If your significant other gained weight, would it bother you???
Tuesday, May 05, 2009
well, my answer is a strong and confident NO! I can say this for sure because he has, but I still find him as sexy as ever. Unfortunately, I can't say that he feels the same way about me and my weight gain - and he's made it clear - abundantly clear! I've told him that I don't feel good about myself. And all I got in return was a swift kick to the emotional department of "to be honest I'm not as attracted to you as I was before you gained this weight, but I still love you and I'm willing to work with you and do what it takes to help you lose it." Of course, I stopped listening after the first half of that sentence and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it since. I was at a loss for words. I'm also an emotional eater, so obviously these words have not helped me. In turn, they have made me completely uncomfortable around the one person I'm supposed to feel most like myself. I feel like hiding... All the time. I not even as heavy as I once was. But I feel like I don't have the support of the one person that matters most to me. If he's not attracted to me, then why should I care about myself?
what to do?