Finding the right weight loss buddy
Thursday, September 29, 2016
I've finally lost a little weight. I'm doing it, logging my food most days and working out. Yoga, cardio and some light strength training are on the menu right now.
I can no tell you enough how much having a person to do this with adds value and motivation to the experience. We check up on each other, tell each other everything and make each other get off the couch. My friend @SummerofBrandy gets me to the gym and I get her moving faster, harder and reaching higher...all literally. We made a plan, set goals and cheer each other on for every little battle won. We forgive each other for slip ups and all that makes it easier to forgive oneself. Actually it feels like you're giving your mistakes to someone else and they forgive and forget them for you so you can just move forward.
Find yourself a gym buddy and a weight loss buddy, be it here on SP or in real life, it is invaluable! However there are some requirements that are important for it to work. First of all you should be starting from as close to possible the same point. Brandy and I actually happened to weight exactly the same when we started, however it can also be something else you have in common such as an injury, depression, even having kids the same age. You want to be able to vent to your partner and be understood. Also, both of you need to be ready to commit and most of all to trust and be completely honest with each other and yourselves. It won't work if you can't have that trust and understanding. Both of you should have something to contribute to the relationship, perhaps one of you is super motivated and the other knows their way around the gym, perhaps you are more experienced with healthy meals and your partner is good at sticking with a plan. If the relationship is one sided you are bound to get tired of it one way or another. It might be inspiring to partner up with a super fit person, but that hardly every works for both parties.
Don't shy. Strike up a conversation with someone who looks nice enough to you, at the gym, a support group or waiting for your kids to get out of school, who maybe weighs the same as you or that you think you have something in common with. Start by telling them you're trying to get healthy and ask them if they'd be interested in working out together some time. Worst thing to happen is you keep going on your own, so there's really nothing to loose.
It is very difficult to find someone who will be as motivated and committed as you, perhaps you are better off doing it on your own, rather than with someone who's not in it, however with the right person partnering up can be the best thing ever.