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KUDOS.. from the wrong person. *sigh*

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

This is really bothering me and I feel I need to get out so I can concentrate on my homework for tonight (I am taking summer classes).

So here's the deal..

Long time ago I dated my supervisor, twice, and it did not end well. We tried being friends than HE decided that he didn't want to be friends anymore. Which was fine by me. Good riddance. I still had to deal with him as a supervisor and I was.. until he tried to use his power and was harassing me. Because we dated it was termed sexual harassment.

Anyhow, a couple weeks ago (finals week to be exact) he started texting me out of the blue.. all friendly and stuff. I wanted to be his friend. It would be nice. Right? Than I talked it out with my counselor and she set me right.. nothing would change.. he would still try to do his power plays. If I let it continue and go back to the harasser, I would be in an abusive relationship. Abuse runs in families.. do I want this for my children? NO!

So, we decided to meet even though I already made up my mind. We could not be friends. When we met, he was trying to do the power stuff again. Anyhow, I made it clear that I do not think we should be friends.. I thought it was clear.. how much clearer do you want me to get? I do not think we should be friends.. *sigh* He even made the comment about how there are more fish in the sea.. Well, there are but none as awesome as I am.. haha!

I thought it was all cleared up and BAM! today he started texting me saying, "Looks like you are changing your life. :)" Okay, yes, this is not offensive at all. He is basically saying kudos to me for all the changes I have made. This is an acceptable text from someone that is a friend.. we agreed that we'd be just another person to another.. not even acquaintance.

So.. this just frustrates me. Leave me alone! Seriously.. how mean do I have to be? I. do. not. want. to. your. friend. It sounds so mean and that is just not me. But, the thing is, he put me through a lot grief with the sexual harassment case. It went all the way to the Dean of Students! That is serious stuff.. I just want him to leave me alone.. *sigh* My mom says just ignore his texts and he will get the hint.. first, I feel like I am being rude and second, will he? Ever? Will it get to the point that I need to be mean? Than eventually get a restraining order?
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  • no profile photo NEWYORKORCHIDS
    Text him back this:

    "I have informed you that I don't want to be friends. I have asked you not to contact me. I feel threatened by your actions and will consult with the police should they continue."

    Then, block his number.

    Boys are stupid.
    3807 days ago
    Oh wow. I had this happen too sorta. I wasn't ready to date and neither was he. Then he really ticked me off over a holiday weekend. I asked him in advance if he wanted to do anything and he said he couldn't. Fine. I made other plans and then the holiday weekend.. he gets all bent out of shape when I couldn't do something last minute.

    I lit into him. Stopped replying to his emails, flagged them as spam and the guy just would not give up! I told him I was too busy to have friends and that so un nerved him. He eventually stopped, then started again. I told him I was dating someone and he would have a hard time if I started hanging out w/ a guy friend.


    hang in there.. hopefully he'll really go away!

    3807 days ago
    Ignore his texts.
    3807 days ago
    your Mom is right. Ignore the text messages and if he approaches you just be casually polite & go on your merry way. There is always going to be someone trying to push the envelope, one way or the other. Don't let it get to you. Use the experience to learn a cool diplomatic 'nice' way to brush it off and move on. but do not renew an acquaintance it would be seen to validate his side of the 'story'.
    3807 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/26/2010 9:23:57 AM
    You might ask your cell phone company to block texts from his number. You shouldn't have to see them at all.
    3808 days ago
    I would not have any contact with him at all. Ignore everything. If he continues or he increases his contact efforts, I would then have to do something. Do not meet him...nor text him..or talk to him. You are not being mean. You are being in control of your life. There is a difference.
    3808 days ago
    Hope things go better for you.
    3808 days ago
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