A Lesson in Kindness & Positivity
Friday, June 13, 2014
Quick story to relate…
I was on the elevator at work just now and at one stop the lady next to me said “Have a good weekend” to the lady getting off the elevator, who in return completely ignored the well wishes and dashed off with her nose in the air. When the door closed, the nice looked at me and said “I was just trying to be nice…” and I replied “I was just thinking about how nice you were and how sad it makes me that people can’t return the kindness! I know everyone has a lot going on in their lives but when did we lose common respect?” She agreed. We wished each other the best weekends and walked off.
I had just picked up hummus and pretzels from the café because I just couldn’t bring myself to eat another salad for lunch today and I figured it was better than the pesto and cheese covered sandwich or the quesadillas. I sit down and open it up and my coworker walks by and goes “Ugh, you know those are like 10 weight watchers points right? That is terrible for you.” And keeps going.
I ate it anyways, I made the food choice and I stuck with it, but REALLY? I am a firm believer that you never know what someone is going through so you should keep your comments to yourself unless they are kind or encouraging. I also firmly believe that you should NEVER comment on someone’s food unless it is to say “That looks yummy!” or something positive. I’m kind of sitting here in shock that someone would say something like that not just to me but to anyone – and about hummus too!
I know I have SERIOUSLY struggled in the past with food guilt. A little bit of it crept up on me earlier this week when I made a bad dinner decision. I have been working really hard to accept and learn from those events and to move on, but some days it isn’t easy. I had a split second when she made that comment where I considered throwing the hummus in the trash – THAT is how strong my guilt used to be that a comment like that could throw me just a little.
We’re all unique and we all have our own decisions to make. We eat what we want, when we want, how we want it. We exercise when we want, how we want to. Everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for another, but I can never imagine trying to tell someone they are doing something wrong especially when EVERYONE’S journeys get tough. My week has been thrown off with my house looking like a tornado hit it and no working kitchen. This week has been challenging. And if I hadn’t been in a semi-good mindset, her comment could have thrown me for a complete tailspin.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I appreciate everyone’s positive support on Spark and I encourage you to keep spreading that positivity to everyone you meet every day. You never know when you lend someone the smile they desperately need. You never know when your kind words lift a person when they are at their lowest. You never know!
Hope you guys have a great weekend. A big move for me, lots of lifting for exercise and a new house after it is all done. Woo hoo!