SP Premium
2,500-3,999 SparkPoints 3,250

in pursuit of real beauty

Thursday, September 02, 2010



p.s. After watching "evolution"...I invite you to watch the short video called "onslaught". It's pretty much right in your face with the messages our young girls are getting about what it means to be a "woman." Let's teach them differently!

Check out:


I came across the link for "Dove's campaign for real beauty." I invite you to take the time to check out the link above. (It is truly eye opening about the messages we receive about womanhood) The videos sparked an avalanche of emotions and feelings...kind've like my own "revolt" against the beauty industry's targeted messages.

So, here's my soapbox sermon. ha!

Ladies, let's not forget that real beauty resides and finds its expression from the heart...

Think about those you consider "beautiful persons".....Are they necessarily "beautiful" by the world's standards on the outside? On close inspection, I think we can all agree that outward physical beauty does not necessarily directly equate with "real beauty."

For instance, We may each be able to recall someone we've met who possessed "cover girl beauty", that also possessed "real beauty".....and yet, I'm sure each of us can also recall women we've met who looked like they could have walked straight off the cover of a magazine, and yet, in their presence we felt nothing of beauty... emanating from their "essence" or "spirit" may have been glaring and unsightly qualities (for example - arrogance, selfishness, impatience, rudeness, etc.)

So, obviously being "cover girl" beautiful isn't the essence of real beauty.

On the other hand, I've met some women who by the world's standard/bias were not outwardly "beautiful"....maybe they didn't have the picture perfect smile, body size, clothing selection, or skin quality ...and yet, because of their genuine, loving, generous, spirit which brought out the best in others, and also demonstrated their own positive self regard ...I would find myself inwardly reflecting thoughts like - "Wow, I am in the presence of a truly beautiful person."

It's something about how they made you feel in their presence -- a sense of warm acceptance, and a feeling of being acknowledged and celebrated......something about their passion and enthusiasm for living and loving, just to name a few examples.

Ladies, let's take care of our bodies in honoring, sensible ways, and yes, it's great to reach for our potential...but let's never forget the most important part of ourselves we need to at least equally care for and watch over is -- our hearts!

I like to think of our hearts as a garden. Each of us has the potential to create something truly beautiful there....but our hearts need frequent tender nurture in order for them to yield theirsweet fragrance and beauty. We need to continually pluck out those inner attitudes (anger, jealously, bitterness, unforgivenes, insecurities, complaining, etc) that are like weeds that leave dark blots on the landscape of our hearts. We need hearts that are continually sprouting the flowers of peace, joy, and love; mental horizons filled with the sunshine of a positive attitudes and a "can do" spirit; we need inner heart motivations that reveal caring spirits, where in our presence others can relax, and feel the gentle, balmy breezes of acceptance and unconditional love.

Let's remember that our worth is not comprised and quantified by our outward 'packaging", i.e. our bodily "shell." Sure, others may succumb to the temptation to mentally "size us up" by our outward appearance, but "first impressions" do not encapsulate the real essence of who we ARE.

The treasure of discovering the real us is unlocked only by those who truly love, and have eyes that choose to see beyond the thin veil of outward "packaging', to look beyond "skin deep" in order to plumb the deep, shimmering treasures of the human heart.

Let's stage an inward revolt against the messages of the beauty and entertainment industry which culturally pressures women to conform to a narrow definition of external, consumerized "beauty", which largely promotes women as "objects" of arousal, and "eye candy".....We are SO MUCH MORE than that!

Let us never forget that the beauty industry advertiser's job is to market discontent....their success in sales is directly tied to the consumer's feeling that who and what they are now is inadequate and lacking. Their advertising ploys foster discontent and insecurity with ourselves...all with the underlying scheme that we will fall for the the trap of believing that there is "beauty for sale". They want us to buy the next dose of "hope in a bottle" (the next supposed youth inducing elixir) in order to feel good about ourselves.

Beauty is not found in an anti-aging serum, or in finding that right makeup, or perfect oufit, or in buying a sleek, new car.
No, beauty comes the hard way.......by developing our inner character, and expressing the real beauty of a loving heart!

Don't get me wrong. I care about my body, but I'm striving to do this in a balanced way.
I'm all for health and fitness and doing the very best with what I've got - but my personal goal is to keep things in balance by remembering that this outward body is destined to eventually fade away, but it is my spirit which is eternal.

Our outward bodies are simply the vehicles for carrying around the real "you" and "me" -- the inside part of us that can only be truly known by getting to know our hearts -- that part of us which can only be known by interacting and listening to eachother's thoughts, feelings, attitudes....and often can be observed in our actions - these are the things that make up "you" and "me". This is where we mine for treasure. This is where the persons true riches and beauty are found.

So, I raise my voice like a trumpet clarion call --Ladies, let's take care of our bodies, and do the best with what we've got....but let's ultimately rise up and celebrate our true beauty! It's all about the HEART!!!

Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    emoticon Blog I couldn't agree more with you.
    3058 days ago
  • DGLRY05
    Amen! "...for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7

    3292 days ago
    How's it go...Beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. I agree with you. I have met a lot of incredably gorgeous people, but I couldn't stand to be around them due to the ugliness of their heart. I have also been around some VERY beautiful girls who by the worlds standards wouldnt be considered so. But we have to rememer, this world is but temperary and so are these bodies. It is our relationship with Jesus Christ that makes the difference. People who don't have God just don't get it. And it is sad that so many so called christians let all of them go.They need God. If we are truly beautiful then we ought to be trying to be diciples like Jesus called us to be. We should be trying to use what God has gifted us with to help others to come into a right relationship with Him.
    Beauty is only skin deep and it can be lost. Character is what matters.
    Thank you for this great blog :)
    3308 days ago
    What a great blog. I agree with you to work on all parts of ourselves but that real beauty comes from the inside out.

    xx emoticon
    3309 days ago
    Thanks so much for such amazing insight! You're incredibly inspiring!
    3312 days ago

    Thanks for the reminder and for being the awesome, beautiful YOU!
    3422 days ago
    I'm all over it!! Spreading the word in my own little world, too. :)

    3427 days ago
    Excellent! It is so true.
    3428 days ago
    Sue, this was a GREAT blog! AMEN! YOu are still among my favourite heroes!

    May today and every day bring to you a ridiculous abundance of whatever you need. May all your concerns, struggles, anxieties and fears fall like ashes as you rise on eagle's wings, SOARING above all that would hinder you along this tremendous adventure of being and becoming all you are created to be. May the grace of God simply "overtake" you moment by moment. May the joy and victory of the risen Lord be yours in a very personal way... may you always be overwhelmed by the grace of God, rather than by the cares of life!

    {{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}

    3432 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.