TONS of wedding questions and dilemmas.. Help please?
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
As promised in my status, I'm here to blog about the wonderful conversation DF and I had last night about the wedding.
Yesterday while doing some research, I stumbled upon yet another site in our area that I didn't know existed but that I thought would be PERFECT for our recpetion venue. It's the Garden Pavillion at the place (http://thegreenbranch.net/eve
nts.php) and get this, my favorite part, they have a waterfall fireplace in the hall!! How cool is that!? It's a real fireplace that they burn, but in front of it, it has a waterfall cascading down. I am utterly obsessed with fireplaces so this made it so much more special! And the water in front of the fire helps to dissipate any smoky smell. How glorious! It's out kind of in the "country" area and really looks like our style. It's a bit more pricey than I thought we would pay, but DF really really loved it so he's thinking we should definitely go with that and cut back other places if necessary. So I think we're pretty much set on that venue. They have a bridal suite that you can rent the night after your wedding and it's got a huge living area with vaulted ceilings and then in the bedroom area it has a little corner nook with a beautiful vintage dressing table and a chaise lounge. It's really beautiful! I'm getting so excited about the whole wedding now!
As we continued to talk, we were really stumped for center pieces. I saw today where some brides do glass hurricane jars with fish (betas I think) in them and then have a candle on the top of the container somehow and that idea looked really lovely. But the more I think about it, what the heck would I do with a bunch of betas after the wedding!? So after some talking and re-confirming the fact that we will have a completely flowerless wedding, we were thinking some kind of cool fruitbowl-type centerpiece. Then wonderful DF has the idea that we should do Edible Arrangements (www.ediblearrangements.com) for the centerpieces! We would get them dipped in chocolate and then encourage our guests to eat them throughout the night or take them home with them. How cool right?! I already know which ones I want but since I'm at work, I can't access the EA site to find the direct link. I'll try to get it tonight and post. I'm thinking that if they will REALLY work with us, we could find some wicker baskets to use as the bases (with something sanitary in them of course) because I really love wicker baskets and we could paint the baskets to match our theme. Cheesy? I'm not sure yet, but we are SO excited about the edible centerpieces! Please give me feedback if you would think that was tacky at a wedding, though, please! Be honest!!!
So on to more talking and we're also on the same page about photographs. We want someone there to take some photos, but we don't want them there the whole reception, we don't want a big package with actual hard copy photos, and we don't want many of the posed photos at all. Ideally we have someone there to capture the important moments only of the ceremony (me walking down the aisle, our first kiss, and the rings basically) and then that's it. We want a few pictures with each of our families and that's all. At the reception, we're not even sure if we want an actual photographer there or if we want to go with disposable cameras on all the tables and let guests take their own photos or anything fun they see! You can have disposable cameras printed onto CDs instead of actual 4x6's so that's what we would do and then we could share any really awesome photos with our guests through email, etc, or print what we really wanted. Again, any thoughts on the tackiness level of that? Really, though, that is our personality. We aren't lushes at all, we don't enjoy being the center of attention, and if it weren't for the Catholic church telling me we have to get married in the church, we'd elope in a heartbeat to a beach somewhere!
And (I think) the final thing that we talked about was booze. We don't drink. Period. At all. The last drink we had was New Years Eve (half a beer for me, one and a half for him) except for one other night he went out last night and drank because he was so uncomfortable. In any case, not the point. We just don't drink. We don't particularly enjoy being around his family when they drink because they are all, literally, drunks. (Alcoholics go to meetings, drunks don't...) My family drinks but mostly wine and beer. So we're thinking that we will have some bottles of a local wine (Messina Hof) in red, white, blush, etc, either at a central location or located on the tables, and then have a cash bar if we have any liquor at all. We feel like it's our wedding so we don't HAVE to provide liquor for our guests but we know that some of them would really appreciate it. The booze thing also depends on the wedding time. We're not set on a wedding time so if it's a morning or 2pm wedding, clearly we don't need booze, wine would do. But if we have an evening ceremony, I'm thinking people would expect booze. So....cash bar....tacky? Oh and then the whole liability thing for people driving after drinking! The venue we want is kind of far from everything so people would have to drive away and we get VERY nervous about people drinking and driving.
WHY IS WEDDING PLANNING SO HARD?! I honestly never thought we'd have to consider things like 'booze or no booze' before. I guess I just thought weddings planned themselves, even though I've been through planning two of my sisters' weddings. Argh!
Whew, I think that's all we talked about. Well, DF did say he didn't want a mass, just the ceremony, so now I have one sister with no job to do since we were going to ask her to be a Eucharistic Minister. Too bad none of my sisters sing or I'd ask the odd sister out to sing for us! Argh! Guess I'll have to keep thinking on a place for a sister somewhere. We could always do something different with one of DF's sisters, but neither of them are uhm....well poised enough...to have a significant place in the wedding, I don't think. Urgh.
Ok so I know this had nothing to do with SP really, but I've come to rely on my SP friends SO much and I really value each and every one of your opinions!!!