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Big change

Monday, August 09, 2010

For the last 18 years, my husband and I have hardly ever been apart, just a few days here and a few days there.

Tonight I put him on a flight to the Middle East. He is going with a sense of adventure, and he loves his job. He'll be on assignment there for 6 months. At 16 and 13, the kids are old enough to help now. Still, it's a big change.

In general, I am not good at separations, and I am not quite sure how I'll take this yet. It still feels a little unreal. I know it will mean a lot more work for me. I already work full-time, and I'll have all of the home stuff to do too, from cooking to paying the bills, to getting the trash out, to being the parent there for the kids, whatever they need, chauffeuring them around, teaching my daughter to drive, and helping her through her junior year of high school.

It's late now, and I have to get to bed. Hopefully, I'll have a better perspective in the morning.
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    WOW! That is a BIG change. 6 months is a long time. WHen my three kids were young, my hubby had to go on a lot of trips for work but nothing more than 2 weeks at a time. ANd I thought that was rough. I know you will do fantastic, but you will miss him. emoticon
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    Oh WOW!!! That is quite an adjustment! 6 months is going to FLY by! This is a great opportunity to allow your kids to rise to the challenge and step up to the plate! If they can take on some of the burden, your hubby just might come back to a family team more united than ever! You guys can make it through this, and remember that we are always here for the tough nights and cyber snuggles :) Hang in there!!!
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    Hang in there. 6 months will fly by - I promise. I have been there. We've been thru many deployments - sometimes we moved and a couple of weeks later he left.It's devastating to be left somewhere you don't know and then left alone with babies. We survived. And I tell you what, Janet. You will be a stronger woman for it. I thought the first time DH left, I would stay in the fetal position until he returned. But I transformed in one year. I changed. I grew. I read. I found scrapbooking and stamping to fill those weekend nights. I poured myself into activities, and learned that I am a very strong person.

    Not all days were easy, I had tough decisions to make. Esp once we had kids and pets. Mine were babies then. Your kiddos are older, and able to help. The extra work will take their minds off missing their dad so much. You can take time to work on your crafts. All these extra things you do will create a new self conscieouness.(I can't spell!) You will be so proud of yourself, taking care of everything yourself.

    In fact, when DH returned from Iraq after 15 months, I didn't want to hand over all the responsibilites. I liked having control and running the house my way. I still do. I gladly hand over the yard work, but I still do most things my way - and feel stronger for it.

    You will too!
    3768 days ago
    As you say, at 16 and 13 the kids are big enough to help you with the day-to-day chores. Your husband will be at the other end of the Internet line to answer questions and give advice, and you always have your SparkFriends!

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    Wow, that will be a big adjustment, but you're a strong person and you'll make the best of it.

    I'm sure this is difficult for him as well. All of the things that he'll be missing while away can never be replaced. Lucky for you e now have things liike reliable phone service and SKYPE.
    3768 days ago
    It will be different but you can do it! Besides you have 2 children to help you and keep you company. Before you know it the months will fly by.
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