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What's better than overeating?

Tuesday, May 03, 2011

Three weeks completed today on SP, entering 4th week. How can the last 3 weeks be over so quickly??? They have flown by and it is time for my weekly blog…..#3 What’s better than overeating?

I read an article, part of which I printed below, this week and said sarcastically “OH PLEEEAAASSSEEE!” because I have read this kind of advice thousands of time in my lifetime….go find a hobby you like doing, etc. but none of it worked.

Then I reread the article and thought maybe the author wasn’t telling me to do another activity rather than eating, but to engage in a new way of thinking that would give me the same satisfaction of eating.. Read part of the article and then continue reading to find out what has worked for me (and might for you to)

“…..If you eat badly, you might resolve to start eating well, but if you're eating burgers and ice-cream to feel comforted, relaxed and happy, trying to replace them with broccoli and carrot juice is like dealing with a leaky bathroom tap by repainting the kitchen. What's required isn't a better diet, but an alternative way to feel comforted and relaxed. “Oliver Burkeman, The Guardian, Saturday 10 October 2009

After three weeks on SP, I have finally found an alternative way to “feel comforted and relaxed”, other than overeating. Wait for it, wait for it……..

RESPECTING MYSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!

Who knew?. Once I decided to respect myself IN ALL AREAS OF MY LIFE, my appetite diminished! Now when I feel overwhelmed with life and stressed out because I can’t possibly do everything that people expect me to instead of eating three sandwiches instead of the one on my nutrition plan, instead of buying a bag of cookies to inhale, instead I now--

STOP and ask myself: “Is this the way you want to be treated?” Seriously if someone else could throw fat balls onto my body (like paint balls but they turn into pounds : - )), I would be fighting them with everything I had sooooooo why would I do it to myself by overeating????

I usually follow this up with the self-talk-questioning about what would improve if I overate right now….a momentary feeling of comfort…..but what would be a LASTING feeling of comfort? And then I know I need to deal with the situation not with food but with words and action.

It is so strange that once I started to respect myself by setting boundaries, other people reacted not by shock and outrage and hurt that I imagined they would, rather they fell in line : - ))) Some are a little confused because they are not used to me setting boundaries but they will have to get used to it…..they’ll have to do their own self-talking! LOL! Mostly though, if you respect yourself others, will to. It’s like a magic pill! LOL! Makes life so much easier.

I read in “The Spark” book on page 3 that Chris Downie found it “was powerful to learn that no matter what happened to me, I could choose how to respond.”

Oftentimes I didn’t think I had a choice of responses. But now I do. I had never considered I was actually punishing myself for not respecting myself enough to believe that I can take care of me and still not harm others. I am so grateful I have found this out now while I can still enjoy the rest of my life.

I am walking taller…..seriously I have even found my posture is straighter now that I have this new found respect.

Followed the Beginner Walking Program this week and have not missed a day!
This week lost 1.2 pounds for a total loss of 8 pounds since joining SP, with 42 to lose before goal.

In the past I have set up a date where I had to lose this much by that date BUT now as long as the scale is going down and I can see the difference in my clothes I know I am on the right path. This is the difference between being on a diet and living a healthy life.

AND I could button up a blouse I could not 3 weeks ago!!!!!!! Amazing!!!!!!! Thank you sweet SP people for all your encouragement these last 3 weeks! Wishing you all a week full of discoveries and success!!!!!!!

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  • THEANALOGKID
    Keep it up Emeeie!
    Every day you keep moving towards your goal is one extra reason to respect yourself. I guess maybe that is the excitement I still feel when I think about how great this journey has been so far. I am feeling better about myself, I guess I probably respect myself (I know I would respect someone else for making the kind of positive changes in their lives that I have made in mine) for staying the course and allowing myself the odd (small) indulgence from time to time.

    Respect, hmm...who knew?

    TAK
    3452 days ago
  • BEEJAY49
    I loved this blog! I especially liked about the paint/fat balls! That is something everyone could think of when they want to start gorging on junk food! You go girl!! HUGS!
    3459 days ago
  • KATIEANN59
    Wow Em,You are awesome!! This article and your blog is so encourageing. I hope someday I will be as grounded as you are. I will certainly be working on it. And emoticon on your 8lb loss. You are such an inspiration to me. I am very proud to have you for a friend. God Bless You!!! Hugggs, Katie
    3460 days ago
  • GLORYBLOGS
    Thanks for this post. Very impactful. I don't think I'll ever forget the paintball analogy. Thanks for that.
    3460 days ago
  • DANCINCAJUN1
    Great blog my friend .... you really have a way with words !!

    Roc
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    3461 days ago
  • TERESANAVARRO
    Thank you for this blog! Self-respect is a very powerful thing. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "Do the thing and you will have the power."

    3461 days ago
  • CANDYGETNFIT2
    WOW, that's terrific, Emeeie! You rate, girl! And to top it off, 8 lb loss! Congratulations! Keep up the good work.

    Thanks so much for sharing that article!
    3462 days ago
  • FORTITUDE101
    I am glad that you are standing tall & have a new found respect for yourself! You are making so much progress! 8 lbs is a great number and its the little, non-weight milestones that matter as well!!!
    3462 days ago
  • 2DANCEAGAIN
    FANTASTIC BLOG EMEEIE! I too am going thru a boundary discovery. You really nailed it!! I started my discovery in alanon and when I read it in the Spark it sunk in a little deeper. You are correct - we teach people how to treat us. If we wont put up with it anymore, they wont do it anymore - it is amazing!!! I'm not standing as tall as you yet, but I've been standing taller and I can actually feel a physical stretch when I do, its very uncomfortable and I have to get used to it again!
    I'm so proud of you and so happy I have you as a spark friend.
    HAPPY 3 WEEK ANNIVERSARY 4/12 BUDDY!
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    3462 days ago
  • KAREN951
    Great post! I can relate to everything you're saying here and I find your success inspiring! Good for you.
    I, too, am trying to set boundaries and make this about taking care of myself but sometimes it's a struggle, you know? So this post really hit home.
    Thanks!
    3462 days ago
  • WHENDERFUL
    What an inspiration you are! It ALL comes from within...you are absolutely correct. Strategies are great, but making the decision to respect yourself can only come from you...

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    3462 days ago
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