Even the way you talk to yourself can be hurtful. Instead of saying "I can't," replace it with "I w
Saturday, September 02, 2006
Even the way you talk to yourself can be hurtful. Instead of saying "I can't," replace it with "I wish." Swap "I'm a failure" with "I didn't succeed this time."
I've noticed since joining SparksPeople that how I speak to myself is hurtful. I wouldn't say nasty things to others, so why am I allowing myself to say nasty things to and about myself? The article suggests swapping nasty comments which hit on me as a person to focusing on the behavior. After eating really well all day, I hit an emotional snag, and then stopped on my way home and got a hot fudge sundae with all of the trimmings. Comfort food. It was after I had eaten it, that the guilt started and the nasty comments followed. I followed SparksPeople advice to have a pep talk with myself, and reminded myself that all I had to do was keep the car on the road and out of the driveway of the ice cream shop. "Drive past the ice cream shop!" became my mantra for this section of the road. I didn't say nasty things to myself this time. I don't need to be hurtful to myself or to others.