31 Days - A Wrap Up - and (maybe) an Eureka Moment? (If so, it's #4)
Monday, January 31, 2011
It has been 9 days since I've posted a blog from this series, thanks to being knocked for a loop by a bad cold and just running out of energy and enthusiam.. So I can't exactly say I've ended this month the way I was hoping to, in terms of results or baby step changes to the way I approach things.
There was some good advice in the Spark calendar over the past 9 days that hopefully anyone who felt the need has been looking at themselves and getting motivation for themselves. These are all great tips:
-make yourself a priority. Take as good care of yourself as you do everyone around you, or prioritize your "to do" list so you get to some things for you, too.
-less is more in terms of goals...don't overwhelm yourself with goals, focus on just a couple and then use your energy towards those couple of things.
-celebrate milestones..again, that's about being a good short term goal setter and then rewarding yourself for reaching those goals, not one of my strengths, but definitely something I know I need to work on
-get the right tools..something I've been thinking about a lot lately and hope to do. I need some 8 lb. weights to do some of my ST with, and I'd also like to add some resistance bands. I think going out and buying new toys gives us as much excitement as it does our kids, so that is high on my list!
-add variety. Definitely a good idea, and doubtless something that would benefit me greatly. If you like to use a piece of cardio equipment, perhaps using a different one or even taking a class or using a video would be fun for a change..
-create your reality. Not so sure about this one. Spark says, "[t]he mind doesn't know the difference between imagined events and reality. Picture success. Try goal-related affirmations each day and your behavior will reflect what you want to be." Honestly, I'm not sure what Spark is trying to tell us here. I seriously doubt it is true that my mind does not know that I've just imagined myself eating well and exercising. Yet, when you think of the tool of visualization, isn't that really what you are doing? Perhaps it's like much of what we are counselled to do, picture it in steps, using short range goals. In other words, picturing success should not mean a 100 lb weight loss, but a successful day in which you got your exercise in and kept your eating under control.
-get back on track. Don't beat yourself up over a slip up, over an occasional day off from exercise or indulgence in something less than healthy for you.. Just forget about it and move on. The best and most successful atheletes don't remember their last game, they just go out and compete the next time. A successful football kicker doesn't remember his last miss; a top baseball closer doesn't remember his last blown save. Each day is another opportunity to go out and compete. Maybe we should think of our journies like that: every day is another opportunity to succeed.
-everything is a choice. You choose to watch TV or walk, to try to eat away your problems or to try to solve them.. So maybe it's time to sit down and write up your list of choices and post it somewhere that it will remind you that you have choices. Can't help but think that if, on my way to the refrigerator, I saw a written reminder of the choices available to me, I might choose some non-food option.. Heck, it's worth a try!
So here we are at Day 31, a day on which Spark congratulates us for working hard all month to make our dreams a reality. There's sort of an interesting perspective floating around in my head right now about this process. It might be some kind of eureka thing, not sure yet.
Here's the question: Is the process a means to an end or, is the end realizing that this is a never ending process? In other words, that there is no "there" to get to, but every day is a just that, a day on the journey that doesn't really end, it just keeps evolving. For instance, once we make daily exercise a "habit," it doesn't end there..we can and should continue to make changes and adjustments so that the habit continues to work for us..increasing the time or intensity of the workout, doing different kinds of exercise, etc. Maybe part of the problem for many of us is that we think there is a "place" to get to, and we keep waiting to get there and feel frustrated that we never do. Maybe we need to adjust our expectations and realize that there is no "there." That what works today might not work tomorrow, and that we must be constantly willing to tweak, to experiment.. Not only would this be great for our outlook, and keep us from feeling like it's an uphill battle (I call it "digging a hole in beach sand," and anyone who has ever tried to do that knows that the harder and faster you dig, the more the sand just keeps rolling back into the hole), but it also keeps it fresh and keeps us from getting bored..
Have a Sparky Day!