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Let's get real! Our enemy... the mirror.

Monday, July 22, 2013

We always want to "improve" ourselves, whether it's by:
losing weight
toning up
accomplishing a goal
constantly changing our hairstyle or color
whitening our teeth
tanning
or
even having the latest fashion.

There is nothing wrong with pursuing any of the above, though I think it's extremely important that we ask why.
Is it a need? Is it a want? Is it really going to benefit you or the others around you?
Is it for us?
Should we be healthy? ABSOLUTELY
Should we care about our appearances? Yes
There is a fine line between attaining these things, and obsessing over them to the point of destroying who you are.

We (especially women) are all self-conscious. We know people are looking, because we look too. Do we think negatively of others? No, well, we SHOULDN'T anyway.
But we look, and we always want what someone else has, and while we stand there being envious... chances are they're doing the same.

Is our self-esteem so low that we can't see our own self worth?

I've stood in front of a mirror and examined everything about myself.
my eyes
my teeth
my arms
my stomach
my hair...
you name it, I've probably stood there deciding what I did and didn't like, more so the last one.
I admit it. I admit it because I know I'm not the only one. We all do, some more than others.
For some of us the enemy is the scale, but for EVERYONE the enemy is the mirror.

I had a habit of standing there, and tearing myself down.
I could find multiple reasons I didn't like "this" about "that" and hated "that" about "this".
What good did it do me? Absolutely nothing. It made my self-esteem crash lower and lower... and increased how self-conscious I was to the point I never wanted to go out, ever.
This is such a dangerous practice... it can lead to depression, eating disorders, and just flat out hating who you are.

Why do we do this to ourselves?? It's HORRIBLE how hard we are on ourselves.
We have stuff EVERYWHERE telling us we're not good enough.
Not thin enough, not pretty enough, not stylish enough, not cool enough.... enough is ENOUGH!
The magazines, the ads all over the internet, commercials on tv.... UGH!
Do we do it for the opposite sex? No, I don't honestly believe we do... we do it to keep up with THOSE people, because we want to be them.
I'd rather be real. I'm sick of everyone telling me I need to be like this or that.
The typical sickly skinny, dark tan, perfect white teeth, bleach blonde hair or brunette covered in highlights, did I mention skinny and tan?!?!

Let's get real...

What should we do? Well, for starters, ignore all that CRAP, it's all a LIE. We ARE beautiful, we are worth loving, especially by US.
Be healthy.... YES! If that means losing weight because you're obese, do it. If it means eating healthier meals, do it.
Care about your appearance... yes. You are worth the time to take care of yourself and present yourself in a way that shows you care about who you are.

I dare you

I dare you to go look in that mirror... look at all the places that you have beaten yourself up over before, and decide if you're being RIDICULOUS, or if it's something you feel is worth the time to work on. Look at yourself... for every negative that you come up with you need to turn it around and have a positive to go with it.
It's not easy but it's worth it. You're worth it.
No more tearing yourself down because the world has stupid standards.
It's time to raise your self-esteem
It's time to stop being so self-conscious
It's time to be happy
It's time to love who you are

I dare you...

I dare you to see just how beautiful you really are.

Psalm 139:14
"I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Wonderful are your works;
my soul knows it very well"

Much Love,

Em
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  • SMURFETTE-FR
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    2639 days ago
  • LAYLAROSE01
    powerful!!!!!!
    2715 days ago
  • GREGGWEISBROD
    I think I still see areas that I would like to improve, but having seen the improvement from a couple of months ago, I don't really sweat those areas, and am more amazed by how good my body looks compared to then, and the knowledge that it will only improve every day that I choose to work at it. For some, it takes them a long time to see their results, so I guess I'm fortunate that I find myself in this mental state. Your post is so bang on though for those that refuse to see the changes, and who go past their goals to the opposite side of the BMI spectrum. Obsessing can be a dangerous animal if not kept on a leash. Glad you posted this, it's an extremely important message to ourselves.
    2820 days ago
  • ARUNNINGKAT
    Very well put. We have to be on this journey for the right reasons and give ourselves a break sometimes.
    2827 days ago
  • REFIRE
    Great blog! I intentionally avoid camera's because I don't like to see myself in pictures, and all of the mirror's in my house are from the waist up (I don't like to see my big butt)...it's sad how much we pick on our appearances. But when my kids run up to me and hug me with big smiles on their faces I ask myself am I being overly critical?
    2827 days ago
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