Sometimes, I'm just at my wits end..
Friday, February 13, 2009
Thursdays is Cub Scout day for my son. A couple of Thursday's a month, my son's den meets, and one Thursday a month is the Pack meeting. The two monthly den meetings begin at 6:30 pm, and most Thursdays DH is not home in time to take him to those meetings, so the duty falls to me. It is the most miserable hour of the week for me, by far. My son is a bundle of energy, all the time (Katherine, you might not want to read this!). For the most part, he is able to contain that energy. He does very well in school, he's good in church and Sunday school, and he knows when he's playing sports that if he doesn't listen to his coach and do what he's supposed to, we will simply leave. In every other instance, he has begun to exhibit the self-control one would expect of a child his age.
But for reasons I can't explain, this whole Cub Scout experience is completely out of control. Now, he's not the only one running around and wreaking havoc, but he certainly is one of the 2 or 3 kids that has a hard time just walking back to his seat and listening to the den leader after all the running around when they are called back to have their meeting. And no matter how much I try, and how many times he tells me he is going to behave, it just doesn't seem to happen. He won't listen to me, he speaks out of turn, he is fresh to his fellow scouts, he's a little monster. Now, the thing that baffles me is that this is the only place he behaves like this. I have asked his teacher if he exhibits this kind of behavior in school, she says no. I see him playing sports and this behavior is nowhere to be seen.
I have had conversation after conversation with him about what Cub Scouts is about and how it's supposed to be about learning to be a good citizen and a good person. My husband has done the same. He claims to understand, but then, it just keeps happening. I have seriously considered just pulling him, but I don't know if that's the right thing to do. I mean, he's never going to learn if I just take him away from it. I'm not even sure he's miss it all that much if I did pull him from it..but you know, this is the only activity he has that is aimed at building character, so I"m really torn about taking him from it, even though it certainly does not seem like he's learning anything.
I have thought about talking to the den master. Now, this man is just one of the dads in the group. He's never done it before, and I honestly believe that the behavior begins when the running around chaos happens...I mean, it's 6:30 at night, it's been a long day, and thinking that a bunch of 6 and 7 year olds are just going to calm done on a dime after being allowed to run around this huge room (the meetings are held in a school cafeteria) is probably not the best approach to getting the most out of them at that hour. But, some of the kids are fine, and some are not.
I don't know how to try to have the conversation without making the guy think I think he needs to take more control over what they do. And, make no mistake, I am not making excuses for my son, because NO ONE is harder on him than I. That said, I'm not overbearing or too hard, but I do make him tow the line because he needs a firm hand.
I don't know a lot of things, but what I do know is that I cannot keep watching this, because it is so upsetting to me that it really puts me in a funk for that night and even the next day..and I start yelling at him and it's not healthy or pretty, this much I know.