31 Days to Healthier Holidays - December 16
Thursday, December 16, 2010
I really, truly, LOVE today's tip from Spark:
"Stay positive. Everyone makes mistakes, so there will be times when even the most disciplined person overeats or skips a workout. Don’t worry—just get back on track. Staying positive is half the battle." [!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
For anyone not familiar with editorial style, the brackets above mean those exclamation points were not part of the original quotation, but were addded by someone, that someone being me.
Oh my, where to start?? I think that staying positive is absolutely the most important part of this journey, it is what keeps us on track and working towards our goals..I mean really, are you going to work hard at anything you don't think you are going to succeed at?? But it is so HARD to stay positive, so hard not to judge ourselves more harshly than anyone else out there..I know, I know. And the difficulty level increases expotentially with the amount of weight you have to lose, because the journey is that much longer..
I many years ago, someone gave me a kernel of wisdom that has stayed with me, and helped me to navigate the minefield of emotion management during this journey. I can't tell you who told me this, because in my life-long struggle with weight, I have had many, many "coaches" helping me along the way and I honestly don't remember, but I have had no problem remembering the words: losing a lot of weight is going to take a long time. But if you are working hard at it, it will take a fraction of the time to take it off that it did to put it on..
So let's put that into perspective. I have about 100 lbs to lose. I'm 51 years old. If you don't count the many times I've gained and lost weight in my life, what you say is that it took me 51 years to arrive at 100 lbs overweight. If I put my nose to the grindstone, and lose an average of 1 lb per week, I could, theoretically, lose 100 lbs in 2 years.
So even if you take temporary set backs into consideration, and we do all have them and we will all have them and that's just a plain fact of life, or even if our weight loss pace is less than 1 lb/week, it is going to take far less time to take the weight off than it took to put it on. So why, why, beat yourself up if you have a bad meal, day, week? Or if you don't exercise for a day or two? Does it do any good? No. Will it make you lose faster? No. Will it keep you from being human and having a life that sometimes keeps you from getting it done again sometime in the future? No. In fact, if you are an emotional eater, and many of us are, beating yourself up over falling off the wagon will only cause you to eat more!
So..do your best to stay positive and make lemonade out of lemons..learn from the events that led you off the path and try to keep from making the same mistakes, or try to think of strategies to cope better next time. Read the incredible stories of incredible people to find their secrets to success that are all over Sparkpeople. Talk to your Spark Buddies about what's going on, they are an incredible source of support and wonderful advice. Talk to a nutritionist, a counsellor, a trainer, about your personal stumbling blocks.. Just don't give up, don't stop trying, and don't let the negativity win.
And above all, try to put stubborness aside. My goodness, that is so hard for me to do, but sometimes the answer is sitting there, calling out to me, and I just keep ignoring it, hoping it goes away.
It's not easy, but you know what? If you chip away all the peripheral stuff and just get to the core, and try to do it in baby steps, it's probably not that hard..