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Saturday, July 02, 2011

You never know where or when that AHA! moment is going to come! A few days ago, as I tried to pin my daughter down to come to a little BBQ at my house on July 4th, she did what she so often does that drives a commitment, goal oriented person like myself CRAZY!! She said, "I'll see," meaning maybe, or I don't know what I'm doing five minutes from now, and you want me to plan five days from now? Gee, does that make me and my friends who carry around little date book planners in their pocketbooks some kind of scheduling nuts? Is it crazy to keep a calender by my telephone? Is it crazy to plan a grocery shopping order to buy food before you run out of something?
So I figured out that my daughter was commitment phobic, and that the next time she wonders why she can't "find the right guy," or why two engagements fell through, I will try to reveal to her my insight. I hope to put it in such a way as to just get her thinking about it, rather than as an accusation. That may be very difficult, but I will try in the hopes of sheddding some light on her eternal quest.
In the meantime, I still don't know, as of now, Saturday morning, if she and my grandson will be here, or if she is bringing a possible guest with her! I'm not eating over this indecision; just going to continue to clean and straighten up as though guests are coming. What's the worst that can happen? I'll pan fry my small London broil, have some homemade coleslaw that they don't like anyway, cook only one corn on the cob, and enjoy some lite icecream for dessert without them. They will wind up watching fireworks somewhere without me, but that's the part of the plan they actually did plan. So at least my house will be clean and the junk put away. That's a pretty good deal and a goal worth achieving whether anyone shows up, or not. I will enjoy today, tomorrow, and whatever comes on Monday, eat my planned- for holiday foods, and pray God Bless America with my flag hanging on the front door.
I wish all of you a HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY. It's great to be independent, not only as an American, but as a person; free from the control of others. emoticon emoticon emoticon
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  • ACROSONIC
    Ironic if her son turns out to be more like you! She may be putting you off because she's hoping for a "better" offer! I like your plan, you invited, if she shows up fine, if not, you have your own things planned.
    3293 days ago
  • MARSHASTAR
    This is a really great blog. You have expressed a lot of feelings in a very tactful way.
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    3294 days ago
  • JULIEANNCAN
    Happy 4th to you! I can definitely understand your frustration and I think that your attitude is great and the way you are choosing to handle the situation. emoticon
    3295 days ago
  • IMAYARNIE
    AMEN, Patty! I agree with your closing thoughts completely. I hope they do come. It would be nice. I haven't seen fireworks in years. My husband and I always did, but my kids aren't so much on it. Oh, well...i watch them on TV. Of course they're not the same, but they're still pretty.

    Take care, Sweetie,
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    3295 days ago
  • JILL313
    Patty, love your positive attitude and at least you'll enjoy a clean house and a wonderful healthy meal. July 4th is a wonderful holiday to celebrate as we're so fortunate living in a Country with great Freedom. Happy Celebrating!!

    Hugs,

    J
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    3295 days ago
  • JKURJACK1944
    Commitment phobia is one thing, but when your son and daughter in law say they are coming, but show up 4 hours late, that is another. This happens all the time. I still invite them, but don't hold dinner.
    3295 days ago
  • CAM2438
    AMEN!!!!! emoticon
    3296 days ago
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