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Why are people so MEAN

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Everyone says ... " you should love your body no matter the size" But it is hard to love something that people constantly make fun of or talk so negative about..... Every where you turn people make so many jokes about being over weight. It is not right. Why can't they find other stuff to joke about.

Just the other day I was at the beach and I was with my boyfriend and we were walking pass a group of kids (around 18 years old). Right when we passed the girl in the group told one of the boys "oh look at the girl in the yellow and black, that's your type right there" and the boy replied "hell no that B$%#@ is too FAT."....

That really got to me... plus I am such an emotional person, I started crying. For one I did nothing to them for them to say such things about me... and even if they felt the need to be so rude why not keep it between them and not say things so loud that it made it possible for me to hear it???

I just dont know why people think because someone is overweight it makes them worthless. I am a great person and just because my body doesn't match my personality doesn't make me worth any less.

People just frustrate me....
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  • FLACA_CHIQUITA
    That's rough to hear; I heard it a couple years ago at the mall with my boyfriend and it destroyed me. But sometimes (not as much anymore) I feel if I walk by people and tey randomly laugh it's because of me. It's not that I feel I'm THAT big, but society makes me feel so ugly.

    Don't let them bring you down. You're doing great on here and making great progress with yourself. Those guys are tools anyways. :)
    3383 days ago
  • MIPCY1
    Parents don't teach their children to be respectful. Growing up, kids were so mean! My mom taught me to respect others, but so many of the kids I went to school with controlled their parents, and they consequently don't have any manners. Or concepts of what it feels like for someone to do that to them. Don't let them bother you. They are a result of parents who didn't know enough about being civilized to teach their children. For that matter, so many children are raised by the internet and tv these days. don't let them bother you. That's the big thing. You know what you're working for. they have no idea. One of these days, you're going to be the healthy one and their eating habits will have caught up with them. you're working for your health, and those children will never understand that.
    3384 days ago
  • 1GAMECOCKFAN
    I know that's rough to hear, but while this is easier said than done, you have to learn to ignore people like that. Or better yet... pity them because their need to talk badly about or put other people down is only showing their own insecurities! Think about it... if she and/or he were secure with themselves, they wouldn't feel the need to talk about other people like that.

    I learned this from my 12 year old daughter! She and I went out the pool one day, and I couldn't find the bathing suit I normally wear with the skirt on it... so I had to wear the one with NO skirt. I was so insecure even though it was just the two of us because I didn't have the skirt to cover up the upper thighs. When she told me the bathing suit looked good on me, I just kind of laughed her off and proceeded to spend the rest of the afternoon in the water in an attempt to hide myself. She later told me that it doesn't matter what someone looks like, it's who they are as a person that counts. Of course, I already knew that but to hear her say it really brought it home for me. This coming from the competitive gymnast with the perfect six-pack abs, guns for arms and legs to boot from training so much... I only bring that up because even with the gymnasts body she gets from competing/training, she STILL knows that it's not what's on the outside that counts!

    Hang in there. I know it's tough (been there myself), but this too shall pass. emoticon
    3384 days ago
  • CECE0330
    Ugh. I blame technology for the decline in civilized manners. People are so used to dealing with others semi-anonymously anymore that they have lost their filter; you know, that little thing in their head that causes them to STOP and THINK before they say something and think about the ramifications of their words. Plus, when you get kids of a certain age in a group, they WILL become herd-like and lash out at ANYTHING (clothes, weight, hair, the way a person walks/talks) they can to make their own insecure selves feel better.

    emoticon (and virtual kick to their heads! emoticon )
    3384 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/27/2011 11:32:17 AM
  • LYNNBELTONLOSES
    HONEY LISTEN, THIS IS HOW IT IS NOW A DAYS. NO RESPECT. ACTUALLY ITS NOT AN ISSUE OF WEIGHT I THINK AS MUCH AS ITS AN ISSUE OF KIDS, PEOPLE, MEN BEING RESPECTFUL. THIS HOWEVER YOU CANT CHANGE AND I'M SORRY IT MADE YOU CRY BUT YOU CAN TURN THIS AROUND BOO. IF YOU GOT TIME GO BACK AND READ MY "NEW YEARS EVE" BLOG. IT WAS ONE OF THE FIRST ONES I POSTED AND IT SO REMINDS ME OF THIS SITUATION THAT YOU HAD. I AM SOOOOO GLAD THIS HAPPENED TO ME THO HONEY B/C IT MADE ME STRONGER AND MADE ME PUT IT ALL INTO MY WEIGHTLOSS EFFORTS AND FOR REAL TOO. PLUS MY AWESOME "WEIGHTLOSS COACH" GARY IN NYC (IF YOU WANT HIS NUMBER HONEY JUST LET ME KNOW, HE REALLY UNDERSTAND WOMEN AND HAS HELPED ME TREMENDOUSLY) WORKED ME AND CONSTRUCTED A CUSTOM PLAN THAT MADE ME SHED, REDUCE AND LOSE THIS FAT! POUND BY POUND POINT BLANK PERIOD HONEY!
    ANYWAY GURL THIS WILL PASS AND YOU WILL BECOME STRONGER AND YOU WILL LOSE THIS WEIGHT!

    TAKE CARE AND I HOPE THIS HELPS HONEY.

    ENJOY YOUR DAY GURL,
    SMOOTCHEZ,
    YA GURL,
    ~lynn
    (yahoo im: belton_lynn)
    3384 days ago
  • no profile photo CD10393718
    I'm the same as you, I care too much about what other people think and I'm really sensitive when it comes to things like that. I think that the media has given some people a warped view of what's 'Beautiful'. It's bad and even though it's hard you just have to try to be happy in your own body (something I'm still working on). If you feel you need to lose weight then go for it, but do it for you and nobody else.
    3384 days ago
  • T-RINA88
    TO_BE_FIT .... Thank you very much for the kind words. I will continue to do what needs to be done for myself and my son. I wish I never go to this point of being overweight. But now I can only work and get to a healthy one.


    3384 days ago
  • TO_BE_FIT
    So sorry you had to hear that. I agree that we should love our bodies no matter what size we are. Society has determined what is acceptable as far as our body image and its very sad. But you can almost bet on it that the girl who made the remark doesn't feel very good about herself to even think about saying anything at all she is most likely insecure with herself and trying to make herself feel better, which is so sad in itself.

    Just remember you are doing this for yourself and it doesn't really matter what others think or say. Keep smiling and getting healthy :)
    3384 days ago
  • T-RINA88
    I know ... but that is so hard for me to do.... This is why I need to lose the weight my self confidence is horrible... I care so much of what others say about me.
    3384 days ago
  • TRYINGTOLOSE64
    Ignore them!! If they have to talk about you, it's just jealousy!!
    3384 days ago
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