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Stress and Trying to Stay Healthy

Friday, March 05, 2010

My stress level has been on high this last month. My husband lost his job in January, and we are having some issues with unemployment benefits (haven't received any and not sure if we will-long story). I am trying so hard to stay positive and still take care of myself, but it has been hard. My husband made 8 times what I make, and we were tight on money before the job loss. I know we will pull through this, hopefully without killing our credit score (although we have no available credit now so I don't know why that should matter) or losing our home, but it is stressful. I have had two job interviews this week. I am hoping to get both jobs to make enough to at least pay our mortgage and utilities, not to mention feed the kids, bunny, and dog. I start one of the jobs on Monday. I'm going to call about the other today. I will be working from like 8-8, but if we can keep our home, it will be more than worth it. I will be happy to do it. I am thankful that I finished my B.A. when my children went to school because without that I would have no options. I am thankful that I lost 165 pounds because I think I have enough energy to work from a 12 hour day. I am thankful for friends and family that are willing to or have helped me out.

I just want to know how stay motivated when the stress is high and I want that piece of chocolate or whatever. I can manage smaller stress-normal daily stress, but these last few weeks have been hard. I am not sleeping well. I am anxious. I can barely breath some moments. I haven't had much time to work out. I think maybe I need to make working out a priority because I know that helps. I need to cut the sugar because it doesn't help. I am sure this will work itself out but I need to stay the course while it does. Any suggestions?
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    Try reading or doing puzzles (like crosswords) before you go to sleep, while you are lying in bed. It will get your mind on something else. Puzzles that are a little too hard are good, because your mind gets tired and your eyes get sleepy. Best wishes to you.
    3997 days ago
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    Oh Gee-Knee, I am so sorry that you are in this situation, but I know you are a strong woman and will come through all of this. I always believe that things happen for a reason. You are so right in saying that you need to make time for you, if you don't take care of you (your health) you won't be able to take care of others (your family). Any time you need a friend I am as close as a phone call and I will be there. Hugs

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    4016 days ago
    Ohhhh Gee... I am so sorry you're going through such a rough time.... You know what you need to do... you said it yourself in your blog.. avoid sugar (craving trigger) and exercise (endorphins)..

    What can we do to help? You have so many friend here that you have inspired and been there for... now we want to be there for you..

    The only other thing I can think of is to SCHEDULE time for you.. .whether it's exercise.. or a long bath with candles... try to find something EACH WEEK that feeds your spirit... watch funny videos before you go to work.. or inspirational videos.. I started doing that recently to help me get to work with a good attitude.. and it really helped..

    You will survive this.. you are so strong.. you are journeying through a valley.. and to really really enjoy the peaks, you have to make it through the valley.. as my grandpa used to say "do your valley work".. I know this is a hard, stressful time.. but try to stay in the present - doing what you can NOW.. because worrying about the future will only cause more sleepless nights..

    I don't know if you are spiritual person or not.. but one of the things the Bible says that I always cling to in times like these is God's promise to "show up"... "I'll show up and take care of you as I promised and bring you back home. I know what I'm doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for"... it always brings me comfort.. and I hope you find some comfort and have a restful nights sleep.. and count your blessings that you're healthy, you have a super family and a teammate to go through this with.. you WILL get through it!!

    Thinking of you,
    4017 days ago
    My goodness, you are under incredible stress! I am so sorry. As for your health, you have already done the hard work of losing those pounds. They aren't coming back so let that one go. Maybe it's time to maintain for a while and not focus on weightloss. I agree that walking/running is CRITICAL during this stressful time. You need that to get through each day. So whatever you do, make time for that, NO MATTER WHAT. I have a love affair with sugar too and wish I had some words of wisdom for you. I'll be interested ot see what others offer.

    Please know I will keep you and your family in my heart and prayers.

    My husband was out of work several years ago and it put a strain on everything financially, emotionally, physically. But the minute he was employed it was like a huge cloud lifted.

    You'll get through this. I know it. You set your mind to losing 165 lbs. which means you are one focused human being. Just keep investigating all your options and stay one step ahead.

    Again, you are in my heart and prayers!
    4017 days ago
    You have so much on your plate! Time to walk this evening?
    4017 days ago
    I just commented on your page before I read this. It seems we are both going through exactly the same thing. :( I wish we were in the same city right now and could hug, then go for a walk (instead of out to eat, like the olden days! he he). I have no advice, just love.

    ETA: that is so cool that you will make that much - very cool!!!
    4017 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/5/2010 11:25:36 AM
    Oh, sweetpea...I totally feel for you. Had no idea you were shouldering all of this. You are so right about the exercise. The endorphins will definitely keep you in a more positive light.

    And, yes, the sugar is going to really counteract the endorphins...and send you into a tailspin. I, however, totally know the "need to feed" response to stress. The first thing I want to go to is sugar and refined carbs.

    Some other things that might help:

    Up (or add) your B complex vitamins. I just started taking a liquid B formula that is fantastic. I'll try to send you the info.

    I found this link to have some interesting info on dealing with stress through nutrition - http://www.holisticonline.com/stres

    I know you aren't going to have much time on your hands, but I find that a short (15 min.) stretching session before bed, helps me to breathe more deeply and release the problems for the night.

    I have a terrible time shutting my mind off at night, but began to realize that it was counter productive and I always think better first thing in the morning.

    My favorite quote from Elizabeth Gilbert: True wisdom gives the only possible answer at any given moment, and that night, going back to bed was the only possible answer." -

    Hugs...sending you lots of positive vibes....and strength.
    4017 days ago
    Oh... but if I get both jobs then my husband will only have made 2 times (actually a little less than 2xs more like 1.8 and I will have better benefits) what I will be bringing in. That's not as bad.
    4017 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/5/2010 11:59:04 AM
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