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Update: Finally living in the new house, regrouping

Saturday, July 28, 2018

I was doing pretty well in 2017 until September and October when it turned out that the new house was missing a pretty important element that was necessary for it to comply with NY State building codes. I ended up with the contractors, the code enforcement officer, and the designer (and his architect) all pointing fingers at each other, and not accepting any responsibility for this oversight.

That just about did me in, and pretty much derailed my efforts toward getting back to goal, weight-wise.

People warned us that building a house would be stressful and awful, and there certainly have been parts of the process for which that applies, but this code thing at the end was over the top. It took a different friend who turns out to also be a NY State code enforcement officer, and a friend who is an architect in NY who provided the solutions. Then I had to sternly remind the parties involved of the parts of their contracts that THEY had supplied AND signed, saying they would build to code.

I honestly was thinking I was going to have to spend a third winter in the 1880s house. Ugh.

Fortunately this did finally get resolved before the snow came (but barely) and only because of constant prodding on my part (which made me feel like going postal, at times).

It took H several months to finish the tile work upstairs so we were sort of camping out in there until March but at least the pets (and we) were warm.

So now we're still unpacking boxes and my current goal is to have my half of the garage available for my car this winter.

The knee replacement still won't entirely straighten and I'm still working 10+ hour days 5 days a week if you include the commute, but life is finally setting down enough that I think soon I will have enough mental energy available to work on logging the food, etc. again.
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    Building a house can be a complete nightmare. I think I'm still in "contractor shock" - and it's been 15 years :) But once everything is done it's so worth it! Glad things are settling down for you.
    Hope your knee gets better soon.

    1022 days ago
    A friend of mine suffered for a year after a knee replacement. He went to a different doctor. Turns out, the knee replacement was the wrong size for his body. He's doing great after the getting the right size put in. Hope your knee gets better.
    1043 days ago
    What a harrowing story and stressful situation. Hope the house is all you wanted
    1045 days ago
    I'm glad that you are back. It DOES take a lot of mental energy to plan and log the food. I lost a lot in 2013 and have been struggling since. Hopefully, we will both get back on track!

    1049 days ago
    wow! You've been through a lot. Glad you're in your new house and that you were able to get knowledgable back up to get things bulit to code.

    good luck in your new home.
    1053 days ago
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    1053 days ago
    Cheering for the progress in your life and knowing that you will pull this all together in a way that works for you and helps you to celebrate your Spark the way you want!

    1053 days ago
    So happy to hear that you are finally in the house and settling in. emoticon

    With energy that was directed toward construction freed, it can be directed elsewhere now. Hoping that knee will straighten out for you soon. Take the time you need to gather yourself and then, carry on!
    1053 days ago
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    I get it. After playing general contractor on our house in 2001 & my Mom's in 2002 + recent upgrades and renovations on a smaller scale than previously, I got stressed and caved into my emotional eating. Glad things have settled down and know that you will enjoy it when finally settled in!
    1053 days ago
    So glad that life is settling down again!! Thrilling that you are into your new house: hope that your knee straightens out for you soon!!

    These big big changes take a while to assimilate -- but I don't hear any regret that you undertook the adventure!!
    1053 days ago
    I hope it works out for you Bonnie, its a long time coming. emoticon
    1053 days ago
    Thanks for sharing!!
    1053 days ago
    Ugh! Glad you are finally, finally moved in!
    1053 days ago
    Sound like a fun time hope it all works out for you
    1053 days ago
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