What would you say to a friend...
Thursday, June 24, 2010
This week I had a great disappointment, and I am having trouble shaking it off my mind.
I had a *friend* who turned out not to be a friend. I knew someone who posed as a friend, and sent me many affectionate messages with plenty of *hugs*, and then left me wondering why there were suddenly no more friendly messages. I cared enough to ask if I had inadvertently given offense and I offered to apologize for any possible offense, but I was reassured there was no problem between us. Home and work were in crisis, I was told, but would someday be back to normal, and our communications would resume -- or at least that was implied.
How would you feel when there was no communication between you and this friend over several months? I believed what I was told, and waited patiently for things to get back to normal (whatever that is), and I sent occasional friendly messages that went unanswered, until a few days ago, when I suddenly found out (by omission) that I had been removed as a friend.
As a caring person, what would you have done in this instance? If this happened to you, would you be disappointed? Would you be sad? Would you be mad? Would you want closure, or would you simply move on? Would you be able to just shrug it off and let it go? What would you tell your better self to do after an experience like that?