Muddling through. Some advice needed.
Saturday, August 21, 2010
Just a quick note to let you know that I am managing, although not always well.
I have done quite a bit of shopping at Sam's Club, so we have lots of stuff with which to make quick meals on our George Foreman grill. This simplifies life because I won't have to rush to the grocery store too often, except for fresh stuff. We had one meal out this week, which was the plan, and we made one emergency meal (frozen pizza) on a night I was too tired to cook. The kids have been fairly helpful.
The kids start back to school on the 30th, and I have a number of things I need to do with them before that happens. They are both due for visits to the eye doctor and dentist. My daughter also needs an appointment with an orthodontist. Then, of course, there is supply shopping and clothes shopping. I have to do it as efficiently as possible to find time for exercise.
My husband has been emailing daily and calling weekly. Two weeks down, 24 more to go! Fortunately, we all seem to be coping.
Work is what seems to be adding the most stress to my life right now. I'm worried about my boss. He used to be a nice guy, and fun to work with. Now he is going through something that has made him overbearing, overcontrolling, and tyrannical. I stand up to it as best I can, but it's taking its toll. I don't trust the leadership of my office, so I don't know what to do.
Anything I say to others would be used against him, possibly to force him into retirement, and he wouldn't like that, and he wouldn't take very well to the idea of getting counseling. There is an ever longer list of people in the office I have been forbidden to talk to. Because of his extreme need for control, I am feeling isolated, and I'm working well below the level I'm trained for ( and have worked at over the last few years). Of his staff, I'm the one who is closest to him, so he takes it out on me more so than others. I sometimes ask myself if I am the one who has gone nuts and not him, but I have discussed this with friends who have psych expertise, and they are convinced that it's him and not me.
I don't want to be disloyal to him, but I don't know what to do. Have you ever worked your way out of such a situation successfully? Any advice?