31 Days to Unbreakable Resolutions - January 7
Friday, January 07, 2011
Today, Spark tells us to:
Enlist a diverse support system instead of just one buddy. These people should be encouraging or knowledgeable in helpful ways, whether swapping healthy recipes, exercising with enthusiasm, or sharing weight loss tips.
Interesting, but it leads me to at least initially, question what is the difference between yesterday's advice from Spark (tell people what you're doing and they will help you-or not) and today..but now that my brain has had a moment to digest (and wake up, because sometimes, 5:30 am feels a whole lot groggier than other 5:30 am days, and this is one of them), I recognize that this support system being discussed is more about either professional help (personal trainers, nutritionists) or sharing the journey with people who are on it with you. Am I splitting hairs? Perhaps, but every once in a while my legal training kicks in and I think like a lawyer, and I guess you could say that's what this is.
But really, there IS a difference. Of course it's easier to see with the occasional or regular consultation with a professional to help us to stay the course, or even to get on the course. But also, look around you..there are folks in your life that you know that are on the same journey, or trying to be, as you. Could be your best friend, could be a neighbor, could be someone you've befriended at the gym, certainly could be a buddy from here on Spark..and they are a great source of support and comfort.
For me, I do believe that at this point, there is not much I could learn from a nutritionist that I haven't already. That's not arrogance talking, but the result of many years of seeing a nutritionist in years past, and also the product of being a student of this stuff and a reader and the excellent resources available, here on spark and our in the world at large. However, there is definitely something to seeing a nutritionist if you haven't, and here's why: we can read all we want about what's good, what's not, but a nutritionist is able to pinpoint stuff and help you to create a program aimed directly at you personally and your life and your lifestyle. Very worthwhile to take a couple of trips, if you could, to help get you a program to live by, if you never have.
A personal trainer is a different story. I have not gone the route, though it's in my mind and I do believe that it will happen on of these days. My issue with this option is the issue that I wrestle with most: time. It really takes time to be able to go down this road for anything other than a basic consultation, and I don't have it. I have been able to carve out time to work out, and that time is from 6:30 am to about 7, maybe 7:10. That's it. To try to get it done any other time of the day is to set myself up to fail, and I'm not going there. Working out in the morning works for me, it makes me feel good, it feels right, and even on the rare occasion when I do have time at other parts of the day, it is very difficult to get motivated to do it. Not so in the morning, as long as my house is in order, literally and figuratively, I really do bound to the exercise bike... but there is definitely much to be learned from a qualified trainer, if even for a "consult," and I think it will happen sometime this winter.
The final category is the "nonprofessional." But that is certainly a misnomer, because that group represents the greatest source of support. What in the world would I ever do without my sparkbuddies?? Those who are right next to me in this cyberworld community, slogging it out every day. If you do not regularly check in with someone here on spark, you are missiing the greatest asset that this fabulous website has to offer you, honestly. When you find your niche, and how can you not with all the different teams out there, there is no greater feeling of that community of support who really do care about whether you succeed, and you all feed off each other to get that good feeling going and move forward. But it's not confined to just spark, you could get all this in your 3D world, from friends at the gym or track you walk or run on, just from your every day life that are trying to travel the same journey as you.. I have the most wonderful group of friends here on spark, I could go on and on about them, but I also have a couple of well placed friends here in 3D, like my neighbor and friend whose son goes to school with my son and who until recently went to the same gym as I (not that I get to the gym that often, but my membership is so cheap that I keep it, because I LOVE the gym, I just can't get there), and though she does not have the long weight loss road ahead, she is on the journey to health just as I, and we are constantly giving each other good recipes we've found, talking about what works, what doesn't..
You can't really do this alone. Doesn't have to mean you shout from the rooftops that you are doing it (see yesterday's blog, and the responses), but your experience will be totally enhanced by sharing with some well chosen buddies..
Have a Sparky day!