My List of Give Ups

By , SparkPeople Blogger
Back in January of 2011, I wrote a blog on my SparkPage that ended up being voted a popular blog.  As I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my journey from morbidly obese to healthy, I wanted to share a little bit more about my growing list of "Give Ups.''  Here is an excerpt from last January's blog:

''I was sitting in my imaginary beach chair looking out at my pretend ocean and contemplating life, when I thought about my list of give ups this morning.

Really, this thought stems from a conversation I had a number of months ago with a work colleague. I was routinely giving him friendly harassment about improving his eating habits. I would leave sticky notes on his can of Dr. Pepper and note how many teaspoons of sugar were in it. Yeah, I was bad like that.

Anyway, he responded one day by saying he didn't like all the things you had to give up when you chose a healthy lifestyle. With that in mind, I present a brief list of things that SP has caused me to give up:

After losing 90 lbs, I have given up being afraid of what the doctor will say to me when I go in for a checkup. She calls me her incredible shrinking patient and brags about me to the staff when I see her now.

I have given up half of my pants sizes and switched over from the plus size stores/departments and can now shop in just about any store I want to shop in (including the ones where my teenage daughter loves to shop).

I have successfully given up supporting the soda industry and enjoy drinking water every day.

I've given up watching hours of TV a day and work out with friends at the gym instead. I find this form of social interaction much more stimulating.

I've given up being winded after going up three flights of stairs during a fire drill, to routinely running 5Ks with a running buddy and a growing club of Dallas sparkers!

I've given up ''mom'' jeans for MISS Me jeans and get noticed when I wear them.

I've given up supporting the junk food industry and love my clean eating diet. I realize now that french fries should not be my primary source of vegetables and that they are not my friend.

I've given up feeling alone in my weight loss journey to having tons of friends on SparkPeople who support me on a daily basis.

I've given up a future of potential diseases and immobility for a healthy outlook and the ability to do things for myself. I ditched immobility for loving yoga and Pilates.

So, in the end, do I regret the fact that I buy Runner's World instead of magazines that feature Paula Deen? Do I miss refined sugar, butter, and her favorite ''whipping cream''? No. I realized this morning, as I drank my black coffee (I have successfully given up my addiction to hazelnut coffee creamer), that my tastes have changed, and I'm better for it.

I'm happy to have given up what I had before. I took one small step at a time and worked on SparkPeople day in and day out, and I wouldn't trade that for anything on the list of items that I have given up.''

What I would add to this list now, more than a year later, is the fact that I have given up wondering if I will be able to maintain a healthy lifestyle this time around.  I have given up wondering if I can run a 5K, or if I’ll ever finish a half marathon.  I’ve given up wondering what it would be like to do a mud run, or run a relay race with other sparkers.  I’ve given up wondering if I will have gained a lot of weight the next time I’ll see my doctor.  Essentially, I’ve given up a lot of worrying, and I’ve gained my life back. 

I’ve gained more than I ever gave up in the form of fattening foods and calorie-laden treats.  I’ve gained the ability to LIVE and enjoy my health.  I’ve gained freedom of movement and wonderful support.  I also gained a precious gift when I was in my doctor’s office for a checkup a few weeks ago.  She looked over my chart and my labs, looked at me and said, ''You’re perfect.''  That was worth every step, every change, and every moment of the journey for the last four years. 

What holds you back from giving up your old habits that lead to an unhealthy life?  What was your latest doctor’s appointment like?  Is it one you would like to repeat, or are some changes necessary to make it a positive experience?

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REDROBIN47 11/19/2020
Good information. Thank you. Report
So happy for you and one of these days I will be able to say the same thing Report
LOSER05 7/23/2020
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FATTYGABBY 5/30/2020
I'm not ready to give up my coffee creamer, lol Report
Great honest read. Report
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KOALA_BEAR 5/11/2020
I am planning a fitness room when I get relocated to a different state & new residence, hopefully next month. Meantime I am walking daily, & alternate between doing leg, core & arm exercises from my physical therapist & just began Qi Gong (a type of tai chi) during the past week.
I don't worry about give ups. Instead I focus on positive reports from my Dr's ofc along w/ points from SP for doing my daily moving. I see a full length mirror as a marker of my progress, just like smaller clothes. Report
Mahalo for sharing such a positive perspective. I'm giving up feeling older and less able. Report
LIZZIE138 2/22/2020
Powerful blog! Makes me rethink my habits. Thank you. Report
PATRICIAANN46 1/31/2020
Thank You...………….. Report
KHALIA2 1/28/2020
Great Article! Thanks!! Report
CD24912514 12/25/2019
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That's awesome! Report
I dread getting on the scale when I go for an appointment. Report
Thanks for the reminder. Report
Give up something, gain something else. Report
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This is exactly what I needed to read this morning. I keep feeling so sorry for myself when I contemplate being totally abstinent from sugar............ today I've decided I will start by being totally abstinent from sweets(candies) and chocolate. One step at a time. Thank you for giving me a positive way of thinking about the 'loss'. Report
Thank You so much for taking the time to writing this and sharing you experiences with us!!!!!!! Report
Love this article! Very inspirational! Thank you! Report
Can’t find anything more from her after 2012, it would be nice to know how she is doing Now...... Report
I've given up putting myself down! Report
Absolutely great Report
Wonderful insight Report
I can add alcohol, diet Coke, and cheese to my list. Also portion control. Excellent perspective. Report
I can add alcohol, diet Coke, and cheese to my list. Also portion control. Excellent perspective. Report
Really inspiring. Report
Great blog! Very inspiring. Report
Love it! I'm inspired to make my own list! Thank you! Report
Thank you; so well said! Report
Thank you Report
Even though this is six years old, it is still pertinent. Report
Wonderful blog. Thank you. Report
Excellent article. I have also noticed looking for petite sizes since my size 8 no longer fit. I surprised myself when I was able to fit a size 4 that one of my 10 year old nieces had. Report
Excellent perspective. Report
Very inspiring! Report
Great motivating article Report
Thank-you for this post. It's exactly what I need after my doctor's appointment yesterday. You are an excellent role model. So, today's a new start and, instead of being scared by what the doctor had to say, I choose to be excited about the things I'll be giving up! Report
Mi last doctor's appointment was a follow up with my oncologist. He said that my lipoma is getting smaller and he credits all the healthy changes in my diet and lifestyle. I have to say that it made me really happy to hear that! Report
I nearly didn't finish reading this article because of the 'concern trolling' the author did with her colleague. Fortunately I have a sensible doctor who, after assessing that my blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar levels are good, and that I eat well and exercise, doesn't bicker about losing weight. Report
What a beautiful article!
So motivating! Report
Thank you! I, too, am afraid to go see my doctor. But, I have made the appointment with the goal in mind that I have to lose weight by then. Thank you for your inspiration! Report
Thank you! This was just what I needed to hear this morning. Report
Very inspiring to look ahead and see the rewards that await me. Thanks for the peek..... Report
Thank you so much for sharing. This year I was inspired to honor the Lenten Season by giving up chocolate, soda and white bread. My daughter has joined me by giving up chocolate, cheese and reading Manga (she's an illustrator/artist and is obsessed with anything Manga). This has been a liberating time for us and your article is so appropriate. We gain so much more by giving up things that may be hindering us from being healthy and fulfilled in other areas. You are a great inspiration for all of us on this weight loss journey! Report
While I'm glad that this person is happy with their lifestyle choices, it's completely inappropriate to harass others about their choices. I'm of the opinion that you don't have to give up everything you love to be healthier, I do everything in moderation. I love high fat foods, and running, it doesn't have to be an either/or thing. And everyone is in their own place in their lives, they have different priorities. That doesn't make them wrong and you right, just different. I have never really tried to lose weight before, because it just wasn't that important. Now, it's kind of my hobby, since my kids are grown, I needed something to focus on. And although I was overweight, my doctor never gave me a hard time, if he had, I would probably have gotten a new doctor. Report
This is awesome and inspiring! Thank you! Report
I love this! Hope it's ok if I steal this idea for a blog entry of my own. Don't worry, I'll give credit. :) I just think it's a great thing to look at when you're having a bad day, and not feeling motivated, or when others are trying to derail you with their insecurities, and negativity. Heck, it's great just to really look back at all the good you'e done, whether you have a ways to go still, or have finished the loss part of your journey and are moving to maintenance. Report
Thank you! The article is wonderful and what I needed to hear! Report