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Hard life got me down but I'm coming back

Thursday, October 02, 2008

I'm back! It's been a very hard summer. Taking pop in has been a real challenge. His mind is slipping alot faster then I excepted. It's hard to deal with. Then my best friend was dying from a lung disease for the last 3 months. she died sept. 13 2008. i was there holding her hand when she pasted. that made it harder on me. Then on sept. 22 I found out my 23 yr old daughter has MS. I know I have to get my body and health in order or I'm not going to be able to help pop or my daughter. I'm going take it one step at a time. I know it will be hard but with your help and support I know I can make it. Please any info and encouragement is welcome.
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    Wow, sounds like you have a lot going on. Everyone is right you know, take some time to take care of you. Pop in on the DE team and let us know how you're doing and if there's anything we can do to help. We're neighbors, you know!
    4490 days ago
  • PURPLE0906
    Hi, sorry for the hard summer. You really need to concentrate on you. I know it won't be easy, but you can do it. You need to take care of yourself first or you will be no good to others.
    I try to give myself 30 mins a day. If I go longer, better for me.
    I saw your daughters comment and she sounds great. If you need just to talk, email me please.

    Take care and have a great day!

    4492 days ago
    Glad you are back. You need to look after yourself if you want the energy to look after someone else. Sorry you had a bad summer. Take care. Mary :)
    4493 days ago
    Hi Mom,
    You don't have to worry about me I will be fine! I am a strong person so you need to stop thinking of me and everyone else for once and start thinking of you. I have been telling you that I am worried about you for awhile now. So get back on track and make me proud once again I know you can do it we all do :)
    4494 days ago
    I understand what you are going through- I too take care of an elder adult that is not related to me but is like a mother to me. The hardest decision I had to make for the both of us, was that I had to put her into an assisted living situation. It became apparent that it was more than I could handle in my home both emotionally and physically, although I am a registered nurse, and I had to admit my limitations. I wanted so much to care for this person and show my love for her through caring for her as I would one of my own parents. However, the best of intentions, the right choice was to find placement, continue to visit her frequently, and to bring her to my house for frequent visits with her cat and dog and occasion overnights.

    It sounds like your plate is full and becoming overloaded with caring for yourself (yes, you come first... or should come first), your daughter, your grandchildren, and your ex-father-in-law. Maybe it is time to sit down and look at your priorities and see if placement in an assisted living situation might be a good alternative for your ex-father-in-law. Placement does not mean abandonment, but will definitely free up a large amount of your responsibilities. It will give you time to put you back in the top focus because if you are not your top priority and take care of you, what will happen when you start to fail health wise? I notice that you are part of the diabetics team, high blood pressure team, high cholesterol team... that means that you are prone to heart problems, stroke problems, vascular problems in the legs and feet... things that you need to take care of now through weight reduction and careful blood sugar control... both of which you are having trouble with because you are putting everyone else in front of you on the priority list. (I do that too... but we as nurturers need to keep reminding ourselves that we need to take care of ourselves first and foremost).

    They have some new meds for MS that are on the market recently that are proving to be almost a miracle. Get your daughter to a good neurologist. In the meantime, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter...as well as for you and the rest of your family.

    4495 days ago
    When it rains, it truly pours, doesn't it? But trust me, there is always light at the end of the tunnel... even if we cannot see it yet, it is there.
    I'm sure your daughters diagnosis came as a shock but MS is a very managable disease. I just got diagnosed 6 months ago myself. I take my daily injections and feel just fine. MS doesn't rule my life, please tell your daughter not to let it rule hers either. 90% of the progression of the disease is mentally inflicted. If she doesn't keep her spirits up and thinks "oh gosh, how long until I have to sit in a wheelchair", she will end up in one sooner than she can think. Please tell her to live her life to the fullest, I surely am! If she needs someone to talk to, send me a sparkmail and I'll give you my email address.
    4495 days ago
  • BUSYBEE1000
    Hang in there and don't forget about yourself as you help those you love. You sound like a very caring person. Your friends and family are truly blessed to have you in their lives.

    4495 days ago
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