What Would You Do?
Monday, May 31, 2010
So I was thumbing through my new AARP Magazine (I still can't believe I'm old enough to be eligible to be a member of AARP, but that's a blog for another day) and I read an article about a new feature they will be starting. The feature is to highlight readers' answers to one question:
What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Interesting question, isn't it? I mean, my initial instinct was to say "oh my God, where would I start??" Then I told myself that fear doesn't really keep me from doing many things, practicality does. Then I thought, "is it really practicality, or is that just your excuse?" And man, it is WAY too early in the morning for all this deep thinking, isn't it??
Well, then I thought, I don't know whether it's fear or practicality that keeps me from doing some of the things that would make my "bucket list" if I had to make one right now, which, thankfully, I don't, but that I'll make one anyway, as sort of a blueprint, and see if I can, or will, make any of them happen.
I would hire a personal trainer and once and for all, get this weight off, no more excuses, no more lollygagging around, just DO IT!!
I would find a softball league for women my age and play the game I love so much.
Although in many ways, I have my dream job, I find myself thinking I should be doing more to positively impact the lives of others. I would find a way to do that, whether by changing jobs or, more likely, volunteering more.
So, through that list, which is not long, there is one overriding issue, which I honestly believe is everyone's issue: time. Who has time for all the things they need to do, never mind the things they want to do? I know it is important to make time for yourself, and indeed I do that, but it certainly seems like there is never enough time.. So, is it fear that paralyzes us and keeps us from reaching for those goals we, in our deepest hearts of hearts, aspire to? or is it the more practical issue of not having time?? Funny, I thought that once I started to write this, the answer would be obvious and it would be fear, that fear keeps me from making the time to do the stuff I want to do, but I honestly, from the depth of my heart, don't believe that. I work full time, I keep my house, my husband works a job that is far away and keeps him from helping out with many of the weekday activities we have, plus he works a second job a couple of nights a week.. There is little time. I do carve out some time and have been consistent and selfish (in a good way) with it. So..I've come all the way back to time and practicality..
Perhaps then, the biggest challenge, at least for me, is to find a way to make the time to do the stuff that will fulfill me. But practical Tina is back..and suddenly, much more happy about it. Here's why: I do a good job of managing my time. I would LOVE to have hours a day to go to the gym and work out, I love to work out, but you know what? I get in my 40 minutes a day and I feel good and even if the weight takes longer to come off, if I stick to plan and eat well, it will come off. I LOVE baseball/softball, and would love to be a player as I was so many years ago. But, I am now a mother of a boy who plays, and instead of playing myself, I help to coach his team, I get out there and move around, I teach and try to set an example for him and for all the boys, and ultimately, I am okay with all of that. I would like to volunteer more. Well, I coach my son's baseball team, I serve on the Board of Directors of his league; I help to run the Cub Scout den to which he belongs, and serve on the Board of Directors of his Cub Scout Pack, I volunteer at his school when I can.. I make the time I can and I make the most of it.
Okay, this went from starting out as a blog where I thought some great revelation was going to arise to a realization that sometimes, the best you can do is all you can or should do, and I do do the best I can with what I have. And that's not such a bad thing, is it?
I challenge anyone, though, to answer this question for themselves, because just taking a few moments to think about it might reveal things they don't know, or don't realize, about themselevs and the way they manage their lives:
What would you do if you weren't afraid?