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STRESSED Am I Taking on to much.

Sunday, March 30, 2008

I am so STRESSED out right now I'm in tears. I afraid I'm not ready for this move I'm making. I am moving to a bigger place so my x father-in-law (who is like a father to me) can move in with me. He lives with my x right now but he doesn't take care of him like he should. Pop is 87 yrs young walks with a cane and is coming down with dementia. It's alot to take on and I'm scared I won't be able to handle this fulltime by myself.
I'm doing so well keeping my emotional eating under control I don't want this to push me back to food. Help.
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  • HADYDADUBR
    What a big heart you have. Check out your town to see if you can get some help. Do look after yourself so you will be able to look after your ex's father. If you need someone to vent to, I am here. Mary :)
    4613 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1479887
    What an awesome thing for you to do. I believe the Lord will give you the strength to be able to take care of him & you eat right. The Bible says, "I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me. " I really admire you! You are such an inspiration & I know the Lord will bless you.
    4674 days ago
  • AMYIS200
    What a beautiful thing you're doing. But remember...YOU always come first. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't possibly be strong enough to take care of someone else. Kind of like the protocol on an airplane..if the oxygen masks fall, place one on youeself, and then your child. If you run out of oxygen, you can't help yourself or your child.

    Same thing goes here. Inquire in the state you live in to see what kind of in home care they can provide...most of it should be free...and then plan around what you can do to take care of yourself. Only then, will you be able to give him the care that he needs.

    Good luck to you sweetie!!
    4674 days ago
  • TAKNANGEL
    Hey JC,
    You are following your heart. If you feel you are doing it for the right reasons, then you have a higher source walking beside you on this one. He never allows us to take on more than we can handle. Perhaps you can find some agencies in your neighborhood that might be helpful also. Or maybe a Elderly Community Center that will help keep him occupied so you can get a break in once in a while. Perhaps that could come just through the help of a friend one afternoon a month or so, so you have some you time. This may also be just what you need to get the focus off yourself and turn your attention elsewhere. If you have someone to care for you may not think about eating as often. This may not be something to stress over. This just might be what you need to help you succeed. You will need to be healthy to help care for him and you are on that path now. Journey on my friend to success!!!
    4675 days ago
  • SKINNYNANNY
    my mom is also 87, I want her to come live with me, and she won't yet. I am afraid that she will fall and break another bone before she realizes that she would be better off here. Well, I just want to say that there are support systems you can use to help you. They will send folks to help with showers, medication checkups, they have day programs in some areas, and also... remember you can only do what you can do.
    my mom is in assissted living right now. at the tune of about $4,000 a month. In two years the money will be gone, that is why I want her here now, before things get worse. I admire you, and if you need someone to talk to...please spark mail me!
    skinnynanny
    4675 days ago
  • SHERYE
    Hello JC31KIDS

    Try to take one day at a time, breath and enjoy the time together with your ex's father, he is so lucky to have someone in his life like you that care's enough to worry about him enough to move in with him to take better care of him than his own son. You are taking on a big challenge, but obviously you have thought this threw and decided that you can do this, if you ever need to talk or vent I will be here to listen.

    ((HUGS))............
    ...Sherye
    4675 days ago
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