    460 days ago
  • REDROBIN47
    Great blog. Thank you.
    462 days ago
  • JAMER123
    Thank you so much for sharing with us.
    462 days ago
  • LORI-K
    Thank you for sharing. I truly want to motivate others.
    Keep on Sparking!
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    462 days ago
  • IMEMINE1
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  • PAMBROWN62
    Truth. My journey became a successful one when I decided the only completion I was in was with ME. I don’t need outside approval to appreciate what I have become, a healthier and thinner me,


    462 days ago
  • no profile photo BONDMANUS2002
    Absolutely
    462 days ago
  • REMEMBER2BME
    Great blog! Thank you.
    462 days ago
  • DARIUS2792
    Thanks for sharing
    462 days ago
  • JSTETSER
    I like the idea of being a health star!
    You motivated me!
    462 days ago
  • IMLOCOLINDA
    emoticon some daze it is much easier to stay motivated but I just keep plodding along. I'm doing it!
    463 days ago
  • SINGBHAPPY2D
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  • no profile photo GREYTDOLPHIN
    I'm discouraged that I've been walking so slowly, but then again I'm at an age that I doubt I could be a super star athlete. But I daily keep up with the exercises prescribed for my back by the physical therapist and go to the gym to use the NuStep, found in most PT places and in hospitals. It's helping my back, my knees, and my heart (an aerobic exercise I can do despite poor old aching feet). I'm determined to lost the weight for my health and for longevity. I want to stick around and enjoy life--my husband, kids, grand kids and my 2 sweet dogs--a greyhound and a pound pup (rat terrier). I've found life gets more serene and sweeter as one ages, but we've got to accept the responsibility for our own health. No sitting around whining, but exercise and eat healthfully.
    463 days ago
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  • JUNETTA2002
    Thanks for sharing.
    463 days ago
  • SJOYOUS
    You are really good with blogs. Thx for posting. I really enjoyed this. emoticon
    463 days ago
  • JCMSMILE
    Awesome blog!! I need to find what motivates me to get healthier and stay there...thank you for shining a light on this subject emoticon
    463 days ago
  • 3VEGGIES
    Nice blog! emoticon
    463 days ago
  • GETULLY
    So True. You can only do for yourself. The best that you can.
    463 days ago
  • HELLOHOLLY76
    Wow very nice blog! This holds so true. I have gone through a lot in my 42yrs... I used it as my excuse for all the weight gain. But I had to find my motivation to change that. I had to find what drove me to want better for myself. I've lost 122lbs!!
    463 days ago
  • CLAYMACT
    @GETTHERE135, your realization gives me all the motivation I need to write blogs! (I'm a teacher at heart.) You go, grrrrrl!

    @DAINFL, thank you for your comments. That's what it's all about. BTW, I'm medicine-free after 10+ years of taking meds to help with the meds! I'm living what you're saying.

    @GINA180847, haha! Actually, my family was very dysfunctional and fractured. A lot of that was a result of me - not my fault, but as a result - being the oldest and dealing with abusive parents. I passed a lot of it on, not knowing it was wring, until the damage was done. Thank Jesus for Jesus! This sister is the one I haven't been able to heal with. This has been very good for both of us. We are inspiring each other, where once we hurt each other. PTL!

    Shine on, Health Stars, shine on! emoticon
    463 days ago
  • GINA180847
    I love it that you report to your sister! Family, no one can understand you quite as well as they do. They were there all the time you were forming who you are. They probably got it wrong why you are the way you are but who cares. emoticon
    463 days ago
  • DAINFL
    I had my goals set too high my last time around, but this time, I have more realistic goals and feel better about what I'm doing. People who inspire me are the ones who are genuine, the ones who mess up, quit and then start again. I'm motivated by people who have cured health problems by losing weight (one of my goals) and are living a much better life now that they are thinner; spending more time with their families, getting outdoors more, helping others succeed.

    I think your attitude is very inspirational! Thanks for your post.
    463 days ago
  • no profile photo BONDMANUS2002
    Absolutely
    463 days ago
  • 97MONTY
    Thank you, well said.
    463 days ago
  • DIANNEMT
    Good!
    463 days ago
  • GETTHERE135
    I love this! I have recently realized I do look to other for affirmation. I want to feel like I am important and my story matters, but I need to know that for myself. I like the part about being motivated, but to be a better version of ourselves. I need to love myself, be my own best friend and know I matter.
    463 days ago
  • SUSMANNIE
    I like ‘dis. Super!
    463 days ago
  • KITTYHAWK1949
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  • CLAYMACT
    @1DAY-AT-A-TIME, you should be the blogger! You've said it so well. Thank you. Glad you've been reminded of your own motivation.

    @CHERYLA2012, exactly. We don't have to be superstars. We just need to be Health Stars!

    Shine on, Health Stars, shine on! emoticon
    463 days ago
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  • PACEKA1
    What a great message! Thank you for providing me some motivation this morning - I really needed it.
    463 days ago
  • CHERALA
    I think many times that modeling behavior / leading by example positively motivates and encourages people to do what it is they know deep in their hearts they need to do. By sharing our SP journey and putting it out via blog in the Universe, we help our fellow Sparkers (and ourselves) whether we're made aware of it or not. It boils down to listening to that little voice we all have inside us that tells us what we need to do and then doing it instead of drowning it out and ignoring it. That little voice is important. That little voice is always with us and is what carries us through.

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  • 1DAY-ATA-TIME
    Thanks Clay. You've motivated me today! I've always been pretty active with a few exceptions. But as I get older, I realize that I can't do the activities I use to do. Like you, old injuries have caught up with me. Nevertheless I'm adjusting.

    As for motivation; you're right on point. Motivation is intrinsic. We may all want to "Be like Mike" but it's not Mike that drives us. The driver is that internal reward we garner when we achieve. Shine On and keep Sparking.
    463 days ago
  • PLCHAPPELL
    Great blog
    463 days ago
  • ANNIEONLI
    Excellent blog!
    463 days ago
  • CLAYMACT
    @SOFT_VAL67, Glad I could write what you needed to read. Thank you for the well wishes!

    Shine on, Health Star, shine on! emoticon
    464 days ago
  • ALOFA0509
    Your doing it!!!
    464 days ago
  • SOFT_VAL67
    I needed to read this today. I have not done very much today at all. I needed to do so much but with my aching back, I have chosen to take a rest day. I feel pretty good about that and I wish everyone the best they can do and the best they can be.
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    464 days ago
  • CLAYMACT
    @NEBRASKANNIE, thank you for your encouraging words. That's what it's all about. And you are succeeding!

    Shine on, Health Star, shine on! emoticon
    464 days ago
  • NEBRASKANNIE
    I got a surprise last night that my efforts had motivated someone else. I was just going about my normal daily life (a challenge sometimes to me), and it showed that person how she could do something easier and better and still be rewarded even though her limitations had changed. Your blog today is so true! And BTW, you motivate me, too! LOL
    464 days ago
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