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Strangers that treat you better than your own friends.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Don't you just hate it when someone posted a mystery status like "THECRAZYMANGO doesn't understand why strangers treat me better than my own friends do."

Oh, wait. That was me! emoticon

Let me explain.

I went out drinking to help a friend celebrate her birthday. It's a long story and the details depress me, so basically she ditched me. When she ditched me, I was left with three guys. Mind you, they were perfect gentlemen. But, she didn't know that. That situation could have gone south real quick.

Anyhow, I decided at that point I had a choice: stay out and have fun or go home and mope. I stayed out.

In fact, I danced with the guy that I really like. Than, he had me dance with his best friend. It was alot of fun. So, I got to be "it" girl. Something, I have never been. Not gonna lie. It was amazing.

I am even still talking to both of them.

This is how it is supposed to be. I am supposed to be treated like a beautiful woman.

Anyhow, back to my status, that situation got me thinking. Why did three guys treat me better than my friend? They could have ditched me. Oh, I know what you are thinking! But, if THAT was the only thing they wanted, they would have acted differently. And, they wouldn't be talking to me after that night and they are.

Even with the situation, I am pretty happy. I met a real guy that seemed pretty amazing to me. He does live in ND. Boo! But, his best friend does live in my town so that means he has to visit.. right, lol?

Anyhow, make today count! It is the start of the week! emoticon
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    Hi Savannah........

    That "So-Called Friend" would be HISTORY!!!!!

    I am so glad that your night turned out both safe and fun for you!!! I hope that you will always have situations like this where you meet good people. It isn't always the case though, which is why it might be good to be with a group rather than just one person.

    You were always the IT-GIRL!!!!! You just didn't know it.

    3180 days ago
    My feeling is that you need to permanetly ditch the "so called friend," cuz she is a loser for leaving you like that. Not to mention rude.

    It could have gone so bad that I do not even what to think about what could have happened to you. I watch those real life stories like 48 hours and Dateline. SCARY!!!

    Glad thought that you found some gentlemen, they are very hard to find these days.

    Good blog!
    3180 days ago
    I totally agree with Erika, she is so right about friends who don't have your best interest and Safety foremost on their mind. My daughter has sorority friends who encouraged binge drinking and on her 21st birthday left her passed out... They wanted to take her home and let her sleep.

    Fortunately her real sister was there and called an ambulance. My daughter was at a .34 and the doctor told her sister they had to admit her and pump her stomach, put her on IV's to hydrate her. It was touch and go and a good thing she brought her in. If they had taken her home to sleep it off...she would have died. Not one of those girls even called to see how she was the next day. My older daughter has made it clear how she feels about the kind of friends they are.

    Yes my younger daughter is still friends with these girls but they all know how her sister and I feel about what kind of selfish, irresponsible friends they are. My younger daughter will tell you she is responsible for her own actions. I taught her this, but when you are as bad as she was, it is time for a friend to be responsible. We have made our point to all of them, binge drinking is irresponsible and they all need to grow up and face reality...

    They are ten years older, married, and half of them are pregnant. They still love to party, but have finally decided they can drink without getting wasted. They still are selfish and all want to be the center of attention. I think she should have dropped them years ago and found better friends.

    Your friends need to be able to really care about you and be there when you need them!! They should never leave you alone when you are drinking...period!! Sorry, I got carried away...it is a real hot issue for me. You have to have friends who have your back!
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    3180 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/12/2011 9:15:54 PM
  • ERIKA05
    I think that everyone goes through a period in their life where they shed some 'toxic' friends, or for whatever reason are forced to examine their friendships and find that they aren't getting out what they're putting in. Big life and lifestyle changes seem to catalyse this kind of examination. It happened for me after I took some time off work to care for a family member who was dying - I felt like I outgrew the friends who didn't have the capacity or compassion to support me overnight, or who stopped seeing me socially because talking about this change in my life bummed them out. Honestly, some of them made it *really* easy to walk away.

    I'm glad that you embraced your inner "it" girl and resolved to have a great night out anyway, and found people to hang out with who were more fun and less work! You're totally right - you're a beautiful, bada$$ woman, so why should you be treated like anything else?
    I'll bet your friend's night didn't end up being as fun as yours!
    3180 days ago
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