How to celebrate an anniversary? - 3 yrs of maintenance
Wednesday, November 07, 2012
How appropriate that Thanksgiving Day will be the date that I’m scheduled to join that special 5% who keep the weight off for 3 years. How ironic that it’s also a day we traditionally celebrate with food, lots of food.
What can I do to mark the occasion? Maybe:
Find a “Turkey Trot” race to run. That’s an alternative to a morning of cooking.
Plot a route through the mall to hit all the sales on “Black Friday”
Find a fancy restaurant that charges a lot for very little food – enforced portion control.
Volunteer to help serve Thanksgiving Dinner to the needy
My husband and I don’t have a good record with anniversary celebrations.
The problem began 45 years ago on our wedding day when the priest didn’t show up. He FORGOT the date. There I was standing in the back of the church, with the organist playing “Here Comes the Bride” and this bride wasn’t moving. There was no clergyman there to make it official.
Fortunately, it was Brooklyn in 1967. Finding a substitute priest was easy although the delay did cause a stir among the guests who were wondering which one of us was having second thoughts.
The marriage went well, but each anniversary was a bust.
Recalling a few of them:
#1 - DH got his orders to active duty in the army. Lots of tears, no celebration.
#2 - DH got orders to Viet Nam. Same reaction as last year.
#3 - DH was in Viet Nam. Baby & I were alone, very sad
#5 - 6 months pregnant pulling a U-Haul across the country with a 3 year old throwing up in the back seat
#10 – There was a gruesome murder in our neighborhood.
#20 – DH scheduled his elective hemorrhoid surgery. Why not, right?
#39 – I tripped over a planter outside the restaurant and fell sprawled out face first resulting in a frozen shoulder that took 6 months of rehab
If you’re familiar with the songs of the sixties, our anniversary, June 3rd is noteworthy for another reason. According to Bobby Gentry, it was also the day that “Billy Joe McAllister jumped off the Tallahatchie Bridge.” (Ode to Billy Joe, August 1967)
Maintenance is a different kind of anniversary and even if I don’t plan anything special, I will be very thankful just as I am for 45 years of marriage. In both cases I’m in this for the long term. One bad day doesn’t matter in marriage or as we work toward a healthy lifestyle.