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Changing my life but not hurting others.

Sunday, April 11, 2010

I have found that on this journey, making changes in my life has been difficult. I am lucky enough to have a friend/trainer who is very educated in fitness and nutrition. She is always imparting her wisdom on me and allowing me to do with it what I will.

So currently a bunch of people I know are training for a body building show and I have been surrounded by their nutrition talk. I have heard a lot of negative things about dairy and I asked my trainer and she gave her thoughts on it. I decided to try not having it for two weeks. I am not sure if that choice is right for me but I am seeing how my body feels.

During this girl weekend I was questioned about that and the fact that I try to eat minimal gluten by my best friend . My best friend is naturally very thin and has been feeling down lately because she isn't living a healthy life. She has started to ask me why I eat certain things and other questions about my lifestyle. She just got overwhelmed and I finally turned to her and said. "no one is making you have to live like this, but I am trying to find out what makes me feel good. You have to want to be healthy badly enough. Start with a few changes." I finding that sharing my life doesn't always motivate those that don't really want to change.

I hate feeling like I am making her feel bad by trying to find my nutritional balance. It makes me feel like I am being an unmotivating person. I want to answer her questions honestly. I just didn't like that feeling yesterday.

I know right now that this journey is about me and I can't feel bad for passing on goldfish crackers and pizza because it is making her insecure. At the same time, I need to still feel like a good best friend at the end of the day.
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    3969 days ago
    I understand the feeling you're having. I have been working really hard on living a healthy life and when I went home last weekend to visit my family for Easter my lifestyle was really making my mom feel bad about herself. When we went out to eat and I passed on dessert and ate a low calorie healthy meal it made her feel really bad about the decision she had made and I almost think she got mad at me about it. I hate feeling like people are judging me or frowning on my new healthy lifestyle, but I have to stay true to what is best for me and what I want. Just stick with what you are doing because it is much more important that you are healthy and happy with yourself.
    4024 days ago
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    Everyone has to find there own way on this journey to health. The information can get over whelming but sharing information should not make you feel guilty especially if it was solicited. Don't let this sabotage your efforts. You can be a good friend and still pass on pizza etc.

    Good luck and keep up the great work. emoticon
    4024 days ago
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