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Trying weekend

Monday, November 25, 2013

Normally, I am not one to complain without seeing the bright side of things. However, I had a really rough week last week at work and I was hoping that maybe this could be a laid back weekend. Well, all I could think about was getting out of the house and doing something. We had no plans for Saturday and I thought we were going to just sit back and watch movies with the kids all weekend since it was cold. No such luck! I found myself aching to get out of the house. I then found out that my two best friends went shopping without me. Totally bummed me out but I am over it. It really hurt at the time though, especially since I needed an escape! I stayed home and cleaned...grrrr.... I did manage to teach my 7 & 8 yr old girls how to make dumplings for chicken and dumplings. I think they had fun. They wouldn't eat the dumplings though! Those picky little girls! LOL

So I also found out that my husband's ex-wife keeps getting invited to all of his aunt's activities. They had a wreath-making party. They don't invite me to anything! I feel very left out. I can't tell you all of the awful things that his ex does but she definitely makes life difficult! His aunts won't even take the time to get to know me! I am not a horrible person. The only thing that I have done is make their nephew very happy. So these aunts are all coming to our house for Christmas. THEY decided that Christmas was at our house this year. Funny thing is that they decided that when they were at my husband's ex-wife's house playing cards! What???!!! I don't get it! I don't even want these people at my house! However, I think that if I cancel Christmas I would be giving them another reason to talk about me behind my back. So what do I do? Smile and pretend nothing is wrong and just kill them with kindness? Or do I tell them how they make me feel? I am so torn. I know I should just be the sweet person that I am and just let them walk all over me but how much do I take? Am I really being the bigger person here? Is it bad to wish for a snow storm on December 25 so they won't come over? LOL

OK so I am done venting! I didn't get any exercise in since Wednesday. I know that it is my own fault so I am going to do better this week! Have a great day and sorry for the venting!
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  • BIGPAWSUP
    Sorry about the stress but I really can relate. My mom's family has stayed closer to my ex than me. It is hard to deal with. I wish you the best of luck.
    2558 days ago
  • TATTER3
    Sorry about this stress. You can handle this! Keep sparkin'!!
    2559 days ago
  • BIGSISTRUCK
    Oh, man! I know how it is having an ex constantly being a pain in life. I'm sorry you have to deal with that! Have you talked to your husband about it? I would feel very annoyed if the ex is getting invited and not me! That just doesn't seem right at all to me. That was very wrong of them to place Christmas at your house without consulting you. I would just talk to them about it and see what's going on or you're going to continue being miserable! Hope things work out for you soon! emoticon
    2559 days ago
  • DRPEPPIE121
    Wow! That IS a rough week! So sorry to hear about that... NEVER FUN to be left out. I always try my best to include people...

    Gosh... well, regarding the Ex-Wife/Aunt situation... that's a rough one. I'm not sure where to start with that... but I would maybe go to one of them in person. If they're nearby....why don't you invite one of them out to coffee or something so you can discuss the holidays (that's your guise)...and be real pleasant, but mention to her that you feel hurt. Be careful not to point fingers too much... but definitely express how you are feeling.

    I would say, if that doesn't work....THEN it's up to the hubby to talk to the Aunts. I'm always for take care of the problem yourself FIRST...and if that doesn't work... the hubby is next. If that doesn't work... I'm not sure where to start. I mean, I'm all about "killing with kindness", but if they disrespect you in a big way at your house... that's all. They can leave. I suppose it'd be wise to have the hubby on your team 100% and make sure y'all are on the same page.

    I really don't know how well that will work or whatevers....but try not to stoop to their level. Clearly they've made friends with the Ex-Wife and probably don't invite you because they don't want you to feel uncomfortable (i'm just guessing)... but they probably still feel like she's family and I'm not sure if that'll ever stop or not? I don't know. It's a complex situation with divorces because of relationships that are made sometimes are not broken just because the husband/wife divorced.

    I hope that helps....I don't have too much experience with it...but just pray first of all! I think that's the main thing to do!

    Just do your best....and you can do it!
    2559 days ago
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