You never know where or when that AHA! moment is going to come! A few days ago, as I tried to pin my daughter down to come to a little BBQ at my house on July 4th, she did what she so often does that drives a commitment, goal oriented person like myself CRAZY!! She said, "I'll see," meaning maybe, or I don't know what I'm doing five minutes from now, and you want me to plan five days from now? Gee, does that make me and my friends who carry around little date book planners in their pocketbooks some kind of scheduling nuts? Is it crazy to keep a calender by my telephone? Is it crazy to plan a grocery shopping order to buy food before you run out of something?
So I figured out that my daughter was commitment phobic, and that the next time she wonders why she can't "find the right guy," or why two engagements fell through, I will try to reveal to her my insight. I hope to put it in such a way as to just get her thinking about it, rather than as an accusation. That may be very difficult, but I will try in the hopes of sheddding some light on her eternal quest.
In the meantime, I still don't know, as of now, Saturday morning, if she and my grandson will be here, or if she is bringing a possible guest with her! I'm not eating over this indecision; just going to continue to clean and straighten up as though guests are coming. What's the worst that can happen? I'll pan fry my small London broil, have some homemade coleslaw that they don't like anyway, cook only one corn on the cob, and enjoy some lite icecream for dessert without them. They will wind up watching fireworks somewhere without me, but that's the part of the plan they actually did plan. So at least my house will be clean and the junk put away. That's a pretty good deal and a goal worth achieving whether anyone shows up, or not. I will enjoy today, tomorrow, and whatever comes on Monday, eat my planned- for holiday foods, and pray God Bless America with my flag hanging on the front door.
I wish all of you a HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY. It's great to be independent, not only as an American, but as a person; free from the control of others.