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The Road not Taken...The Pie not Eaten

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Wednesday, January 04, 2017

With apologies to Robert Frost who poetically described:
"Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,. And sorry I could not travel both"

I'm thinking about the 2 roads I have traveled.
One was smooth sailing with lots of billboards for all kinds of food and excuses for more and more eating. It ended at the weight that did not make me happy.

The other was harder to traverse, many obstacles, potholes, situations and people who implied the journey was not worth the effort. However there was also encouragement from resources and like-minded people following the path along with me.

These roads converged often. Decisions as to direction had to be made again and again.
Here's one of them.



This is what remains of a peanut pie. It's like a pecan pie but with a different kind of nut. When pies are listed as to calorie content, this one is near the top,

The house guest who brought it had gone home,

So there it sat like a billboard at a crossroads. I am fully capable of eating an entire pie, not because I'm upset or sad, but because it tastes good and I want to eat it. My children tell their children about the time they watched me eat an entire apple pie all by myself.

As for this holiday pie, I did eat 2 pieces over 2 days and had already cut another piece when I read a blog by Gaby1948. One sentence asked "do you need to eat that pie?"

What? Can she see me?
No, I don't need to eat this pie, but I've already cut it.



See where it is now? It's balanced on my trash compactor!
That's exactly what I did with it and the rest of the pie too.

At one point on my old road I would not have done this. I believed that food shouldn't go to WASTE. But once on the other road I realized that going to WASTE is preferable to going to WAIST.

Yes, I know Frost was describing a road we have NEVER taken.

Once I was a young person who had never been on the weight gain road. I wish someone had put up a "danger" sign back then. Some roads should NOT be taken.

I wish we all could go back in time and warn our younger selves. Perhaps we can at least be a guidepost for our children and grandchildren. Take the road of good choices and a healthy lifestyle.

Edit: Just some background. We "waste" very little food. We compost what works well and even feed the critters out here in the country. But no one in my frame of reference would benefit from my left over pie. My neighbors are all dealing with various challenges which require watching what they eat.

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  • LIHAGEMAN
    My parents grew up in the depression, so I understand why they enforced the "clear your plate" rule and did not waste food. I remember Mom telling of taking just a cold baked potato or a slice of bread with lard for her school lunch. They needed to store calories for when food was scarce. Even when I was growing up food was sometimes scarce. I remember meals of breaded tomatoes (a slice of toast with stewed tomatoes) or milk toast (toast with butter and milk). The bread for the toast was homemade as was the butter, so it was delicious!
    They were also physically active most of the day as they lived on a farm. In addition to milking cows and gathering eggs they had to pump and carry water to the house, chop and carry wood and carry out ashes, run the laundry through tubs and a wringer washer and then carry it out to hang on the line, garden with a push tiller, and prepare most of their food from scratch. All this took a lot of energy, so they needed that stored fuel.
    I do not have to use nearly as much energy to meet my daily needs and have to schedule exercise into my day to get enough activity. Therefore any extra calories I put into storage as fat have a tendency to stay there. I still feel the internalized pressure to "clear my plate", so I have learned to not put so much on it and go back for seconds if I really feel I need more. I hate throwing food away, but I know it is being wasted just as much if I add it to my waist. I did like someone's mention of freezing the leftovers. Sometimes I think to do that, sometimes the temptation wins and I eat it.
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  • PROVERBS3128
    Congratulations!!
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  • JIACOLO
    Great job!
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  • HAYBURNER1969
    Proud of you! I know that was hard to do!
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  • LAURANCE
    I have such a hard time throwing food away. My mother went through the depression and experienced poverty and hunger, and she passed the food anxiety on to me.
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  • NANFACEMIRE1
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  • SIMPLY_JAE
    Great blog..I did not do so well over the hollidays..getting back to disciplining myself again..It is hard...I ate out sadness as a young girl..those habits are hard to break
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  • SDEHNKE
    In Christmas past I've made up to 25 dozen Christmas cookies. Now all our children are grown I had cut it down but this year I didn't make any. We had 3 tins that were given to us as gifts and I figured that was enough for the sweet lovers in this house. I will make a few for our grandchildren that are coming this weekend and send the leftovers home with them. Such a change from my former life.

    Suellen
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  • PENOWOK
    I also struggle with throwing away food, but recognize that it must be done for my good health at times!
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  • MEANDERBLUE
    While in the gym working out last night and listening to exercise music, I thought a lot about what you mentioned in your blog ... about how you wish you had been warned long ago of the dangers of consuming too much. I had a similar thought about why I didn't speak up more for myself way back then, why I let others determine my worth. I wished I could go back and re-do. But then again, I wouldn't have learned so much about life, and gained so much wisdom, had I done things differently.

    My key to success is gratitude that wisdom has come my way.

    Thanks for your post. It gave me a great start to the day!
    1113 days ago
  • STRUMERCAT
    Loved this post! And consuming calories not needed is also wasteful - not just waistful. Your body becomes the garbage can. Best wishes for a successful 2017!
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  • DEBVNE
    I thoroughly enjoyed reading this...your insight, your version of mind games, and your victory. I applaud your decision to lead by example for the younger members of your family. Gosh, we just didn't know...did we? The food pyramid of old is outdated. Nutritional content was unavailable, simplex versus complex carbs, macronutrients, WHAT?! The list is endless, yet so are the possibilities. Clearly the young are at a pivotal point where they can make changes that put health and fitness in leading roles. It is waaaaay harder to let go of habits you have had for decades...so here's to healthily ever after for all of us. Thank you for your blog!
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  • HMBROWN1
    Wow! That is some self control! I LOVE pecan pie. Cannot have it in the house. Maybe one day. Congrats!
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  • CHERYLHURT
    I take ONE. It and send the rest down the garbage disposal.
    1113 days ago
  • no profile photo SHARONCAPPS
    Good job. You are doing this and you will win.
    1113 days ago
  • GABY1948
    emoticon emoticon SO glad to see this blog featured today! I will ditto my yesterday's comment again!
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  • TCANNO
    I wish we all could go back in time and warn our younger selves. Perhaps we can at least be a guidepost for our children and grandchildren. Take the road of good choices and a healthy lifestyle.


    This really says it all Eileen, well done

    Trev
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  • OXYGEN9
    What a great blog! Great job with getting rid of that pie. emoticon emoticon
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  • CHICKEE7
    When we were young our parents made us eat everything in our plates. No food went to waste - but boy it sure did go to waist !! You are so right. emoticon
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  • SWEDE_SU
    been there, did that - with the rest of the cookies and sweets that a neighbor gave us for the holidays. something we never would have done in the starving armenians/africans/chinese days... great blog!
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  • MAREE1953
    Too bad we don't have the "shot glass" approach to desserts like they do in other countries. I will freeze food or put it in a drawer and stay away from it, but it's still very hard for me to throw anything away. Even though I agree wholeheartedly with "waste vs. Waist". Great blog, thanks for sharing.
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  • POLSKARENIA
    Keep taking that road...
    Waste not waist is better than waste of waist!!
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  • GABIBEAR
    emoticon emoticon emoticon Good for you!!! How awesome is that?? Thanks for sharing!!!

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  • KEEPITUP4LIFE
    you took the best road. I did the same with some treats left behind so they wouldn't find their way to my behind.

    Hugs Susan
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  • BLUEJAY1969
    Love your blog!! In our home as a child I was constantly told to "clean my plate" when I wasn't being deprived of food...... very confusing childhood there.... this set me up for a lifetime of fighting the urge to eat it all. In the last 3 years I have broken that habit by using your very phrase..... To waste or to waist? Sometimes to cut the guilt, I will put the small amount left in the fridge - unless it's something I can't resist. (For me, it's cake.) Then use the rule: when in doubt, throw it out. It only amounts to a few bites here and there but.... for me it works!

    Congratulations on throwing out the pie!
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  • AQUAGIRL08
    Way to go!
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    Comment edited on: 1/5/2017 1:07:50 AM
  • CBASS30
    I really like your blog, thank you
    1114 days ago
  • MERRYMARY42
    great Brooklyn, I would have eaten it, that is why you are in maintenance and I am still fighting that scales
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  • DESIREE671
    Love this blog. I've thrown away treats - but very rarely LOL!
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  • PRNCSCUP1-2FULL
    Yay You! Funny how you still have the urge to explain to us how you don't waist food! I think it is fantastic you threw it away! And, really, what gives us the right to pass the food onto others who may be struggling with weight or health issues? Once again, good for you!
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  • SHARON10002
    Oh yeah - still deal with some of these leftover "guilt phrases" from parents, plus an inherited sweet tooth. I congratulate you on feeding this to your trash compactor!
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  • THOMS1
    Good blog. Another survivor of the poor children in china syndrome. Keep on sparkin. emoticon
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  • KELLIEBEAN
    Oh the talks I could have with my younger self on so many of life's lessons!

    Great blog!
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  • DOVESEYES
    Ah yes memories of "Sit there till that plate is empty !!!" ringing in my ears :)
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  • SMILINGEYES2
    Worked so hard with my child to not make him finish his plate. He knew he would not have a dessert if he said he was full. He was always thin growing up while my husband and I both dealt with weight issues and had been raised not to waste food.
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  • SUEARNOLD1
    emoticon I too grew up with the clean plate concept. I'm learning, that's OK when you use smaller plates emoticon

    Seriously - emoticon resistance!
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  • MOBYCARP
    Yes, yes, yes! Learning to throw food out is a hard lesson, and I don't always do so when I really should. But on that other road, I would throw food out . . . roughly never. So I guess I have improved some.
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  • SUSIEMT
    Yeah! I used to belong to the clean plate club!! My mother and dad screwed with our heads! No wonder we all had weight problems. Fortunately I found spark and I no longer have to feel guilty about those poor children in China! Seriously, That goodness for spark people! It doesn't have to hurt! With the right tools it can be painless! Great blog BTW!

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  • REDROBIN47
    Great blog and congrats on throwing away the rest of the pie. I am going through the same situation with food sent home by step-daughter-in-law and daughter. I did just throw away a big ziplock bag full of Chex mix this morning. But there are still frosted sugar cookies in a container on the counter that I am having trouble staying out of. DH says he wants them. Since I joined SP I have had no problems at all with sweets, until this Christmas. I had a few sweets and now I am craving them like crazy and can't resist. I am going to tell DH if he has to have these cookies, he needs to put them away somewhere and I don't want to know where. Or they are going in the trash.
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  • PAMBACH
    Love it! So true. I am now to the point where if I put something in my mouth and it really doesn't taste as good as I thought it would I politely spit it out. Just not gonna' swallow it. Back in the day I was a clean plater! Not so much now, if I get full I either get rid of it or put it back in the fridge! So much power!

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  • LIVEDAILY
    Ohh...I have been craving gingerbread from before Christmas. Not gingerbread cookies, but that deep, molassasy old-fashioned gingerbread cake. I've resisted, and the craving is waning, but I think this blog of yours is the definite death knell.
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  • SUNNYBEACHGIRL
    Stopped baking several years ago and learned to throw unwanted food away from a WW leader. She was sympathetic to people who grew up hoarding every crumb but made us realize our own health was more important
    1114 days ago
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